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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Jun 25, 2015 3:41:50 GMT -5
Pretty sure the first time it happens my trigger would be just touching there leg ( with permision of course lol * This line of paraxdreamer's post in the thread "finding other disabilities attractive when you didn't before" made me want to share my own first "trigger" experience, but I didn't want to hijack the thread again and then I thought it would be interesting to know what everyone else's first time touching or having physical contact with a PWD was like. This isn't supposed to be about sex, as the title may suggest (although you're free to share that, too, if you like), but more about maybe your first meeting and - what came to my own mind by reading the post - the first time you ever *touched* a PWD or a PWD's body part of your desire. Who was it? When was it? Under what circumstances did it happen? How did it make you feel? Do you still think about it? Do you, in retrospect, think it was a huge deal (also in regard of your development as a dev) or was it just meh? Would you rather have it happen a different way now? You can write about your very first time at all or the first time with your current partner, if that makes any difference to you. I'll start... I almost fainted when I touched his hands for the very first time. It was the first physical contact we had except for a kiss on the cheek we exchanged to say hi. It wasn't in a sexual way at all - we'd known each other for about 30 minutes - but is now one of my deviest memories. We were about to go out and he wanted to take his jacket with him, so he asked me to put it on his lap, hands above it (for better understanding: he's a C4 quad paralyzed from the shoulders down, so no arm movement whatsoever). I folded the jacket and had to lift his hands (that are always held together at the wrists by two sweatbands that are sewed to one another, so they don't fall off his lap when he's in his manual chair, which is super devy to me to start with) to put it under them. Nervous me didn't even know how to grab both his hands at the same time with my one free hand, but when I went under them and lifted them... Something happened inside me that hasn't gone away ever since. The feeling of his soft, silent hands was overwhelming and me having to have to move them for him was very devy. They were heavier than I'd expected and the stillness and how they were moved by my own was breathtaking. They felt amazing. Because I didn't exactly know what I was doing and how to do it as it was the very first time, I needed a few more seconds, but honestly, I didn't want to let go off his hands and that moment. I'm not even sure if I took a little longer because I needed to or because I wanted to. It was magical, amazing, fascinating... It's still one of my favorite memories and I think it will always be - touching his quad hands for the very first time. Funny thing is I used to be a para dev and dislike quad hands. Now they're probably my favorite feature of his body. Looking forward to read from your experiences!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 25, 2015 4:45:29 GMT -5
I love this question! For me, it took a little time. My SO and I started out somewhat slowly, as far as our physical relationship. It was the first time we kissed. I just naturally put my hands on his push rims, which he found pretty hot apprently, because he pulled me into his lap instead. Sitting on his lap and being kissed by him pushed all my dev buttons at once. I think it was largely due in part to my strong desire for him - not just any para, but him. Of course, it wasn't the most comfortable with his bony knees digging into my bony white girl ass, but it put my dev-self on cloud nine - especially when his leg spasmed. My most memorable moment though is our first time having sex. It was a fulfilling experience, for my whole self, not just the dev part of me. It's cheesy, but everything just made sense at that point, lol.
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Post by Maurine on Jun 25, 2015 5:33:05 GMT -5
Very nice topic and beautifully written I also have a very fond and intense memory of my "first touch". I got off the train to the first date with my boyfriend and he was waiting for me at the station with his hand-cycle. We kissed, which lasted for several magical moments, but the first touch was even better. He has these arm protection things attached to the handlebars of his bike, no idea what the English term is, they don't look like braces but it's the closest thing I can think of, and he puts his arms into them, his thumb throuh a hole and straps them to his arms for joint protection and to prevent loss of grip during his ride. He asked me to attach them to his arms, so I had to touch his arms. I didn't know how much feeling he had in his arms and I deemed them more paralysed and with less sensation then they actually are, which made it a very thrilling experience. I immediately liked the feeling of the hairs on his arm. I had never touched anything that felt like this. Another first time that meant a lot to me was touching and kissing his scars. I don't remember where and when I did it for the first time, but it definitely happened early on our first date. I had fantasised about this for so long. I couldn't believe I could actually do this now.
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Post by eva on Jun 25, 2015 6:16:12 GMT -5
Wow. I love reading this. I don't remember the first time, it's too far away. I remember I loved touching his legs and his feet, massaging them, heating them up when they were cold, stuff like that. I knew I was attracted to PWDs, but didn't know I was a dev, and I do think it would've made a big difference. Knowing, for example, that kissing and licking his neck, etc. would turn him on would turn me on so bad today
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Jun 25, 2015 23:33:32 GMT -5
The first time I had ever moved in close for a hug with my friend, I was standing up, so it felt kind of awkward [...] LOL. This reminded me of the first time we kissed. I was sitting next to him and had to almost stand up to lean in to kiss him and I felt soooo weird. I was like "Well, this is awkward. Am I doing it right? Is this really happening? Oh god, it's really about to happen. What the hell?" I don't think I've ever overthought a kiss this much and it was the longest leaning in for a kiss I've had.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Jun 25, 2015 23:36:10 GMT -5
Im curious if something can/will still effect me like that again one day? To get that rush again from a simple touch I kind of hope so. I hope you do. This is something I wonder about a lot, too. Also, if I will ever be able to have it with an AB (again). I hope so, but honestly, I don't think so.
