littlesparkle
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I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Oct 29, 2014 8:16:36 GMT -5
So I've been a little quiet lately as I've been fairly busy with work but a few things have happened since I flung this place.
After Inkdevil's pep talk i finally found the courage to approach this cute quad guy who works in the same office building as me. I've seen him a few times before, bumped into him in the lift but never really dared to do or say much.
So last week we were both waiting for the lift...seemed like it took ages and I was feeling so uncomfortable cos he is really cute andi couldn't even look at him without going red. I wanted to say hi but i was so nervous. So i somehow blurted out that I'm going to be late for a meeting and no one would believe me that it took ages to get the elevator down. He laughed and said to tell my boss to call him and he'll vouch for me. I didn't expect a reaction and i got one.
So as the lift came...i introduced myself and told him which floor i work on. Turns out he works just 2 floors above me. His name is Dan and he's an architect. I couldnt stop looking at his smile, i swear i could hear my heart pounding in my chest.
After this encounter, i felt happy but wierd, almost like a fraud. Lots of incertainty ran through my mind, lots of what ifs. I'm almost scared of how he made me feel so I've been avoiding him all week cos i just dont know what to do next.
This morning, as i parked my car i heard someone call my name. I turned around and it was him. I thought shit what do i do or say. He started wheeling in my direction and said hi. He then asked me if I've been off work cos he hasn't seen me for a week and was worried i may have been kidnapped or something. So he has a sense of humour too, great. So we headed out of the parking lot together and then he bumped into some guy he knew and they started talking. I thought that was my chance to bail, told him i had to go and left. As i was walking away he said "hey, was good to see you. dont work too hard"
Now i dont know what to do. I think I'm over thinking this. Advice anyone? Sorry for the rambling. I just have a million thoughts in my head and now i cant stop thinking about this guy i barely know. What if he's just being nice..i don't know if i should do anything.
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Post by RyooT on Oct 29, 2014 8:47:10 GMT -5
Sounds like there is lots of potential there ;-) Try to relax and try to think up a few lines you could say the next time you bump into him, like (if you don't see him again for a few days) 'This time I thought it was you who'd been kidnapped' or ask him what he's working on. He's obviously interested in some way because he could have just as well ignored you. How many other guys in your building make the effort to be nice to you? It might have taken him a bit of getting over himself to actually call out to you, too. So just try to be yourself and go with the flow - mention things you like, coffee/tea/whatever for example, that might prompt him to take initiative in some way.
Just don't be afraid of whether or not this may go anywhere. Take it as a good opportunity to practice your flirting skills and enjoy the dev tingles while you can!
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Oct 29, 2014 9:19:36 GMT -5
What Ryoot said.
But I also want you to know that it's pretty common (I think-other devs can chime in) to be kinda overwhelmed by your first PWD potential romantic partner encounter. So, know that this is kinda normal.
And do try to relax and enjoy it. It sounds sooo fun. I hope, whatever happens, that this is a great experience for you. Sounds like it could be. :-)
I also offer a restrained squeeee!
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Post by Maurine on Oct 29, 2014 9:46:41 GMT -5
That sounds great! You're so lucky to meet a cute guy with a disability you're attracted so just by chance in your everyday life. (Did you meet your ex IRL, too?) I know it's awkward to blush in front of him. But don't avoid him - you don't want him to believe that you don't like him, do you? And if you don't give it a try and get to know him better, you'll never know what would have happened. It would bother me forever. From what you are saying, he seems to be interested in you. Even if it isn't going anywhere, it's still better to give it a try and find out. This is a fantastic opportunity. Chances to get to know a cute wheeler in your vicinity and be able to talk to him on a regular basis are slim. Don't let this opportunity slip!
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Post by Emma on Oct 29, 2014 16:00:41 GMT -5
Your story sounds like the beginning of one of the stories on the fiction blog! I know all about the heart pounding in your ears. I say just do you best to ignore that and try your hardest to run into him and get to know him. He clearly seems interested in you. Maybe if you think of some things to say ahead of time you will avoid the awkward clamming up that happens. It's so hard to find cute disabled guys in your everyday life, this is possibly a devs girls dream come true!
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Oct 29, 2014 16:33:25 GMT -5
Now that you've told us, you're contractually obligated to keep us informed. Also, promise us that if he turns out to be one of those nice guy/assholes Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde types you'll dump his ass with a quickness. And not stay with him because you're afraid you'll never meet another cute wheeler dude. Love, The Rain on this Parade
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Post by faith on Oct 30, 2014 0:03:05 GMT -5
I am excited for you! I feel like I am at the beginning of a sweet story, can't wait to hear when you run into him next! He wouldn't have called you out with your name had he not taken notice... remembered and then took the effort to say something. Seriously, how many people do you meet and hear their name but can't remember it 10 minutes later, much less a week. He's interested!
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Oct 30, 2014 5:00:19 GMT -5
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Post by Dee Dee on Oct 30, 2014 5:00:19 GMT -5
Goodness gracious, I know a super cute quad guy who is an architect!
How many of these ARE there in the world?
I agree with the others: go for it!
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littlesparkle
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I love a man on wheels...
