raindrop
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Post by raindrop on Aug 17, 2019 1:00:40 GMT -5
I have a quote I repeat often, because it reminds me to enjoy all my time with my kids... even the bad times.
"The nights are long, but the years are short."
I feel those words in my bones.
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Post by Amee on Aug 17, 2019 5:26:19 GMT -5
I was on vacation in Germany a few days ago with my friend and through AirBnB we stayed in an apartment shared by four first-year University students. Our room was that of an eighteen year old girl, who had just moved away from home to go to University. It was all white and pastel colors, lots of pink, a fluffy white carpet, an open clothing rack with skimpy dresses and woolen cardigans... Above her nightstand she had pinned a picture of herself and her presumable boyfriend and next to it, a piece of paper on which she had written "You sleep better, when the dream is lying next to you." I thought it was cute, but also cringe-inducingly cheesy On another wall there was a large mirror framed with pictures of herself and her friends out partying and doing fun stuff. And among them was another quote, on a postcard: "This is not your practice life. This is all there is." And even though it felt a bit empty among those pictures of partying teenagers, it also really hit me in a deeper way. I think I've missed out on some things in my late teens and early twenties for a couple of reasons, including fear and self-confidence-issues, which were both also heavily connected to my devness. I wasn't unhappy, but I also don't remember ever being as carefree as this girl's room made her out to be. I'm not usually a fan of these motivational quotes, but somehow this one really stuck with me. I even say it to myself, when I'm trying to be a little more fearless now. "Don't be a sissy now, because this is all there is." Also, that girl's room made me feel dreadfully old
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Post by sy on Aug 19, 2019 15:37:25 GMT -5
Amee The girl sounds like an idiot to me. I can't remember the exact article but there's supposed to be a direct correlation between stupidly and quotes.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2019 15:50:26 GMT -5
Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt. - not Abraham Lincoln
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Post by Amee on Aug 19, 2019 15:58:30 GMT -5
Amee The girl sounds like an idiot to me. I can't remember the exact article but there's supposed to be a direct correlation between stupidly and quotes. Maybe people sometimes just act like idiots when they're in love And she seemed to be very in love... I wouldn't fault her for that
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Sept 24, 2019 15:14:47 GMT -5
This showed up on my Facebook page today and it really resonated with me and I wanted to share it:
Speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on the Earth, for what they believe is what they will Become!
- Brooke Hampton
I just love this!!
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Post by Nate on Sept 24, 2019 15:19:43 GMT -5
Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt. - not Abraham Lincoln This this this. This is my most favorite quote ever. It's a Twainism, yes?
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Post by Nate on Sept 24, 2019 15:24:34 GMT -5
This showed up on my Facebook page today and it really resonated with me and I wanted to share it: Speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on the Earth, for what they believe is what they will Become! - Brooke HamptonI just love this!! My mother's version:
"Speak to your child about mundanities but be wary, for he will eventually open his mouth to respond and you should be ready to jump out the window."
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Sept 24, 2019 16:05:20 GMT -5
Nate, so sorry. I grew up in a house where "children should be seen and not heard" so...I get it!!! P.S. I always fought that...drove both parents totally crazy !!! Sounds like you did too!
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Post by Nate on Sept 24, 2019 16:37:24 GMT -5
Nate , so sorry. I grew up in a house where "children should be seen and not heard" so...I get it!!! P.S. I always fought that...drove both parents totally crazy !!! Sounds like you did too! It's really just a thing my mom does with wondrous proficiency: We'll be chatting and she'll be telling me about her day and I'll bring up, say, a profound conversation I'm having on this very forum and she'll listen for a few seconds and then my friend will come in the room and my mom will cut me off to ask him about whether he's making dinner and, if so, what he's making and whether he needs to go to the store or if we have the ingredients and it goes on and on and on, it's Heaven and Hell, oh well~ and I'm just sitting there like Okay, I guess we're done here and then she'll say, "You were saying...?" and I'll be like, "Nooooope!"
That happens twice a day on average; I might drive her crazy, but she definitely started it.