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Post by Emma on Jun 26, 2015 1:08:29 GMT -5
Oh man what a great question. I think my response will be a little under appreciated since I'm an amputee dev but I'll still respond. So, when we met for the first time I was in his apartment on his couch watching a TV show after flying across the country and meeting in person for the first time a few hours before. I had never been with amputee and we were sitting very close to each other on the couch. He was a little bit angled towards me because that side is his shorter leg and if my memory is correct he was angled about 30 degrees closer to me than if he had been an AB with a regular length sitting next to me. We watched the show for a little while but honestly I don't remember paying much attention. I was too focused on the fact that his shorter leg stump was pressed against my thigh. Eventually we kinda got into more of a hook up situation and started kissing. I think after that I worked up the courage to ask him if I could touch his leg (my heart was racing). After all the talking we did before out meeting he knew I wanted to touch his legs and quickly told me it was ok. It was the most amazing feeling, I can't even describe the feeling in words. I loved feeling the end of his bone and being amazed at how a femur can just end like that. I relive it on an almost daily basis. I love feeling his legs and the feeling I got the first time almost comes back every morning. I do often think about the first time and how amazing it was.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Jun 27, 2015 3:50:21 GMT -5
I'm with tc. I was actually looking forward to your response, Emma. I think your posts are always interesting. Besides, even though we all like different things, we're in the same boat, so why should we appreciate something more or less only because they're not about the things we like? That's why we're here, to share our pov and different experiences.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2015 4:39:04 GMT -5
I love your posts girl. Can't say I have experienced it though..sniff sniff
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Post by cwbjr on Jun 28, 2015 16:54:37 GMT -5
my first touch was a para guy i met online. we met at his apartment, and he was friendly and welcoming. we chatted for quite a while, had some drinks, then he showed me around his apartment. i sat down on his bed and he rolled up next to me. we kissed briefly, and i rested my hand on his leg and squeezed a bit. he didn't feel anything, but what i felt was nothing short of electric. skinny thigh, a little cold to the touch. it was a day that i'd been anticipating since i realized it was an attraction for me, which was probably 30+ years ago. something i never thought i'd get the opportunity to experience. i've had several experiences since then, but i will never forget that first one.
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Post by orchid on Jul 26, 2015 4:28:47 GMT -5
*How on earth did I miss this topic before* Fantastic question and loving the responses. So my first memorable moment was with my bf. It was on our first date and we were having a nice dinner sitting next to each other. At some point he put his hand on my leg and was stroking up and down my thigh. My bf is a c4/5. I remember he was slightly leaning towards me and I was just fixated on looking at his hand touching me. It felt exquisite.
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Post by blueskye101 on Jul 26, 2015 13:13:17 GMT -5
I missed it too but very sexy stuff gals. I'm super jealous now . Here's sorta the opposite. I met a very low incomplete para a while back. Very nice guy and first touch didn't do much for me. I was really shocked and somewhat disappointed. Thinking "what the hell." We rubbed each other's feet sitting on couch watching tv and it was very relaxing and nice but not that Dev zing I was expecting. Had a enjoyable time with him but not that much of a turn on at all for either of us. He had some kinks of his own that I wasn't fulfilling either. Anyway, friend zone there. Realized he was not disabled enough to trigger my dev stuff. ( able to walk some with crutches and feeling everywhere but feet) weird and enlightening weekend
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Post by Melina26 on Jul 27, 2015 11:29:33 GMT -5
I missed it too but very sexy stuff gals. I'm super jealous now . Here's sorta the opposite. I met a very low incomplete para a while back. Very nice guy and first touch didn't do much for me. I was really shocked and somewhat disappointed. Thinking "what the hell." We rubbed each other's feet sitting on couch watching tv and it was very relaxing and nice but not that Dev zing I was expecting. Had a enjoyable time with him but not that much of a turn on at all for either of us. He had some kinks of his own that I wasn't fulfilling either. Anyway, friend zone there. Realized he was not disabled enough to trigger my dev stuff. ( able to walk some with crutches and feeling everywhere but feet) weird and enlightening weekend Not disabled enough...haha...sounds almost weird to say that, but i can totally relate! If I hear anything below C6, no dev buttons get pushed...hahaha
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Post by lisa on Jul 27, 2015 13:58:23 GMT -5
My first touch was with a guy with Tourette's syndrome (I know it almost doesn't play a role on here at all, but since I really like involuntary muscle movements, it's super hot for me). We used to see each other once a week at university. Obviously I kind of got him interested in me (not sure how I've done it, probably through mere staring :-D). He didn't want a relationship or anything, but he was a very sexual guy and at this point in my life, where I had only recently discovered that there was a term for my devness and that I wasn't the only one, I just thought wtf and let him kiss and touch me. It was a great experience. There would have been no long term thing possible (I guess we both knew we weren't made for each other), but his movements when he was standing/sitting/lying next to me... His constant trying not to get his body too close to me so I wouldn't be hurt by one of his tics... And me trying to nevertheless get close to his body, so I could feel these movements and maybe reassure him that it was okay... The discovery that during his sleep the tics were almost gone... And at the same time a bit of guilt and shame because he didn't know that I was a dev and we had also never talked about him and Tourette's... It was an explosive mixture.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Oct 17, 2015 5:57:16 GMT -5
Since we got some great experiences shared on here and I love reading about this topic over and over again, I thought I'd push this up for our girls who've had new experiences lately... I can think of at least three of you, so feel free to share!
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