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Post by kivic on Jul 29, 2013 22:39:44 GMT -5
In your opinion, how has PD benefited you? Have you gained a better awareness of yourself? Made new friends? Met life partners? Or.....? I'm relatively new, and there seems to be a lot of comradery amongst some of the long-time members; maybe you'd be able to give me a little insight into what keeps bringing you back  |
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Post by Kid A on Jul 29, 2013 23:20:52 GMT -5
In your opinion, how has PD benefited you? Have you gained a better awareness of yourself? Made new friends? Met life partners? Or.....? I'm relatively new, and there seems to be a lot of comradery amongst some of the long-time members; maybe you'd be able to give me a little insight into what keeps bringing you back All of the above. 1) I know "what" I am and there are others just like me. It's made me come to terms with my sexuality, feel more comfortable in my own skin, and ultimately make peace with myself after years of guilt and shame. 2) I have made so many great friends here and hope to continue to make more and get to know the ones with whom I have conversed, even better! Some of the friendships I've forged have proven to be invaluable in terms of having the extra support I needed to achieve everything above and so much more! I truly have grown to love this community, in all of its quirky glory. It is amazing that despite not having met 99.99% of you, I feel so deeply connected with a great deal of those of you who post regularly. 3) Perhaps most importantly, I've met a partner whom I truly love and who knows me exactly as I am - no secrets! It's been so liberating and fulfilling in ways I never thought possible. Our journey continues to unfold and I feel grateful to have a supportive community with whom we can share it. 4) My devness continues to evolve and it's so comforting to know that I'm not alone. I know that I can come here and chat with people who understand what I'm going through and who can provide valuable insight and sagely advice. Beyond all the seriousness, I know I can always be among friends and have a good laugh now and then, which is greatly needed when I start to take life too seriously. I hope you find a lot of this to be true for you too! |
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Jul 29, 2013 23:42:13 GMT -5
I would say all of the above too, except for the life partner one. Tho there was a time when I thought PD had given me one, needless to say that was very beneficial as well, despite the hardships that may have followed. |
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Post by Q on Jul 30, 2013 1:08:10 GMT -5
The banner on PD should say "Para Devo changing lives forever!" I know I'll never be the same again.
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Post by kivic on Jul 30, 2013 8:31:22 GMT -5
In your opinion, how has PD benefited you? Have you gained a better awareness of yourself? Made new friends? Met life partners? Or.....? I'm relatively new, and there seems to be a lot of comradery amongst some of the long-time members; maybe you'd be able to give me a little insight into what keeps bringing you back All of the above. 1) I know "what" I am and there are others just like me. It's made me come to terms with my sexuality, feel more comfortable in my own skin, and ultimately make peace with myself after years of guilt and shame. 2) I have made so many great friends here and hope to continue to make more and get to know the ones with whom I have conversed, even better! Some of the friendships I've forged have proven to be invaluable in terms of having the extra support I needed to achieve everything above and so much more! I truly have grown to love this community, in all of its quirky glory. It is amazing that despite not having met 99.99% of you, I feel so deeply connected with a great deal of those of you who post regularly. 3) Perhaps most importantly, I've met a partner whom I truly love and who knows me exactly as I am - no secrets! It's been so liberating and fulfilling in ways I never thought possible. Our journey continues to unfold and I feel grateful to have a supportive community with whom we can share it. 4) My devness continues to evolve and it's so comforting to know that I'm not alone. I know that I can come here and chat with people who understand what I'm going through and who can provide valuable insight and sagely advice. Beyond all the seriousness, I know I can always be among friends and have a good laugh now and then, which is greatly needed when I start to take life too seriously. I hope you find a lot of this to be true for you too! Thanks for your honest answer 1. Yes, it's definitely in the forefront this coming to terms business. 2. It's an opening, welcoming community if you're honest and real . 3. REALLY happy for you! That's one of the most difficult things to find in life. 4. I'm beginning to understand what you mean by "evolving devness," and one reason for my post. I think this board will benefit you as long as you're willing to be open and honest with yourself and those you interact with |
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Post by Kid A on Jul 30, 2013 10:15:28 GMT -5
Thank you, Kivic, and thank you for your post! I hope your dev journey inspires you to share your own personal insight. I think we'd all benefit from your input. Here's to new friends and story swaps. |
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Post by kivic on Jul 30, 2013 10:53:42 GMT -5
Cheers!
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Post by kivic on Jul 30, 2013 10:56:26 GMT -5
It's nice to hear positives than all the negatives about devotees online...ugh!
Maybe this question should be posted in the "Ask a wheeler" thread.
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Post by Tek on Jul 30, 2013 11:39:25 GMT -5
The people.
I have already met some amazing people on here. And in the short time that I've been on here, The realisation that there are people who are willing to look past the physical aspect of who you are and will give you a chance to show them who you are as a person has been life changing. In contrast there are also the people who look right at the disabilities and embrace it. Two very different types of people who share some very similar interests and i am glad that they exist.
The people with disabilities who are positive in life and love. Especially the ones that can take a joke, and live life to the fullest despite their difficulties.
Reading through over 8 years of topics has already made me realize that a lot of things that I think about have been asked and answered a dozen times or more. I'm also sure that i'll end up finding a post with questions i've never thought about before... and I can't wait to see what the answer is going to be.
I am amazed that there are still people on here that have been active since 2005. It really illustrates that even though there might have been some less-than-desirable people on the board, the overall atmosphere is most definitely positive enough to still attract some of the same people all this time, and a lot of new people every day.
