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Post by kivic on Mar 29, 2015 18:59:27 GMT -5
No and I don't expect to. What I have found are fellow devs that share similar views and are sympathetic. They're there when you need to talk and offer good advice. I'm not looking for a dev twin, I think that's significantly hard to find. If I can find a path to/through my devness and have a few friends I can rely on, I'm content with that.
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Post by AlrightyAphrodite on Mar 29, 2015 22:04:48 GMT -5
I don't have an exact dev twin, but many girls here have posted something that I feel like could have been taken from my own head. In some ways it's like scary, it's so alike. Inigos classic stillness post did that for me. It was like, for a long time I did not think anyone else felt this way so to see something that perfectly described my experience set down in words was awesome and even a little eerie at first.
No one asked this, but my personal feeling on any sort of kink is that it's some kind of hardwire in the brain that gets switched on somehow and then is modified by experience. So when I see a dev from a different country with totally different experiences post something that shows that, on that issue at least, we think exactly alike to me it must be either some kind of hardwire or the collective conscious.
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Post by Emma on Mar 29, 2015 22:54:05 GMT -5
Back in my yahoo group days there was a dev who had very similar disability preferences to me. I loved talking about what we liked about certain guys and what was less attractive to us. Sadly I lost touch with her when she disappeared from the dev scene after being burned really badly by a faker. I still have my fingers crossed that she will show up here some day. I also know a male dev who has very similar interests as me. Strangely enough I've actually met quite a few male devs who share my interests. Here on PD things are different. I often feel like the odd one out and get strangely excited when someone casually mentions that amputees are one of the disabilities they are attracted to. I am however more than grateful to have women to talk with about my devness. I've been shocked at how similar we are in so many things despite having very different disability preferences.
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Post by Maurine on Mar 30, 2015 4:09:27 GMT -5
Not a dev twin, but a whole range of devs are attracted to very similar attributes as I am. At least some aspects of Devs Only posts ring familiar to me at a regular base.
There are aspects of my devness I have only hinted at on here, and I assume the same applies to many other devs, so who knows, maybe I even share the deeper nature of my devness with others.
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Post by Valkyrja on Apr 16, 2015 14:34:28 GMT -5
I've found dev friends that we share very similar "likings" but I think we are not "dev twins"
But then, I agree with Emm too about how similar we can be despite the differences in those "likings"
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Post by Clair deLune on Apr 19, 2015 19:34:36 GMT -5
Am I the only one who has a dev twin?
He's a guy, so he won't be seen or heard of on this board, but my friendship with him is a big part of what made me as comfortable with myself as I am now.
He's not my twin in any other way - its not a "omg we're like the SAME PERSON" situation, but since there is (now) a term "dev twin" I will say we definitely are. His stories of discovering his dev side as he grew up, the secrecy, the shame, the ferocious quest for knowledge and the underlying need to keep it all under wraps for fear someone might figure him out, they all echoed mine so exactly. Daydreaming about injuries that would require the use of mobility aids when we were too young to differentiate between a permanent disability and an injury. Fear of becoming disabled ourselves, or, worse, being mistaken for being disabled when playing around with mobility equipment. Making up stories in our heads about our favorite characters and interacting with them - all with a disability slant. Creating, in our imagination, a disabled friend (because we were too young to be thinking boyfriend/girlfriend) who opens up new worlds to us, teaching us to do something disabled people don't stereotypically do like rock climbing or hiking or something else adventurous and active. The discovery of masturbation and the linking it, belatedly, to these daydreams. The horror when we got online and found out what a devotee was.
So yes, I definitely have a dev twin. I probably have many dev siblings - I feel like these things are so common here on PD that maybe many of us can say the exact same thing, but this friend in particular shares my wide and varied attraction. I am an SCI dev, yes, mostly because I had a decent amount of SCI fiction available to me growing up so I had that to build on, but there really isn't anything out there I'd shake my head and say "nope, not interested in that" to. It kind of surprised me to find, here on PD, so many devs who were so specific in their interests, because I am not like that at all.
Anyone else out there share this wide range? Do I have other twins out there?
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greenbean
Full Member
That's not me, just a chick with a pigeon poopin on her head.
Posts: 219
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: In a relationship
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Post by greenbean on Apr 20, 2015 0:52:26 GMT -5
I met someone who was my twin in so many ways. We both worked with developmentally delayed kids before getting our undergrads, we are both nurses, and we both like guys with CP with spine injuries coming in at a close second. To cap off the creepiness we're from the same city. We never really talked about cp in as much detail as I might have liked, but it was evident when we did that we were coming from a very similar place.
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