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Post by lavly on Aug 5, 2012 7:18:20 GMT -5
i dont think she is judging you mate.... i think she is trying to help you out. all the stuff she said, she could have said to me. resntly i was that person ... the person that tryed to find love in all the wrong places. inturn i made my self look like an idiot. i always belived that i could only be happy in a relshaship with a wheeler ... and yet when i start something with a wheeler i feel like im not good enough ... not preaty enough ... not smart enough ... not whatever enough. I END UP FEELING SORRY FOR MY SELF! and therefor i alow my self to be the obgect of pity. "Stop holding yourself up as an object of pity, it is supremely unattractive. It is one of life's great ironies that a person will never be able to attract love or sex by looking as if they are in desperate need of it." - DG so yeah i do the samething. and it is unatractive in me as well, but hey when you want love so bad ... man you cant think about anything else ... it consumes you ... so i hear you ... i get where your coming from... im in the same place ... isnt life ironic ! and hard ... dont be mad at dg ... look at what she is really saying ... post ppl on this board that know me, know that i love me some rumi (old persian poet ) so now i quote lol “If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” ― Rumi but like i said, i have and will do the "wrong" thing from time to time. thats just our souls journey. one more quote ( sorry last one for the night) “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there.” ― Rumi hugs mate ... and hugs devogirl ... i really did need to read what you wrote x ps for all the newbies on the board ... i cant spell for shit ... sorry
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Post by Kid A on Aug 5, 2012 14:39:13 GMT -5
Hey, Lav, love the quotes! I just recently found the second one and it really spoke to me. Btw, I look forward to finally chatting it up with you during next month's book club meeting. I hope you can make it! Red, I would just like to add that the challenges you face are not something that will keep the right girl away. She's out there, but I agree with DG and lavly; the way to that right girl is not through displays of self-pity. I can only speak from my own experience, of course, but I think if you keep putting yourself out there, the chances of the right one being drawn in will inevitably increase. That is the only way for people to get to know you and not necessarily prejudge you, after all. I promise you, love is out there.
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Post by lavly on Aug 5, 2012 17:09:31 GMT -5
i cant wait kid im so sorry we have hijact your thread swagga lol but you have to admite we made it way cooler!! now it has death and pain and all that shit ...
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Post by Kid A on Aug 5, 2012 17:19:39 GMT -5
Don't worry, lav, my beau, swagger, won't mind. Besides, everyone on PD knows the coolest threads get hijacked. It's the highest form of flattery.
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Post by Dee Dee on Aug 5, 2012 18:22:30 GMT -5
I should add also that the ladies posting in this thread have demonstrated an interest in the original poster, who has CP. I'd say I'm more than a little interested, eh, swagger? As for you, red, my advice is to keep putting yourself out there and be positive (in your own thread, of course). This site has completely changed our lives and we couldn't be happier. Awwweee
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Post by lavly on Aug 5, 2012 18:49:27 GMT -5
true that lol
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Post by Kid A on Aug 5, 2012 19:17:21 GMT -5
Thanks, DD! <3
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Post by dystrophian on Aug 6, 2012 1:20:56 GMT -5
I was born with cerebral palsy and have to use a power wheelchair. It can be difficult to understand my speech, but I'm a very content person and have come to some major conclusions about life that affect my outlook on the bigger picture. My ideal match is a friend or companion who is interested in sharing life's greater joys. I'm interested in meeting people who are engaging and can "see" through to the core of a person and recognize the spirit that resides in us all. I don't confuse romance for love. I'm not interested in the dramas of dating. I want to meet other people who are interested in being together as friends or something greater. I invite you to challenge your definitions, reexamine your preconceptions, and suspend your judgments, in the hopes that we might enrich one another in ways that penetrate throughout... and have some fun. *swoons*
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Post by dystrophian on Aug 6, 2012 1:28:43 GMT -5
Devogirl i understand your points but i need to correct you on something I am not looking for sex There is more in a relationship then sex and i admit i was looking for attention I am sorry for that please don't judge me without knowing more about me first My life is hard enough as it is without another person judging me i have 2 degrees in sports management and web design when i was at school and college i was laughed at by girls due to my speech problem i was teased also being called a retard is not a nice thing to hear every day ! i NEVER even went to my school prom i need help to get around and to do daily tasks is very difficult for me I am sorry if i am negative on the board BUT don't judge me before you know me Welcome to crip life, yo. We all have sob stories, you can let them define you, or turn them into something good. Your choice, broseph.
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redstudent
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Post by redstudent on Aug 6, 2012 5:42:27 GMT -5
Thank you everybody for the advice
Sorry DG i Took you some of your comments the wrong way
I will contribute more to the board
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Post by roger888 on Aug 11, 2012 5:32:24 GMT -5
i have 2 degrees in sports management and web design when i was at school and college i was laughed at by girls due to my speech problem i was teased also being called a retard is not a nice thing to hear every day ! i NEVER even went to my school prom i need help to get around and to do daily tasks is very difficult for me I am sorry if i am negative on the board BUT don't judge me before you know me That's the beauty of the net,meet someone by IM first,they get to know you & you can prepare them for the speech thing before they meet you.If they still want to meet you after you tell them,you're on to a winner. With those interests,have you thought about looking for a sport mad,net obsessed babe?There are loads of them out there.Keep the faith,I think your good points give you an excellent chance .
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redstudent
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I'm a adventurous spirit and slowly coming out of my shell if you are interested pm me
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Post by redstudent on Aug 12, 2012 7:06:13 GMT -5
Thanks Roger888
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Post by lavly on Aug 13, 2012 7:03:26 GMT -5
and in some cases the speech thing is a dev moment for some girls ... sooooo you know
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Post by Kid A on Aug 21, 2012 21:50:42 GMT -5
and in some cases the speech thing is a dev moment for some girls ... sooooo you know Totally.
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