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Post by feelsunshine on Sept 25, 2019 1:59:31 GMT -5
Nate , so sorry. I grew up in a house where "children should be seen and not heard" so...I get it!!! P.S. I always fought that...drove both parents totally crazy !!! Sounds like you did too! It's really just a thing my mom does with wondrous proficiency: We'll be chatting and she'll be telling me about her day and I'll bring up, say, a profound conversation I'm having on this very forum and she'll listen for a few seconds and then my friend will come in the room and my mom will cut me off to ask him about whether he's making dinner and, if so, what he's making and whether he needs to go to the store or if we have the ingredients and it goes on and on and on, it's Heaven and Hell, oh well~ and I'm just sitting there like Okay, I guess we're done here and then she'll say, "You were saying...?" and I'll be like, "Nooooope!"
That happens twice a day on average; I might drive her crazy, but she definitely started it. Oh, that really reminds me of dinner conversations when I’m at my parents house. During dinner, I tell them about work or whatever and the conversation constantly is interrupted by my mother asking if I want something to drink, if I say no, she comes up with a drink suggestion and I say “no, thanks” again. So I keep talking again and get interrupted by her asking my dad if he wants more salad and so on. She’s nice and caring and she wants the best for us so I don’t blame her but sometimes it would be nice to just finish my story first. Guess what, I see myself doing that same thing to others when they talk. And I always feel like “oh no, I did it again 🙈”
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Post by Nate on Sept 25, 2019 3:38:40 GMT -5
It's really just a thing my mom does with wondrous proficiency: We'll be chatting and she'll be telling me about her day and I'll bring up, say, a profound conversation I'm having on this very forum and she'll listen for a few seconds and then my friend will come in the room and my mom will cut me off to ask him about whether he's making dinner and, if so, what he's making and whether he needs to go to the store or if we have the ingredients and it goes on and on and on, it's Heaven and Hell, oh well~ and I'm just sitting there like Okay, I guess we're done here and then she'll say, "You were saying...?" and I'll be like, "Nooooope!"
That happens twice a day on average; I might drive her crazy, but she definitely started it. Oh, that really reminds me of dinner conversations when I’m at my parents house. During dinner, I tell them about work or whatever and the conversation constantly is interrupted by my mother asking if I want something to drink, if I say no, she comes up with a drink suggestion and I say “no, thanks” again. So I keep talking again and get interrupted by her asking my dad if he wants more salad and so on. She’s nice and caring and she wants the best for us so I don’t blame her but sometimes it would be nice to just finish my story first. Guess what, I see myself doing that same thing to others when they talk. And I always feel like “oh no, I did it again 🙈” This is uncanny, and I've got like two million follow-up questions. Does the drink question actually begin with "Do you want..." or is it ever a "Would you like..."? When she offers you a specific drink, is it ever accompanied by a second drink suggestion as though you don't already know what all the options are? Does she ever throw in "nothing" as an option? If there are two or more options and you answer with one instead of declining, do you answer before she has finished listing all the options such that she doesn't hear your answer because she's still talking? When accepting a drink, do you ever ask for something you know she doesn't have? If so, how does she react? Does she ever get up from the table in the middle of conversation and go to the kitchen sink and start running water which you then have to talk over? If so, do you try to or do you wait until she's done? If you try, is she then like "WHAT?!" from not being able to hear you? Does she ever just leave the room or the house entirely when you are mid-sentence? Is your father or whoever else is around ever like, "Well, what she had to do was important and time-sensitive and you're just going to have to understand that"? I've got so many more but for now I'll leave you with this one: Does your mom ever spend like five hours prepping ingredients and cooking and then during the meal says, with complete and utter sincerity, "I'm sure this will be better tomorrow"?
