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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2019 18:34:13 GMT -5
Wait none of the girls initiate conversation? Majority of the guys I match with never start the conversation so I'm doing it almost everytime. I'm not into women so I have never swiped on any. Its amazing how many guys wont even respond to my messages. Why swipe right and not respond? I know! I get it, sometimes (probably most times) we swipe right or whatever because we liked the first picture but upon further investigation we just aren't interested. Just unmatch with the person! It's literally one click. I do message my matches tat I'm interested in and unmatch the ones that I'm not. I'd say I get an actual interested reply 5% of the time.
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Post by Sir Paul on Jul 2, 2019 19:24:52 GMT -5
I don't really have a story, but I'm not a fan of apps like Tinder, talking with some of the girls on there is dreadful, I have to initiate all conversations which I'm okay with at this point. I however get frustrated when I have to do a verbal juggling act and try to entertain the girl till she decides to jump in or ghost my ass, I honestly feel like a conversation prostitute. I think I'm done with dating for awhile, I'm just gonna focus on myself and my goals. It's ALWAYS a good idea to work on yourself. For some people online dating is as easy as shooting fish in a barrel. For those of us on the fringe, the barrel is the size of Rhode Island. If you're going to attempt it, you have to accept that. I still swipe and occasionally have conversations - sometimes become IG or FB "friends" with them and talk of meeting up, but never do. I'm less interested in dating and more interested in being social though.
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 9:50:40 GMT -5
I've never met anyone who's really a "fan" of dating apps like Tinder - I'm certainly not. It's something I do in hopes that in the sea of superficiality and guys just looking for hook-ups, I might find some interesting people. Which happens sometimes. As for matching and making conversation on Tinder: I don't write to every guy I match and I'm not annoyed if every guy I match doesn't initiate a conversation with me. There are A LOT of guys, who just blindly swipe right on everyone to see who likes them and then decide who they're really interested in, once they've matched. Which is why I assume that not every guy, who matches me is really interested. Personally, I send a message to a guy, if there's something interesting in his profile that can serve as a conversation starter. If he doesn't say anything in his profile, I don't start a conversation, I leave it to him. Because I made sure to put some things in my profile, which are easy conversation starters - and I think there should be a little effort on both sides I always answer, when I get a message, though (unless he just asks if I'm "down to f*" which happens quite frequently and often without any fruther introduction). I did get plenty of guys not answering my messages in the beginning (when I was still more motivated to initiate conversation). Now that I'm more selective and only write to those, who clearly put some effort into their profiles, it happens less often. But yeah, I don't think anyone's on Tinder, because Tinder is so great...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2019 11:19:57 GMT -5
There are A LOT of guys, who just blindly swipe right on everyone to see who likes them and then decide who they're really interested in, once they've matched. Which is why I assume that not every guy, who matches me is really interested. I assume that most of my matches are just immediately taken by my rugged good looks and instinctually swipe right. It’s just nature.
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Post by sy on Jul 3, 2019 12:15:07 GMT -5
I've never met anyone who's really a "fan" of dating apps like Tinder - I'm certainly not. It's something I do in hopes that in the sea of superficiality and guys just looking for hook-ups, I might find some interesting people. Which happens sometimes. As for matching and making conversation on Tinder: I don't write to every guy I match and I'm not annoyed if every guy I match doesn't initiate a conversation with me. There are A LOT of guys, who just blindly swipe right on everyone to see who likes them and then decide who they're really interested in, once they've matched. Which is why I assume that not every guy, who matches me is really interested. Personally, I send a message to a guy, if there's something interesting in his profile that can serve as a conversation starter. If he doesn't say anything in his profile, I don't start a conversation, I leave it to him. Because I made sure to put some things in my profile, which are easy conversation starters - and I think there should be a little effort on both sides I always answer, when I get a message, though (unless he just asks if I'm "down to f*" which happens quite frequently and often without any fruther introduction). I did get plenty of guys not answering my messages in the beginning (when I was still more motivated to initiate conversation). Now that I'm more selective and only write to those, who clearly put some effort into their profiles, it happens less often. But yeah, I don't think anyone's on Tinder, because Tinder is so great... I have a few rules on swiping. Mentions of words like pizza, wanderlust or coffee, get a left swipe. My rules on pictures is just one, naughty photos get a guaranteed left swipe, and oh yeah people who make that stupid ahegao face also get a left swipe.
