Shadowcatt
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Post by Shadowcatt on Oct 26, 2014 23:26:21 GMT -5
I would say most of us would have no problem with a pretty girl talking to us.
Most wheelers I know are super open to talk about our injuries etc
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Post by Dreamer5678 on Oct 27, 2014 1:19:50 GMT -5
Welcome Jaina.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2014 6:27:10 GMT -5
I just want to know your opinion as wheeler guy: What do you feel when a female approach you first on a public place? What kind of discussion you’re not comfortable talk to her in a first meeting? Well, once I've got over the shock of being approached by a woman (which isn't exactly the most common thing I've had happen to me), I'm more than happy to converse with them. I'm never comfortable with giving my life history though, and talking about my condition etc with someone I've just met - that's usually in the second conversation, if there is one! The only times I think I've ever been approached by women have been in pubs/clubs so usually the conversation tends to be alcohol influenced, which probably isn't the best examples of these types of scenarios, but generally I would suggest you just go for it, and see what happens. |
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c67dave
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Post by c67dave on Oct 27, 2014 8:56:02 GMT -5
Hi Jaina,
Welcome. I talk about anything and everything including weather, sports, food, whatever comes to mind until I find we have something in common and take it from there. There is nothing that would make me feel uncomfortable. Good luck catching up to the speedster on the mall.
Dave
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Post by queenjane on Oct 27, 2014 9:56:19 GMT -5
Your questions aren't silly at all, in fact I've lost track of wheelers I've been trying to talk to because they were moving too fast for me, too! Talk about frustrating. Guys, I advise you to slow the heck down if you ever want a dev to catch up to you. Welcome, Jaina, you're lovely  |
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Post by Maurine on Oct 27, 2014 10:29:17 GMT -5
Welcome, Jaina! Just talk to him, he won't bite and unless you don't give it a try, you'll never know what he'd have said. Hopefully you'll meet him again!
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wheelz1979
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Post by wheelz1979 on Oct 27, 2014 11:10:53 GMT -5
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Post by lars on Oct 27, 2014 14:19:28 GMT -5
Welcome to PD!
As others have said already, you've got your looks working for you already, so go for it! You're risking only rejection and you've got everything to win by being brave. That's not a bad deal at all.
As sad and shocking as it is, I'm not approached by endless legions of unknown, attractive women in real life when I go out to do some shopping. Cultural things may also play a part. For example, it took only a one week in USA for me to hear more compliments from strangers about my chair than I've heard in ten years in Finland. I think I might find a random compliment a little bit odd, yet the reaction of a PWD can tell quite a bit if there might be some smooth roads ahead for the both of you. If he receives your approach well, the chances are that he might be done with his mental issues regarding his injury, if it's traumatic in origin. Ultimately, who knows? Only one way to find out.
Happy hunting and let us know how it went!
L
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Post by queenjane on Oct 27, 2014 15:26:10 GMT -5
Guilty. And you have that lovely, cheeky Queen's English to work with. I have only its humble 'Murican bastard. Don't you use the term 'Fancy a quicky?' over there then? If I'd said 'I love yer boat race mate and yer plates of meat ain't bad neever', I concede that I would sound very English indeed, but I was under the impression 'quicky' was a universal term...no...? It sure is, but not the "fancy a" part! |
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Post by JW on Oct 27, 2014 17:20:39 GMT -5
Hi Jaina, Welcome to the board. What devvydowner said earlier was right. If you can have something witty or clever to say to him if you ever see him again, that should work. Especially if you know something about wheelchairs. Women don't usually come up to us on the street to say Hi, so you might want to have something prepared just in case. If you sound like you know what you're talking about when it comes to wheelchairs or persons with disabilities, then you should grab his attention. Good Luck! |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2014 17:23:22 GMT -5
Welcome... I think you should just treat him like a guy that you find attractive...and would like to know more about. It can be rocket science...but it doesn't have to be!
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Post by MotorcycleCrash on Oct 27, 2014 18:14:09 GMT -5
welcome, elusive unicorns are par for the course...all part of maintaining our mythical lure
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Post by mealsonwheels on Oct 27, 2014 19:21:23 GMT -5
Welcome!
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Post by rebel6842 on Oct 27, 2014 23:23:50 GMT -5
First of all Jaina, welcome: As one of the few civilians who has been inside the Indonesian Embassy in DC, I bid you a warm welcome to PD Stateside.
What everyone here is saying is correct, but let me say it simpler: Just be yourself, you are very pretty, and no wheeler in his right mind would turn down a "Hi"! from you. Be brave, and let us know how it goes!
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Post by rebel6842 on Oct 27, 2014 23:29:09 GMT -5
What do you say instead of 'fancy' a quickie then? 'Wanna'? 'Gimme'? 'Let's have'? 'You up for"? What...? All of those work except "gimme." You walk up to a disabled guy and say, "Gimme a quickie," you'll be arrested as a sex predator.  You underestimate some of us, love. There are those of us that love aggressive women and challenges! |
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