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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 19:17:05 GMT -5
I'm seriously always amazed that people would ask dumb questions like that. It's like someone asking me if my grandpa was a Nazi just because I'm German....it actually never happens...lol
I have no advice but how about when someone asks the "sex" question "Do you ever have sex" you just reply back "Do you?" I have met women/men with able bodied partners who have less sex than any dis/able bodied couple so it's a legit reply question I would think.
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Post by Mets on Mar 11, 2019 20:56:13 GMT -5
It's like someone asking me if my grandpa was a Nazi just because I'm German....it actually never happens... Well... was he?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2019 21:40:33 GMT -5
It's like someone asking me if my grandpa was a Nazi just because I'm German....it actually never happens... Well... was he? Gosh Steve, such a dumb question
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Mar 12, 2019 4:15:13 GMT -5
I'm seriously always amazed that people would ask dumb questions like that. It's like someone asking me if my grandpa was a Nazi just because I'm German....it actually never happens...lol I have no advice but how about when someone asks the "sex" question "Do you ever have sex" you just reply back "Do you?" I have met women/men with able bodied partners who have less sex than any dis/able bodied couple so it's a legit reply question I would think. My mum who is from Latin America actually gets asked every once in a while if her family is poor. And she actually also replies with “no, is yours?”. I think this is a great kind of comeback for stupid questions like these.
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Post by devogirl on Mar 12, 2019 7:41:47 GMT -5
I'm seriously always amazed that people would ask dumb questions like that. It's like someone asking me if my grandpa was a Nazi just because I'm German....it actually never happens...lol
You're lucky that has never happened to you. I know of Germans who have been asked that like it's all a big joke, or had to listen to comments about how all Germans are Nazis. A friend of a friend quit a well-paying job overseas over comments like that. It just boggles the mind how people think it's ok to make comments or jokes about another person's ethnicity, disability, weight, or whatever. My husband is of average weight and height, but the women in his office are constantly making comments about his weight--did he lose weight recently, he's looking slim, etc. Why do people feel the need to do this?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 12, 2019 9:23:42 GMT -5
I want to add that I don't get offended quickly and unfortunately people seem to be offended nowadays very quickly by just about everything. Sometimes questions or comments from people come out not because they want to be mean, just because of simply not knowing or curiosity.
I'm interested in people I interact with daily and I have questions for them but sometimes I don't ask because I do feel they would feel like I'm "nosy" or in their business. That's the problem nowadays though too, sometimes we are too passive not enough in each other's business because everyone only worries about themselves and everyone is always worried and scared. And then you hear stuff on the news like "Oh, I never imagined that would be in my neighborhood, I'm terrified"...yeah, maybe if you would have observed or been curious a bit more before, you would have known before the cops raided the house that had a dead body in it or where the kids were abused for years. And then of course sometimes it's the other way around where people completely overreact when it wasn't really anything...I guess it's always a balancing act on how much to ask and when to stay out...
If I know people and feel comfortable around them and they know me I joke about myself and say stuff like "You need me to go German on you?" or people will say stuff like "Don't make the German angry." But these are people I know as in coworkers or people I like and I myself am maybe not always politically correct because sometimes it's just annoying to have to censor everything you ask or say because someone "may" get offended. I think I can come across as rude but I am not a mean person, just a direct person and I also like to make fun of myself and stuff in general. This doesn't sit right with everyone but I have a pretty good sense of how far I can go I think. A couple of weeks ago I used the words "sadistic" and "masochistic" in a conversation about two coworkers with another coworker who is like me though and only with him I would use those words and we had a pretty good laugh. Was it appropriate in the work place, probably not...lol I meant no harm and it really totally slipped.
Well, for one, Germans are very direct and can come across as mean but we are sincere and not shallow. I have learned to adapt and actually at my work place we are so diverse from every religion background, sexual orientation and culture that we have to learn from each other and ask questions and also be open minded at different people, different ways, different everything. I actually love that about my workplace.
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Post by LaMara on Mar 12, 2019 9:59:15 GMT -5
Dani I’m Italian and I have a really close German friend. The current joke every single time we’re in the room is that we need to get ourselves a Japanese friend and call ourselves the Axis sisters... None of my friends have a normal sense of humor and we just run with it. Depending on the tone, the same thing can be offensive or hilarious, it’s all about context!
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Post by mike on Mar 12, 2019 11:38:29 GMT -5
The best comeback I ever heard was when someone mentioned the issue of weight. The lady replied: "You know recent studies have shown that women who are carrying a couple extra pounds generally live longer than the men who point it out to them".
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Post by logantx on Mar 19, 2019 9:04:09 GMT -5
I haven’t really seen a lot of this or heard of this in my relationships. I think I would simply laugh. Something similar is restaurant treatment.. hasn’t happened in ages but love when they hand the lady the bill. Token response, “hope you brought your wallet;).” Loud enough to make a point. On the flip side, I’ve had restaurant bills and bar tabs picked up by strangers on multiple occasions. I don’t get easily offended.
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