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Post by orchid on Nov 1, 2014 14:35:50 GMT -5
That is interesting, orchid, because the reasons why I needed so much time are different to yours. I always knew that I am more attracted to disabled men, although I am not "exclusive". I was always sure. My problem was becoming self-confident enough and comfortable with myself to let that part of me into my real life. If my current efforts will ever lead to a serious relationship remains to be seen.. Hi tina, actually this is partly what I meant when I said about "actually pursuing it" - that is making mentally the transition from realising I was attracted to disabled guys and simply reading that sort of fiction/books to actively seeking it in real life  I just seemed to have had another phase before that where I had to come to terms with my attraction but not in terms of feeling ashamed or anything but in terms of self-awareness. So to understand why I was so interested in disability advocacy or wanted to become a neurosurgeon  I was probably not very clear in my post and I blame the fact that I had had a beer before posting it!
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Post by ruthmadison on Nov 3, 2014 12:46:23 GMT -5
I think you're right!
From the time I learned what a dev was, heard the word, realized it was me...it took another six years before I started dating disabled guys.
And I have found that many disabled guys fail to understand what a challenging experience being a dev is. In my experience, anyway, many expected me to be this sexually liberated, confident girl in control of everything. And I felt the opposite of all those things!
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I just seemed to have had another phase before that where I had to come to terms with my attraction but not in terms of feeling ashamed or anything but in terms of self-awareness. So to understand why I was so interested in disability advocacy or wanted to become a neurosurgeon 