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 12:18:30 GMT -5
I've never met anyone who's really a "fan" of dating apps like Tinder - I'm certainly not. It's something I do in hopes that in the sea of superficiality and guys just looking for hook-ups, I might find some interesting people. Which happens sometimes. As for matching and making conversation on Tinder: I don't write to every guy I match and I'm not annoyed if every guy I match doesn't initiate a conversation with me. There are A LOT of guys, who just blindly swipe right on everyone to see who likes them and then decide who they're really interested in, once they've matched. Which is why I assume that not every guy, who matches me is really interested. Personally, I send a message to a guy, if there's something interesting in his profile that can serve as a conversation starter. If he doesn't say anything in his profile, I don't start a conversation, I leave it to him. Because I made sure to put some things in my profile, which are easy conversation starters - and I think there should be a little effort on both sides I always answer, when I get a message, though (unless he just asks if I'm "down to f*" which happens quite frequently and often without any fruther introduction). I did get plenty of guys not answering my messages in the beginning (when I was still more motivated to initiate conversation). Now that I'm more selective and only write to those, who clearly put some effort into their profiles, it happens less often. But yeah, I don't think anyone's on Tinder, because Tinder is so great... I have a few rules on swiping. Mentions of words like pizza, wanderlust or coffee, get a left swipe. My rules on pictures is just one, naughty photos get a guaranteed left swipe, and oh yeah people who make that stupid ahegao face also get a left swipe. WHAT? Coffee and Wanderlust??? Why? I'm with you on the naughty photos and I have no idea what an ahegao face is, but it sounds like something I'd swipe left
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 12:23:16 GMT -5
There are A LOT of guys, who just blindly swipe right on everyone to see who likes them and then decide who they're really interested in, once they've matched. Which is why I assume that not every guy, who matches me is really interested. I assume that most of my matches are just immediately taken by my rugged good looks and instinctually swipe right. It’s just nature. And then they're just too intimidated to write anything. That happens... (In all seriousness, I'd certainly swipe right on an attractive PWD, but I'd probably be too intimidated to write first )
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Post by sy on Jul 3, 2019 12:36:34 GMT -5
AmeePeople who mention they like coffee are a dime a dozen. Wanderlust is just such a pretentious word to me, it bothers me so much. The Ahegao thing is this new trend which I find so obnoxious, most of my friends find it hot, the girls who do it always look like somethings wrong with em. I don't know how to really explain, google it, or maybe don't you might run into strange shit.
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 12:58:03 GMT -5
Amee People who mention they like coffee are a dime a dozen. Wanderlust is just such a pretentious word to me, it bothers me so much. The Ahegao thing is this new trend which I find so obnoxious, most of my friends find it hot, the girls who do it always look like somethings wrong with em. I don't know how to really explain, google it, or maybe don't you might run into strange shit. Okay, I just googled Wanderlust and realized it means something slightly different from what I thought It refers more to travelling than actual hiking (which is what the German word "Wandern" means, and which I thought it referred to). And yes, all those people loving to travel on Tinder are annoying. That's true. As for coffee, though... I mentioned coffee in my PD intro, so... I take that personally Googled Ahegao... Big mistake. Can't say you didn't warn me.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2019 13:11:46 GMT -5
“Shit that makes you swipe left” should be its own thread.
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Post by sy on Jul 3, 2019 13:19:32 GMT -5
Amee People who mention they like coffee are a dime a dozen. Wanderlust is just such a pretentious word to me, it bothers me so much. The Ahegao thing is this new trend which I find so obnoxious, most of my friends find it hot, the girls who do it always look like somethings wrong with em. I don't know how to really explain, google it, or maybe don't you might run into strange shit. Okay, I just googled Wanderlust and realized it means something slightly different from what I thought It refers more to travelling than actual hiking (which is what the German word "Wandern" means, and which I thought it referred to). And yes, all those people loving to travel on Tinder are annoying. That's true. As for coffee, though... I mentioned coffee in my PD intro, so... I take that personally Googled Ahegao... Big mistake. Can't say you didn't warn me. I'm gonna take a look at your into brb. Also you see what I mean, that ahegao face is so dumb, how my friends like that garbage hot is beyond me.
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Post by sy on Jul 3, 2019 13:31:39 GMT -5
You didn't open with the fact that you love coffee and the paragraph before was interesting, so you kinda softened the blow.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2019 13:49:22 GMT -5
So I totally had to google ahegao face...wth...that is just so dumb or I'm just old... Thinking about it, maybe they make that face so the guy who looks at them can see right away what she expects to look like when she is with the guy, that way he can make the decision to swipe right or left if he is up to the challenge of making her drool or maybe scream or whatever she looks like with her ahegao face
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 13:57:36 GMT -5
You didn't open with the fact that you love coffee and the paragraph before was interesting, so you kinda softened the blow. When you're introducing yourself as someone with a very rare (and by some considered weird) preference/attraction/whatever, you kind of want to go for something a little more mainstream in the "things I also like" section I'm still not over the fact that you consider coffee-love per se a "blow", though... @mrniceguy Definitely! Guaranteed to hurt lots of feelings, though (Exhibit A: Coffee...)
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 13:59:33 GMT -5
So I totally had to google ahegao face...wth...that is just so dumb or I'm just old... Thinking about it, maybe they make that face so the guy who looks at them can see right away what she expects to look like when she is with the guy, that way he can make the decision to swipe right or left if he is up to the challenge of making her drool or maybe scream or whatever she looks like with her ahegao face You're not old Dani, it's just dumb (Though your explanation might be close to the truth...)
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