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Post by Maurine on Jan 27, 2015 11:15:37 GMT -5
Are there any characteristics that can occur in ABs that trigger your devness? As an example, I'm extremely turned on by scars and leg/arm casts in a devvy way.
Do any of your AB (ex) partners behave in a way or have characteristics which are devvy to you? Did it directly influence your choice of partners? Or did you only notice it several months into the relationship?
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Post by kivic on Jan 27, 2015 12:03:50 GMT -5
Sensitivity was huge for me and his ability to be able to read me and sense the times when I needed him to reaffirm his attraction to me. Hearing the stories of sports injuries, motor vehicle accident injuries, it all played into my attraction to my AB partner from the very beginning and it continues to be a strong attraction for me. He's a bit of an adrenaline junkie and, thus, continues to injury himself which in turn continues to fuel my fire. I also think his posture and how he sits reminds me in many ways of a PWD. His vulnerability when he sleeps or just his vulnerability to me in general and how he was able to give himself to me, even more than I could to him at first, is a huge turn on.
I am also really, very attracted to casts. It's the "immobility" of it, but with casting, the bigger the better.
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Post by kat on Jan 27, 2015 13:05:35 GMT -5
His vulnerability when he sleeps or just his vulnerability to me in general and how he was able to give himself to me, even more than I could to him at first, is a huge turn on. Yes, this. Vulnerability in AB guys absolutely triggers dev feelings for me. Same with old injuries and scars. One of my guilty pleasure movies growing up was "Bend It Like Beckham," and when Jonathan Rhys Meyers' character showed the MC his old football injury scar, I lost it.
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Post by Maurine on Jan 27, 2015 13:57:54 GMT -5
One of my guilty pleasure movies growing up was "Bend It Like Beckham," and when Jonathan Rhys Meyers' character showed the MC his old football injury scar, I lost it. Haha, me too!
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Post by Clair deLune on Jan 27, 2015 14:32:33 GMT -5
I will raise my hand for scars and old injuries as well.
When I was a teenager the tortured-soul-type sorta hit the same spot as my dev feelings, but BELIEVE ME I have grown out of that!
My AB partner stutters, although not too often anymore, and that for sure gives me dev feelings.
Also as a kid I was very into braces and any other type of orthodontic stuff. My partner had those when we met, and that pushed my dev buttons as well. Which is weird, but very true. I think I even told him so at the time.
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Post by LaMara on Jan 27, 2015 15:45:20 GMT -5
Scars, most definitely. Truly like them! But I admit, even in another post I saw this all "disability unrelated stuff that push your dev button" thing and I struggle understanding it... there are some features in men that push some other, very different buttons, stuff that I find attractive but I perceive as separated from my attraction to certain disabilities... Maybe I simply have a different way to label things inside my head
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Post by Emma on Jan 27, 2015 17:47:33 GMT -5
I had a memorable devy moment with an AB ex when he injured his knee and it was in a brace to immobilize it.
I also kinda find glasses devy as well as orthodontic braces or other minor physical injuries. I kinda liked those things when I was with AB guys but for me it wasn't enough.
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Post by tabby on Jan 27, 2015 18:02:38 GMT -5
Yes scars, so yes the glasses, I dated a couple of guys with dyslexia and struggled to read but were on master degree courses. it was hard for then but they found a way. Also, I dated a guy who had lost his father when he was young and I am pretty sure that hit my Dev side. I kind of like it sometimes when they're sick with a cold. Not the grumpy type but the cute wanting cuddles type of cold.
