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Post by myrrh on Nov 17, 2019 22:33:13 GMT -5
Thanks for the lead, devogirl, that lead to an interesting YouTube rabbit hole. Good stuff! I remember an elementary school project where everyone had to make an instrument inspired by some historical artifacts, I made a Greek lyre (well, a very rough elementary-school-aged approximation of one) but I remember another kid made a shamisen out of a shoe box and "played" it with a putty knife.
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Post by devogirl on Nov 17, 2019 22:54:40 GMT -5
Glad you liked it! There’s an anime movie about how blind musicians in northern Japan invented this style of shamisen playing. It’s called Nitaboh and you can watch the whole thing on YouTube with subtitles. This is just a clip:
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Post by clouddive on Nov 19, 2019 5:27:15 GMT -5
I found this guy who works on the same field as me back in my home country. He's a quad, just a couple of years older than me and really good looking.(Basically, he's perfect lol.) So I sent him a DM on instagram telling him a bit about myself, what I'm studying and how much I admire his work etc. He replied saying thank you and stuff and I don't know how to continue the conversation. Do you think it's a bit weird to do so? I might ask him if he wants to collabotate on a project later on but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not. What do people think?
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Post by feelsunshine on Nov 19, 2019 6:15:54 GMT -5
I found this guy who works on the same field as me back in my home country. He's a quad, just a couple of years older than me and really good looking.(Basically, he's perfect lol.) So I sent him a DM on instagram telling him a bit about myself, what I'm studying and how much I admire his work etc. He replied saying thank you and stuff and I don't know how to continue the conversation. Do you think it's a bit weird to do so? I might ask him if he wants to collabotate on a project later on but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not. What do people think? Hard to tell since we don’t know about what you guys work on and what would make sense. Why don’t you just ask him if he wants to meet up for coffee some time?
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Post by missparkle on Nov 19, 2019 6:41:11 GMT -5
I found this guy who works on the same field as me back in my home country. He's a quad, just a couple of years older than me and really good looking.(Basically, he's perfect lol.) So I sent him a DM on instagram telling him a bit about myself, what I'm studying and how much I admire his work etc. He replied saying thank you and stuff and I don't know how to continue the conversation. Do you think it's a bit weird to do so? I might ask him if he wants to collabotate on a project later on but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not. What do people think? Dear clouddive , as many other older devs already said, I myself often wonder how things would turn out if I searched more actively and had more guts about my devness back in my younger years! That said, I would really like to encourage you to go on with it, don't get freaked out!
I think it is great and brave from you that you already made the first step and wrote to him! Now when you already said "A", don't start questioning yourself and overthinking if it is weird, but go on to "B" and further. I think you have perfect "excuse", working one the same field is the most natural beginning as it can get, coming to any relationship! And being in the same field, you have great chances that you share some other interests, too, it gives you endless list of topics for continuing conversation!
My opinion is that it would be the best if you ask him to help you about something in your study, to give advice, recommend literature, etc. Men in general, like the feeling of being strong, superior and needed, it is in their genes. More so for disabled men it is important self-affirmation, to be the one who holds the reins. You have the perfect opportunity to give him that feeling, he will appreciate it! And you may as well have some benefits for your education! There is nothing to lose!
And being from the same country and festive period of the year approaching, you may nonchalantly add that you are going home for holidays and maybe propose to meet in person?
Good luck, I keep my fingers crossed for you!
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Post by devogirl on Nov 19, 2019 7:08:23 GMT -5
Go for it! Collaborating might be tricky and a bit too much as a first step, but it sounds like you already have a lot in common. Chat with him about your work, or ask his opinion on a work topic. Tell him about the one food from your home country you can't get where you live that you miss the most. As many of the members here have said, they are happy to be approached in a friendly/flirty way. Unless he seems reluctant or stops answering, just keep going.
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Post by clouddive on Nov 19, 2019 7:42:59 GMT -5
Thank you so much for all your input. I really appreciate it! I'll send him another message and keep you posted on what happens afterwards. I'm a very awkward person (my social anxiety doesn't help at all) so this whole thing is making me quite nervous. But hopefully it gets a little easier from now on
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Post by feelsunshine on Nov 19, 2019 7:54:59 GMT -5
Thank you so much for all your input. I really appreciate it! I'll send him another message and keep you posted on what happens afterwards. I'm a very awkward person (my social anxiety doesn't help at all) so this whole thing is making me quite nervous. But hopefully it gets a little easier from now on Good luck to you, you’ll do it just right! Looking forward to hear from you what’s going on ;-)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 19, 2019 8:34:40 GMT -5
I found this guy who works on the same field as me back in my home country. He's a quad, just a couple of years older than me and really good looking.(Basically, he's perfect lol.) So I sent him a DM on instagram telling him a bit about myself, what I'm studying and how much I admire his work etc. He replied saying thank you and stuff and I don't know how to continue the conversation. Do you think it's a bit weird to do so? I might ask him if he wants to collabotate on a project later on but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not. What do people think? sorry if I’ve missed something where you said this, but are you sure he isn’t already in a relationship? It would be good to know before you message him again x
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Post by rebeckers84 on Nov 19, 2019 9:57:02 GMT -5
I found this guy who works on the same field as me back in my home country. He's a quad, just a couple of years older than me and really good looking.(Basically, he's perfect lol.) So I sent him a DM on instagram telling him a bit about myself, what I'm studying and how much I admire his work etc. He replied saying thank you and stuff and I don't know how to continue the conversation. Do you think it's a bit weird to do so? I might ask him if he wants to collabotate on a project later on but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not. What do people think? We’re taking a leap together at the same time!! I just did the exact same thing last night. Slid my self right into someone’s DM on IG last night (that’s what all the cool kids do these days right?? Lol). Keep the convo going. Who knows what could happen. So many possibilities at this point. Good luck
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Nov 29, 2019 0:15:22 GMT -5
Does this count? Target has a wheeler in their Holiday commercial. Unexpected sighting while watching TV 😂😂!!
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Post by pam on Nov 29, 2019 6:45:54 GMT -5
Does this count? Target has a wheeler in their Holiday commercial. Unexpected sighting while watching TV 😂😂!! I saw this too!!!!! I was pleasantly surprised while watching TV. Never know what's going to pop up😉
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Post by robbb on Nov 29, 2019 11:25:47 GMT -5
Does this count? Target has a wheeler in their Holiday commercial. Unexpected sighting while watching TV 😂😂!! He's very sexy gay guy that I follow on Insta. His AB boyfriend is cute too. R.
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Post by robbb on Nov 29, 2019 11:59:26 GMT -5
Spent yesterday afternoon at a large shopping mall just outside London, PWDs everywhere but not a dev tingle to be found.
Do I feel a low coming on?
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Nov 29, 2019 13:03:24 GMT -5
Spent yesterday afternoon at a large shopping mall just outside London, PWDs everywhere but not a dev tingle to be found. Do I feel a low coming on? R Sometimes seeing too many can do that. I’ve been in a position like that too.
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