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Oct 30, 2014 6:58:06 GMT -5
Post by littlesparkle on Oct 30, 2014 6:58:06 GMT -5
Thanks for all your support, doesn't make me feel any less nervous though about the whole situation. Everything that happened is kinda hazy, I can't even remember what he said to me in the lift after I introduced myself last week! if that makes any sense, holding a conversation is gonna take hard work. It wasn't like that with my ex, we were friends, we worked together, I was comfortable, it wasn't love at first sight kinda of feeling. It just slowly happened. I've dated before but I've never felt this nervous before. This time it feels different and we've barely exchanged any words...
Driving to work today my mind was in overdrive, I kept thinking of things that I'd say to him if I saw him again. I even spent some extra time getting ready this morning trying to look cute in case I do see him. But I didn't see him, part of me was a bit sad and disappointed, but part of me was relieved too. The day went by really slowly. But I saw his car when I left work, his parking space is just a row away from mine, not hard to miss since there isn't a lot of disabled parking around.
I sat in my car for a bit thinking, I thought about leaving him a note with my number on his windscreen but then I thought he probably won't be able to reach it and he'll be stuck with a note on his car! I thought about waiting a bit in case I see him and I could say hi but then I thought it would probably look really bad, he might think I'm some crazy stalker, so I eventually left feeling a little deflated. Maybe he has a girlfriend already and I'm setting myself up for a disaster.
Sorry ladies, no real progress here, but I'll let you know if anything else happens.
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Post by BA on Oct 30, 2014 19:57:39 GMT -5
If he initiated conversation with you, he's likely interested. I understand the beating heart, red face, dry mouth and words caught in my throat. I have been told the shyness can seem like we are playing a bit 'hard to get. This, in itself can stir a guys' interest all the more. If he continues to approach, it's a great sign. He's confident and comfortable with himself. His greatest wish at that point will be to chat you up and get you to laugh, smile and maybe relax. Can you please offer him that chance?
xxxxxx
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whisperingpines
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Nov 6, 2014 12:52:59 GMT -5
Post by whisperingpines on Nov 6, 2014 12:52:59 GMT -5
I think leaving your number is a great idea! Just leave a post-it with your number on it (plus something cute) on the window of his car door? He can reach it well from there
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littlesparkle
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I love a man on wheels...
Posts: 48
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by littlesparkle on Nov 8, 2014 9:30:58 GMT -5
So I got some news, we're meeting up for lunch on Sunday One of the girls I work with is moving away so we all met up at this bar close to my office for some farewell drinks. Well he was there with his friends. I hadn't seen him at all since last time so it was a real surprise. He had his back to the door so he didn't see me walk in but as I walked past, I kinda tapped him on the shoulder and said hi. We didn't get to talk much as my friends were already waiting for me so I left it at that. After a few hrs I was getting tired so I decided to leave but then I saw he was still there but this time only one of his friends was with him. It took me about 15 mins of indecision but I went up and said hi again. I figured it's now or never. He asked me if I wanted something to drink, of course I said yes LOL. So I ended up staying for one more drink but I decided to just have some coke instead cos I had to drive back and we got to chat a bit. Then as I was leaving, he asked if I was interested in meeting up for lunch sometimes. My mind literally went blank, I didn't expect that at all, so I didn't know what to say. I kinda blurted out "sure". He had the biggest smile on his face and he was like "great! well I can give you my number and we can figure something out"...inside I was screaming "OMG, is this really happening"...but as I searched my bag which felt like an eternity, I realized I left my phone in my car, so I ended up giving him my number instead. He probably thinks I'm a real dork. I think I was literally on cloud nine from then on cos I don't even remember how I got home that night. Next morning I got a text from him saying "Hi, it's Dan. It was great seeing you last night." Anyway so we've been texting a bit since, he's working away from the office at the moment which explains why I haven't been seeing him. But today he called me and asked if I'd like to go to lunch on Sunday. He says he found this cool little place in the city and he wants to try it out. Of course I said yes, I don't really care where we go to be honest. So now I'm super nervous. I can't believe it's actually happening. I don't want to get too excited but I can't help it, I'm smiling from ear to ear.
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Nov 8, 2014 10:36:47 GMT -5
Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 8, 2014 10:36:47 GMT -5
Squeee!
Also, I'm so proud of you for taking initiative. Woot!
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whisperingpines
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Nov 8, 2014 12:54:14 GMT -5
Post by whisperingpines on Nov 8, 2014 12:54:14 GMT -5
This is so cool!!!
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Post by Emma on Nov 8, 2014 13:39:38 GMT -5
This is really like a story on the blog! What I also like is it seems like he is a normal dude, I mean he asked you out and was able to read your signals that you were interested. Sociallly normal is always a plus I'm so happy that you got the courage to say hi again. Have fun on your lunch date! Oh and since you mentioned it in Inkys other thread - I highly recommend telling him fairly early on that part of your attraction to him has to do with his disability. YOu don't need to go into all the details, use the word dev, talk about PD but bring it up casually early on in the relationship is WAY easier than doing it 6 months, a year or whatever into the relationship. This has been discussed a lot before and most people have felt that the longer you wait the more guilty you feel that you have deceived him.
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