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Post by eva on Jan 28, 2015 3:57:23 GMT -5
Crutches and casts do it for me too. I've actually been turned on by someone when he used them after an operation, and my attraction wore off once he didn't need them anymore (we're still great friends). Of course, it's not the real thing. I love vulnerability but it doesn't turn on my dev buttons if he's AB. It has to be physically related. Something I always do in the beginning of a relationship is fantasize about my AB boyfriend in a wc. I just can't help it. Always. I think our dev fantasies can be pretty powerful and I can get more turned on in certain positions if I imagine he's paralyzed. I daydream a lot too but it doesn't last further into the RS, and when my dev highs kick in, I need my dose of lit/erotica/movies.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2015 17:18:44 GMT -5
That made me curious Lamara, what "features" are you talking about? Scars, most definitely. Truly like them! But I admit, even in another post I saw this all "disability unrelated stuff that push your dev button" thing and I struggle understanding it... there are some features in men that push some other, very different buttons, stuff that I find attractive but I perceive as separated from my attraction to certain disabilities... Maybe I simply have a different way to label things inside my head
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Post by LaMara on Jan 28, 2015 17:27:18 GMT -5
That made me curious Lamara, what "features" are you talking about? Completely unrelated to disability. Ginger hair and freckles, for example, or tattoos. Also, big guys that look mean but are softies inside Things that many of other girls mentioned, like casts, glasses etc. are kind of indifferent to me, but I have to say, scars really play the trick: it's devvy and not devvy at the same time... but I think it's the only thing. When I was a kid, I used to like cartoon characters that looked "monstrous" and dangerous, but good inside, and that feeling was somehow devvy to me, but I grew out of it, I guess.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2015 17:41:48 GMT -5
I guess I am a "sucker" for the tortured soul...I have some suspicions as to why I am that way (pertaining to my own childhood)...and now that I think about it, one of the first couple of times I "hung" out with my husband, we were not dating yet, just friends and he spilled his guts while we were sitting in a McDonalds. I was super surprised because he was and still is a quiet kind of guy and there he was going on and on and telling me about his life and where he was from and how his life was and I remember sitting there like "Wow, he is cute!"... Other than that, I am into casts, crutches or any kind of orthopedic braces on able bodied guys. My husband has had four ankle surgeries and when he had those I never hated it but at that time I didn't know about my feelings yet I just somehow liked him in that way and we probably had a lot of sex during that time...when I first told him about finding it hot when he was on crutches and stuff he laughed and said "If I would have known that you enjoyed that, I wouldn't have hated it that much"...nowadays we joke around when he has problems again with his ankle and I tell him that he needs to go to the doctor and should have another surgery... As for non-health related dev triggers I guess it is a guy who can be vulnerable and still manly, I don't like machos and guys who think they are irresistible. If they are, they need to be immobilized a little, verbally and physically... Oh yeah, I just had a picture developed where my husband and I are in a hotel room on a weekend getaway a few months ago and he sits in the arm chair in the hotel room and I sit on the arm rest of the chair and am leaning kind of down and over him, I like that picture because it triggers that "wheelchair" fantasy...
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Post by alexa2010 on Jan 29, 2015 1:54:52 GMT -5
I can relate to that dani. The "tortured soul" is for sure a trigger for my dev feelings as well as a stutter. I don't feel anything if someone uses crutches because he broke a leg or had a knee surgery or something like that. That does nothing to me.
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Post by devorah on Aug 23, 2017 11:02:42 GMT -5
My partner put on 'sympathy' weight with each of my six pregnancies, so he has what I privately like to imagine as a 'quad belly'. It's big. And I love that thing. I hate mine, however, so when he compares, I get SERIOUSLY upset. ( It's not the same thing - I want mine gone. I want his, period. Anyhow, he isn't even TRYING to lose his, whereas I'm constantly hiking, swimming laps, doing yoga, etc to try to lose the weight.) He also inherited (genetics) horrible legs: the big ropey veins, big dark splotches from poor circulation. It's... Oh, okay - it's interesting and appealing to my dev. I would only wish it gone because it bothers him. But mostly I love anything unique and different about the body, so it's fascinating and welcome, IMHO, and I rub legs with his, all the time. Not a drawback, to me. He has no idea how good he has it. A girl who loves his belly and genetic abnormalities? If he only knew...!
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