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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2018 21:51:54 GMT -5
the male should always be the one taken care of obviously
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Post by wonk on Jan 12, 2018 2:14:25 GMT -5
Hmm. From my own experience as a woman, I've been with at the very least 15 different men who never gave me pleasure. Some tried a little bit, some didn't try at all. You know that I could help in that regard. All you have to do is lift the restraining order and I will be right over.
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Post by queenjane on Jan 12, 2018 13:10:48 GMT -5
You know that I could help in that regard. All you have to do is lift the restraining order and I will be right over. 😂 Oh, Wonk. I’ve missed this place.
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Post by soccerwheels on Mar 2, 2018 3:06:30 GMT -5
I am the complete opposite. I just want to take care of her and her needs first before mine. Just that gets me aroused.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2018 10:41:15 GMT -5
I can’t even have an orgasm unless I do it myself. I still enjoy everything that leads up to an orgasm, but as a man as long as I’m having sex do I really care who is giving and taking? 🤷🏻♂️
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Post by willdawg80 on Mar 5, 2018 18:08:33 GMT -5
Hmm. From my own experience as a woman, I've been with at the very least 15 different men who never gave me pleasure. Some tried a little bit, some didn't try at all. Regardless of your MOD, all you can do is move on and find someone who will at least give it a good shot. It's as simple as that. I don't think harping on this issue is healthy, and I'm not an antagonistic person, so please don't feel like you need to go on the defensive: maybe just reflect on the fact that this post is most likely your male privilege speaking. From what I can tell you've had two of these experiences, and you seem almost mystified at how you could have been treated this way. The truth is no one deserves to be used, but people can be selfish and it happens. All the time. Think of this - it's not necessarily about you, since I'm sure these women would do the same with another partner in a second if given the chance. Three years is a really long time to not put yourself out there, assuming this issue is the only reason you have for not dating. I hope you can get over it and move on, if that is what you want. Hopefully this thread helps you a bit. Hmm, interesting. Mind if I add you?
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Post by furby89 on Jun 4, 2018 11:58:24 GMT -5
Im so sorry to you for your experience. It must be hard to cope with when you was close to 15 different men and there is still a lack.. Hhmmm... But i have to say im not quite sure if they aren't able to please you or if they don't know how to satisfy Im sure that this issue is almost known by nondisabled and it doesn't have to do with a limitation due to their disability. Someone knows how to pleasure, others not. Second point is if they are only interested in taking than giving. Than your problem is a logical result. Sometimes it's all about communication, but when there is no improvement, you better have to broke up instead of being unlucky.
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Post by bunster on Jun 16, 2018 20:53:51 GMT -5
i am someone who likes to give pleasure. it gets me hot to hear my guy getting turned on by me. i had a horrid first time experience at an early age and when i met the guy who pushed my buttons it was a glorious revelation! now i am in a situation where phone sex is becoming very scarce. thank God i know how to pleasure myself.
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Post by wonk on Jun 18, 2018 20:03:38 GMT -5
This thread now seems so strange with the original post deleted
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Post by Ackrin on Aug 19, 2018 10:09:06 GMT -5
I am the complete opposite. I just want to take care of her and her needs first before mine. Just that gets me aroused. I definitely have to agree with you on this one. I definitely get a lot out of pleasing someone first. I think it's absolutely selfish for someone to not put some effort pleasing the person they're with. It's something you should enjoy and want to do.
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Post by Hopper on Aug 19, 2018 11:41:41 GMT -5
Agreed, after all, there's 2 people in a relationship and the pleasure should be mutual. In theory. I'm not counting Birthdays here.
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Post by blindlover on Aug 25, 2018 21:39:44 GMT -5
I am the complete opposite. I just want to take care of her and her needs first before mine. Just that gets me aroused. I definitely have to agree with you on this one. I definitely get a lot out of pleasing someone first. I think it's absolutely selfish for someone to not put some effort pleasing the person they're with. It's something you should enjoy and want to do. Also I couldn't agree more. Also I would do everything to please someone that feels comfortable enough to be with me, even if it means not getting release myself. Yet, this story is something I heard from many women that crossed my path. To my humble oppinion, it has a lot to do with the overrated status penetration has. Less than one third of women can orgasm from this anyway. In my experience the right touch at the right time and place however, can be enough
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Post by Sova on Aug 27, 2018 11:47:33 GMT -5
I am the complete opposite. I just want to take care of her and her needs first before mine. Just that gets me aroused. You have to be careful with that. Despite the male stereotype, a lot of times it's the girl who can end up keeling over after reaching that zenith. I call that D.O.A. 😵 That said, I like going Australia on a girl but I like her going there, too. There has to be an ebb and flow where both sides are passing that hot potato back and forth. That's when you've got each other jumping up the bed like you're possessed.
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Post by donabbey on Nov 28, 2018 12:27:12 GMT -5
Hmm. From my own experience as a woman, I've been with at the very least 15 different men who never gave me pleasure. Some tried a little bit, some didn't try at all. You know that I could help in that regard. All you have to do is lift the restraining order and I will be right over. That was really funny, man. I damn near fell out of my chair. Nice! Wait...what wonk said. Queenjane, however. I feel empathy for you. Any man that loves you should give you his very best. Or at least ask to be told how and what you want.
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Post by nofacue on Nov 28, 2018 19:17:34 GMT -5
Sexual urges and needs are what makes me feel alive.But I think my having a disability puts extra pressure on my performance. I definitely want to make sure the woman I’m with gets satisfied first, during and even after ( if possible)... takes two to tango...and nobody likes a bad dancer
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