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Post by Ximena on Jun 26, 2012 6:45:35 GMT -5
I don't think I'd change being a dev; I would change my realization/understanding of it so. Would have had the courage to date disabled guys, etc.
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Post by Peony on Jun 26, 2012 7:08:28 GMT -5
I always find these postulation questions hard (my perfectionist self wants to say pointless, but I know it's not for everyone), because not being able to compare, I literally can't answer the question correctly. On balance, though, in some ways I find it sad (but understandable) that I was so scared of it (devness, and even disability) for so long. In some ways I probably still am, but not in that panicked, 'deny' way, which I have to say makes parts of life much more pleasant.
In a very selfish, hedonistic way, I would hate to give up the enjoyment being a dev can bring (but I of course say that as a dev who's never actually been with a wheeler).
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2012 19:58:42 GMT -5
Nope, although I do wish I would have dated a disabled guy or two back in the day. I feel very secure in my devness now (thanks to reading Ruth's books - seriously it made a HUGE difference finding out I'm not alone or a freak), but I wasn't until lately. Not that it really matters because I'm married to a wonderful AB guy so no more dating for me.
So, I guess I'm saying if you are still single then don't be afraid to ask out the guys you find attractive.
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Post by lovinglife on Jul 2, 2012 22:19:49 GMT -5
I have personally been hurt so many times before that getting into a relationship really scares me, but I'm the kind of person who wears my heart on my sleeve and I will always listen to my heart before anything else even if it risks getting hurt again.
So sometimes as crazy as it sounds, when I like someone, I will let my guard down and open my heart again. Add this to the dev issues, where the fear of rejection and being judged plays a big part...it is certainly stressful at times.
Would I change if I could? Some days I wish I could just so I don't have to deal with the extra pressure but at the end of the day, I am who I am, so I wouldn't change anything. I just wish society was more open-minded, it would make life for everyone easier for sure.
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Post by Emma on Apr 7, 2014 10:53:36 GMT -5
and another......
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