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Post by feelsunshine on Sept 25, 2019 5:45:42 GMT -5
Oh, that really reminds me of dinner conversations when I’m at my parents house. During dinner, I tell them about work or whatever and the conversation constantly is interrupted by my mother asking if I want something to drink, if I say no, she comes up with a drink suggestion and I say “no, thanks” again. So I keep talking again and get interrupted by her asking my dad if he wants more salad and so on. She’s nice and caring and she wants the best for us so I don’t blame her but sometimes it would be nice to just finish my story first. Guess what, I see myself doing that same thing to others when they talk. And I always feel like “oh no, I did it again 🙈” This is uncanny, and I've got like two million follow-up questions. Does the drink question actually begin with "Do you want..." or is it ever a "Would you like..."? When she offers you a specific drink, is it ever accompanied by a second drink suggestion as though you don't already know what all the options are? Does she ever throw in "nothing" as an option? If there are two or more options and you answer with one instead of declining, do you answer before she has finished listing all the options such that she doesn't hear your answer because she's still talking? When accepting a drink, do you ever ask for something you know she doesn't have? If so, how does she react? Does she ever get up from the table in the middle of conversation and go to the kitchen sink and start running water which you then have to talk over? If so, do you try to or do you wait until she's done? If you try, is she then like "WHAT?!" from not being able to hear you? Does she ever just leave the room or the house entirely when you are mid-sentence? Is your father or whoever else is around ever like, "Well, what she had to do was important and time-sensitive and you're just going to have to understand that"? I've got so many more but for now I'll leave you with this one: Does your mom ever spend like five hours prepping ingredients and cooking and then during the meal says, with complete and utter sincerity, "I'm sure this will be better tomorrow"? Oh wow... that’s something! Ok i definitely know the “do you want something” “no” “we have wine” “No, thanks” “or juice” “Still no, thanks. If I say no, I usually mean no” And yes, she has the water running in the kitchen and I have to talk over it or she would also leave the apartment for a minute and go like “keep your thought”. My dad doesn’t go into an argument over it, he just accepts it as it is. And yes, I myself know that there are things to be done and get that she just wants to get it done and not wait until I’m done with my whole story.
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Post by Nate on Sept 25, 2019 7:17:44 GMT -5
This is uncanny, and I've got like two million follow-up questions. Does the drink question actually begin with "Do you want..." or is it ever a "Would you like..."? When she offers you a specific drink, is it ever accompanied by a second drink suggestion as though you don't already know what all the options are? Does she ever throw in "nothing" as an option? If there are two or more options and you answer with one instead of declining, do you answer before she has finished listing all the options such that she doesn't hear your answer because she's still talking? When accepting a drink, do you ever ask for something you know she doesn't have? If so, how does she react? Does she ever get up from the table in the middle of conversation and go to the kitchen sink and start running water which you then have to talk over? If so, do you try to or do you wait until she's done? If you try, is she then like "WHAT?!" from not being able to hear you? Does she ever just leave the room or the house entirely when you are mid-sentence? Is your father or whoever else is around ever like, "Well, what she had to do was important and time-sensitive and you're just going to have to understand that"? I've got so many more but for now I'll leave you with this one: Does your mom ever spend like five hours prepping ingredients and cooking and then during the meal says, with complete and utter sincerity, "I'm sure this will be better tomorrow"? Oh wow... that’s something! Ok i definitely know the “do you want something” “no” “we have wine” “No, thanks” “or juice” “Still no, thanks. If I say no, I usually mean no” And yes, she has the water running in the kitchen and I have to talk over it or she would also leave the apartment for a minute and go like “keep your thought”. My dad doesn’t go into an argument over it, he just accepts it as it is. And yes, I myself know that there are things to be done and get that she just wants to get it done and not wait until I’m done with my whole story. I kinda think you're my new best friend. 🤗
Edit: I read this entire dialogue to my mom over lunch today; not only did she think it was funny, but she sat through the whole thing without interrupting.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Sept 27, 2019 12:07:21 GMT -5
Oh wow... that’s something! Ok i definitely know the “do you want something” “no” “we have wine” “No, thanks” “or juice” “Still no, thanks. If I say no, I usually mean no” And yes, she has the water running in the kitchen and I have to talk over it or she would also leave the apartment for a minute and go like “keep your thought”. My dad doesn’t go into an argument over it, he just accepts it as it is. And yes, I myself know that there are things to be done and get that she just wants to get it done and not wait until I’m done with my whole story. I kinda think you're my new best friend. 🤗
Edit: I read this entire dialogue to my mom over lunch today; not only did she think it was funny, but she sat through the whole thing without interrupting. OMG, my mom is exactly the same with me and my younger brother! Guess that makes us all best friends now, eh?
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