nofacue
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Post by nofacue on Dec 2, 2018 17:34:13 GMT -5
I’ve known about Devs for a few months now, but when I’m out and about, I find myself wondering if any of the women that I meet are Devs. My question is.. does my PWD brethren look for Devs wherever they go ? And any thoughts about this ?
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Post by Mets on Dec 2, 2018 17:55:12 GMT -5
It never even crosses my mind to be honest. As nice as it is to have a place like PD, randomly encountering a dev in public is SUPER unlikely, let alone one that’s compatible (age, gender, sexual orientation, status, etc). I live in one of the largest cities in the world, and I’d still wager that I’ve never met a dev in public.
It might seem like no harm in wondering, which is true to an extent, but I wouldn’t let it interfere with how you behave/approach dating and social interaction. As long as you’re treating people like people and that thought doesn’t affect your actions, I think it’s normal.
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Post by lars on Dec 2, 2018 18:28:33 GMT -5
Well, I'm having a bit of a strange evening here, because the girl I've been sleeping with for the last month is, apparently, a dev.
Go figure. I'd suggest to check under your bed, OP.
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Post by gimpygay on Dec 3, 2018 5:39:16 GMT -5
My experience has only been with Dev men. I don't look for them everywhere I go, but I have had some random encounters. I usually know when someone I meet is a Dev.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2018 6:15:01 GMT -5
You will find devs everywhere in disability sports events
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gimpygay
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Post by gimpygay on Dec 3, 2018 6:34:56 GMT -5
You will find devs everywhere in disability sports events <iframe width="10.740000000000009" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 10.740000000000009px; height: 2.9200000000000017px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none;left: 15px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_20533756" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="10.740000000000009" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 10.74px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 490px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_95599408" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="10.740000000000009" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 10.74px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 15px; top: 87px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_36187104" scrolling="no"></iframe> <iframe width="10.740000000000009" height="2.9200000000000017" style="position: absolute; width: 10.74px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 490px; top: 87px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_44023919" scrolling="no"></iframe> Speaking as a Crip, I say "amen" to that. 😀
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Post by Braced4Impact on Dec 3, 2018 9:00:17 GMT -5
My philosophy is they aren't a dev until they are a dev. What that means is, I don't consider a long stare, a friendly wink, or a warm smile as a potential dev. Only if she flat out admits it, would I think it to be the case.
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Post by lars on Dec 3, 2018 10:56:19 GMT -5
lars surely you realised that as you weren't getting any sleep that she was probably a dev 😉 Great chemistry tends to be like that, so things getting hot, rough and long is not that unusual, so this whole thing sneaked under the radar. Frankly, I feel quite like being hit by a nuclear bomb, as I share Mets 's view of it being a number's game with a long list of variables, and thus, an unlikely match to a silly degree. Strange things happen.. but I didn't think it would happen like this. We do share a kink, but yesterday she told me that when I first told her on the phone I was "a wheelchair athlete" ( har har ), her first thought had been "Wow!", with an excited feeling to accompany it. She didn't know it when I first contacted her, so it was a random chance and a true dev in the wild-encouter, but the joke is that's the case for the both of us. Things may or may not have happened that are best left undescribed. Happy Monday, PD, it's time to get some shit done!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2018 18:44:48 GMT -5
lars surely you realised that as you weren't getting any sleep that she was probably a dev 😉 Great chemistry tends to be like that, so things getting hot, rough and long is not that unusual, so this whole thing sneaked under the radar. Frankly, I feel quite like being hit by a nuclear bomb, as I share Mets 's view of it being a number's game with a long list of variables, and thus, an unlikely match to a silly degree. Strange things happen.. but I didn't think it would happen like this. We do share a kink, but yesterday she told me that when I first told her on the phone I was "a wheelchair athlete" ( har har ), her first thought had been "Wow!", with an excited feeling to accompany it. She didn't know it when I first contacted her, so it was a random chance and a true dev in the wild-encouter, but the joke is that's the case for the both of us. Things may or may not have happened that are best left undescribed. Happy Monday, PD, it's time to get some shit done! Sounds like you are floating on cloud number 9 larsGood for you, good for the lucky dev
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Post by lucretia on Dec 3, 2018 20:01:29 GMT -5
As for meeting a dev in the 'wild' i met someone away from here and during conversation she said something like 'i think i know you, are you tykes off PD' lets just say i had a 'moment' and we had great chemistry and even better memories 😊 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 Once when I worked in a rehab facility I heard someone yell "Hey, Lucretia!" as I walked past a room... But when I looked in the room it was just a couple of people chatting. It was definitely an interesting moment... LOL ETA: One of my daughter's boyfriend's friends has told them he has an account here... But I haven't run into him, and no idea what his user name is.
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Post by Kela on Dec 4, 2018 13:12:44 GMT -5
Dev in a Leeds united shirt, what's not to like The Leeds shirt ...
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Post by propheticstature on Dec 4, 2018 15:14:23 GMT -5
Dev in a Leeds united shirt, what's not to like The Leeds shirt ... LOL This man speaks the truth! I'm American, but I've been a Newcastle United fanatic for about 10-15 years. If I ever saw any woman (preferably a dev but really any woman) wearing that black and white (especially in my city in the Midwest US where everyone's either Liverpool or Man United), I'd lose my shit.
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Post by TotalBias on Dec 4, 2018 15:53:37 GMT -5
Semi-related... I don’t go looking for PWD IRL, But I definitely notice them more than I think most people do. When this happens, I often find myself wondering if they are into devs? Do they even know what a dev is? How would they react to a dev talking to them IRL? If I talked to them, and they knew about devs, would they think I was a dev?
I never say anything though because it never seems appropriate. I wish there were more people with disabilitie I wish there were more PWD active in my area. I recently attended a diversity culture event on my campus and realized that they aren’t really representing PWD at all because there are enough PWD on campus (who identify as PWD). I was outraged and was like well then we obviously need to get more PWD on campus!......... but then I had to ask myself is this just because I want to have easier access to checking out PWD between class? 😝 I joke, I joke.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2018 11:44:13 GMT -5
it may sound quite fancy for some people's mindset: I think that we meet 'our' dev when we are ready for that encounter. Some PWDs still must work on their own karmic challenges to be 'ready'. Disclaimer: I'm neither church person nor something similar. It's just my small life experience.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2018 12:08:14 GMT -5
I find myself wondering if the partners of people i know with a disability are even a little devvy...but have never been brave enough to ask (in a round about way obviously). An pwd acquaintance recently referred to himself as a 'wheeler' that made me think he might be aware of this place. But then i figured maybe 'wheeler' is just a normal term ?
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