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Post by avr on Jul 22, 2019 11:41:15 GMT -5
I just read the topic about quad going on a date, and that made me so happy for him. I never could get much luck on dating sites, as soon as women found out I have a wheelchair they basically vanished. which sites do you use for best results? and do you tell about the disability right away or wait some time? maybe some other tips and tricks?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2019 16:42:46 GMT -5
This has been discussed on a lot of threads so i wont go into too much detail but i suggest you show several photos of yourself, out and about, doing stuff, with friends etc and if your profile shot is say shoulders up, then your second photo should be a full pic including your wheelchair. That way if someone is interested they get a heads up and if you get a message, then you know its out in the open. Todays society is pretty shallow and appearance focussed so you might not be inundated with messages, but at least you know the messages you get will be from people worth talking to. Decent, interesting and fun people are out there, you just have to find us. Be patient, dont give up and good luck x
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2019 17:16:05 GMT -5
This has been discussed on a lot of threads so i wont go into too much detail but i suggest you show several photos of yourself, out and about, doing stuff, with friends etc and if your profile shot is say shoulders up, then your second photo should be a full pic including your wheelchair. That way if someone is interested they get a heads up and if you get a message, then you know its out in the open. Todays society is pretty shallow and appearance focussed so you might not be inundated with messages, but at least you know the messages you get will be from people worth talking to. Decent, interesting and fun people are out there, you just have to find us. Be patient, dont give up and good luck x They still don't always notice - no fucking clue how but whatever. My point is don't automatically assume they're cool with it if they message or respond to your message.
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Post by avr on Jul 23, 2019 2:19:11 GMT -5
This has been discussed on a lot of threads so i wont go into too much detail but i suggest you show several photos of yourself, out and about, doing stuff, with friends etc and if your profile shot is say shoulders up, then your second photo should be a full pic including your wheelchair. That way if someone is interested they get a heads up and if you get a message, then you know its out in the open. Todays society is pretty shallow and appearance focussed so you might not be inundated with messages, but at least you know the messages you get will be from people worth talking to. Decent, interesting and fun people are out there, you just have to find us. Be patient, dont give up and good luck x I don't have a lot of full body pictures. and i don't have a lot of friends too. I don't know maybe it is the location where i live, but usually people respond with three questions. How much do you earn? do you have your own place? do you have a care? sometimes they bluntly ask in the first letter, Can you have sex?
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Post by probably on Jul 23, 2019 4:28:08 GMT -5
I've had much better luck on non-dating websites, making friends with people based on specific mutual interests and seeing how things go from there. There isn't the same sort of pressure for them to make a quick decision on whether or not they could see themselves with a PWD.
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Post by avr on Jul 23, 2019 5:50:06 GMT -5
hm, that's a good point. the problem is that I am kind of geek
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2019 17:46:56 GMT -5
Hello friends, this very interesting topic to me because, unfortunately, I too have had the experience where people vanish as soon as they see the word wheelchair. I feel like screaming. Sometimes, and writing an open letter to the world in general, saying: Dear world in general. No, I don't have a lot of status or money. I will probably never be a millionaire or be able to give you the lifestyle of the Princess, but I can certainly cherish you'd like one. I just wish people would realise that just because you are disabled doesn't mean you wouldn't make a good partner. All it takes is patience and compassion, something which unfortunately in my experience, people seem to have very little of these days, but remember, that's just my experience and I hope that some of you can report better experiences. And as for the quadriplegic mentioned in the previous post. Good luck to him!
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Post by happyface2013 on Jul 29, 2019 9:36:48 GMT -5
Be proactive and make the first contact. Always be upfront about your disability, put it in your first message but the main focus should be about your personality. Like most men, women won't reply 90ish percent of the time but hey that means 30 emails, 3ish responses. Copy & paste, it's a numbers game.
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Post by blindlover on Aug 13, 2019 8:14:20 GMT -5
Me Personally, as a blind person, I like to keep things ambiguous for a while, until I have had a fluent conversation with someone. In my pictures, the attentive watcher can see that something might be wrong with my eyes , but the extend to which this is the case is not clear. For me , that ensures people get to look at my personality first and then at my disability, which sometimes might influence their judgement. However, saying it to late is definitely also not fine, since people may feel lied to. Sites that work for me, are different for accessibility reasons, but for me OK Cupid has done most wonders. Good luck, and never give up
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Post by expresso on Oct 6, 2019 20:39:36 GMT -5
i dont believe in those dating sites - but its worth a shot even if its a long shot - i happened to find a Disabled Dating site - i though oh cool - at least who ever joins knows the deal - i joined free to check it out - turned out no ones disabled or looking for a disabled partner - its a mix of so many dating sites into one -
i contacted a few to introduce myself etc, always added that i was disable using a power chair etc, - and not surprised - not one return message - upon looking over the ads - i noticed they are from all kinds of dating sites and disabled dating was just one of them
so it was disappointing since i seen a few which i would have like to connect with - this is all non sexual -
if anyone does know of a real disabled dating site - i would be interested - post it - thanks
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