Whatever the future may hold, I've already come to the conclusion that PD has been one of the most positive influences in my life in the last few years... And I hope that I can help in maintaining the positivity and goodness that this board has brought, and pass it on to any other devotee or person with disabilities who has randomly stumbled upon this board in their search for "more", a few years down the line.
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Post by Emma on Jul 30, 2013 11:42:14 GMT -5
This is a little hard to explain but for me its about talking about being a dev. I really feel a need to regularly converse with both devs and disabled guys about my attraction, disability issues, and support others in their dev journey. I have not been able to talk about being a dev with my friends beyond the initial 'so, I'm attracted to amputees' talk so need somewhere to do that. For me being a dev is such a big part of my life and I feel a need to express more than just what is in my thoughts. I'm glad there are others here looking to do the same.
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Post by kivic on Jul 30, 2013 14:11:21 GMT -5
The people. I have already met some amazing people on here. And in the short time that I've been on here, The realisation that there are people who are willing to look past the physical aspect of who you are and will give you a chance to show them who you are as a person has been life changing. In contrast there are also the people who look right at the disabilities and embrace it. Two very different types of people who share some very similar interests and i am glad that they exist. The people with disabilities who are positive in life and love. Especially the ones that can take a joke, and live life to the fullest despite their difficulties. Reading through over 8 years of topics has already made me realize that a lot of things that I think about have been asked and answered a dozen times or more. I'm also sure that i'll end up finding a post with questions i've never thought about before... and I can't wait to see what the answer is going to be. I am amazed that there are still people on here that have been active since 2005. It really illustrates that even though there might have been some less-than-desirable people on the board, the overall atmosphere is most definitely positive enough to still attract some of the same people all this time, and a lot of new people every day. Whatever the future may hold, I've already come to the conclusion that PD has been one of the most positive influences in my life in the last few years... And I hope that I can help in maintaining the positivity and goodness that this board has brought, and pass it on to any other devotee or person with disabilities who has randomly stumbled upon this board in their search for "more", a few years down the line. Your post is very insightful, Tek, and makes me feel really good about PD! You're right, there are pages and pages of threads buried on here, and it will take me a long time to read through the ones that are relevant. I'm so glad I joined |
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Post by kivic on Jul 30, 2013 14:14:24 GMT -5
This is a little hard to explain but for me its about talking about being a dev. I really feel a need to regularly converse with both devs and disabled guys about my attraction, disability issues, and support others in their dev journey. I have not been able to talk about being a dev with my friends beyond the initial 'so, I'm attracted to amputees' talk so need somewhere to do that. For me being a dev is such a big part of my life and I feel a need to express more than just what is in my thoughts. I'm glad there are others here looking to do the same. It truly is hard to explain, I know I agree when you say you're not able to just start up a conversation about your devness. It can make a conversation awkward, to say the least. I definitely joined to be able to share with fellow devs some of my own thoughts and emotions (cuz as women, we're programmed to do that:) ). |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2013 16:12:44 GMT -5
In your opinion, how has PD benefited you? Have you gained a better awareness of yourself? Made new friends? Met life partners? Or.....? I'm relatively new, and there seems to be a lot of comradery amongst some of the long-time members; maybe you'd be able to give me a little insight into what keeps bringing you back The biggest impact this place has had on me is a boost in self confidence. When the pretty girl across the bar smiles in my direction, just the knowledge that there's a remote possibility that attraction might be the motivation behind that smile has given me the confidence to approach those women. Before PD, I wouldn't have had that confidence. So, the women of Madison have you to blame! |
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Post by kivic on Jul 30, 2013 16:49:39 GMT -5
In your opinion, how has PD benefited you? Have you gained a better awareness of yourself? Made new friends? Met life partners? Or.....? I'm relatively new, and there seems to be a lot of comradery amongst some of the long-time members; maybe you'd be able to give me a little insight into what keeps bringing you back The biggest impact this place has had on me is a boost in self confidence. When the pretty girl across the bar smiles in my direction, just the knowledge that there's a remote possibility that attraction might be the motivation behind that smile has given me the confidence to approach those women. Before PD, I wouldn't have had that confidence. So, the women of Madison have you to blame! Look out, ladies!! mrniceguy is coming your way  . Definitely a good reason to be here. |
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Post by Ximena on Jul 30, 2013 17:25:30 GMT -5
For me, it has to be the following: 1) Getting the courage to be honest with my husband about my devness 2) Getting the courage to share my writings, even if it may have "devy" elements or characters with disabilities and not being terrified of being "found out" (etc). 3) Meeting some really great guys who have helped me make my writing more accurate (you know who you are!) and some great girls to be writing buddies with. #1 & #2 really sound so "insignificant," but the truth is that those have opened up so much more in my life. I feel like I don't have to constantly worry about this "horrible" secret overwhelming me at all times. I don't have to worry about "what if my husband puts it together" (I'm married to an able-bodied man). I don't have to hide my writing from him. And most importantly, my creativity spiked enormously because I had the freedom to write WHAT I WANTED regardless of what other people may think. The best part? Sharing my novel (which features a guy with muscular dystrophy) with friends and family and having them not only enjoy the book (and find the guy incredibly sexy) but not even "suspect" I was a dev. And not only that, the fact that I don't even really care if they do. I had one friend, who, after reading my completed novel and hearing some of my other ideas did make a comment: "Why are you so attracted to these weak men?" And I answered flatly - "They're not weak because they have a disability. I think these types of characters are interesting, and very few people write about them - and write about them well - so that's what I am going to do, because that's what I want to do." |
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