What age is too young or too old ?

[expresso]

I am curious to know what others think about age -   the girls or woman i tend to find that i am attracted to are much younger me -  which is a problem -  i wonder how young or how old is too much in either direction  -    what is an acceptable age gap between two people that can actually work ?

i feel as if 10 years and 15 years gap can be ok if the male is the older person -   dont ask me why - i dont know for sure why i feel this is Ok and not the other way around - but it can depend also -  i am not saying i wont be attracted to or willing to be with an older woman -  it just so happens i fall for girls that are younger than me and i wonder if thats a good thing or not - 

i guess the question is -   What is an acceptable age gap between two people ?     i am getting older - although i am told i dont look my age - dosnt matter its still my age -  i dont feel my age but i still feel affected by it -   then again its not what i think or feel its what the other person sees -  so maybe someone sees me and thinks i look my age or older - and others may say i dont -  

if you ask me - i am in the middle - i dont feel my age in many ways - but then again i do in other ways -   look wise - i leave it up to the other person to decide -   lately i been noticing others who are my age and younger and i feel they look much much older than me overall -  or maybe its just me -

i just turned 51 - that sounds old to me now - and i really dont like it  because the girls i tend to find attractive are so much younger than me which poses a problem -  not to say i dont find woman my age attractive - i do also -   

so what does everyone think ? -  what is an acceptable age gape that maybe can work if two people connect or click -   ?   i always heard of half your age plus 7  - is an OK age to connect with - -  which to me sounds about right -    but what if the other half is younger than that ?   can it really work ?

[sy]

Not going to lie to you reading this felt super weird, like you were constantly trying to justify the age gap for yourself. You would think being 51 you would learn how to capitalize, I guess everyone's different.

[expresso]

haha - i am curious what the acceptable age gap is between two people - what do most think ?

i dont see 10 or 15 years a big deal - it depends though - but yes i am older than most of the females i am attracted too - which is making me think about the age gap more - i am curious to know what others think - male and females - everyone has a certain age or thing they are attracted too - with me - its not really a thing or body style etc, or even age - it just so happens they all tend to be younger than me - which brings me to this question - how young is too young


so i am 51 - i would think someone around 35 and up would be a good age more or less - but wonder if anyone has or had a connection with a big age gap and how it worked out - if it did - why or why it didnt -

[Nate]

I suddenly figured out which movie to watch on Halloween.

[Deleted]

You say the women you find attractive are much younger than you...the question I guess is, are you displaying creepy behavior toward them like an old pervert or are they also attracted to you and is it consensual?
Age doesn't matter so much but I think if the gap is too big, interests can shift or be very different for each partner and it could cause issues in the long run.
On that note, I am honored when young guys tell me that I am attractive or hot and it could definitely be fun, relationship not so much though on my end...

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Nate
Which movie may that be?

[Nate]

Oct 17, 2019 0:18:53 GMT -5 Dani said:

Nate
Which movie may that be?

It's a Wonderful Life.

[robbb]

Surely how old or how young is acceptable is down to the individuals.

I would say anything goes age wise (and in many other respects) as long as both are consenting and it is legal.

R.

[loreley]

I believe it is not so much about age, but about compatibility. My partner and I are several years apart, but we have about the same interests as far as music, literature, travelling etc. go. I could not imagine being with someone my age, but with a very different lifestyle.

You seem to be worried about your interest in younger women - have you thought about what it is that attracts you? Women your age usually have had several relationships before, are maybe divorced or have children, very young women may come with a lot less baggage. Is that maybe a factor?

[Dr. BiPAP Sachin]

Oct 17, 2019 0:17:14 GMT -5 Dani said:

You say the women you find attractive are much younger than you...the question I guess is, are you displaying creepy behavior toward them like an old pervert or are they also attracted to you and is it consensual?
Age doesn't matter so much but I think if the gap is too big, interests can shift or be very different for each partner and it could cause issues in the long run.
On that note, I am honored when young guys tell me that I am attractive or hot and it could definitely be fun, relationship not so much though on my end...

I'm 33 and I think you're attractive Dani, but rest assured not in any creepy or perverted way.

[expresso]

Oct 17, 2019 8:15:20 GMT -5 loreley said:

I believe it is not so much about age, but about compatibility. My partner and I are several years apart, but we have about the same interests as far as music, literature, travelling etc. go. I could not imagine being with someone my age, but with a very different lifestyle.

You seem to be worried about your interest in younger women - have you thought about what it is that attracts you? Women your age usually have had several relationships before, are maybe divorced or have children, very young women may come with a lot less baggage. Is that maybe a factor?

i am not so much concerned about someone that is divorced or has kids etc, -  of course we all have some past -  i am not sure what attracts me to others -  i do know its always been so far younger than myself -  that can mean 40 or 45 or 35  etc,   i guess all my workers are younger than me - and the age has nothing to do with baggage so much since they have kids are young age  -  even the younger ones always have at least one kid.

[expresso]

Oct 17, 2019 0:17:14 GMT -5 Dani said:

You say the women you find attractive are much younger than you...the question I guess is, are you displaying creepy behavior toward them like an old pervert or are they also attracted to you and is it consensual?
Age doesn't matter so much but I think if the gap is too big, interests can shift or be very different for each partner and it could cause issues in the long run.
On that note, I am honored when young guys tell me that I am attractive or hot and it could definitely be fun, relationship not so much though on my end...

 

No  Creepy behavior or old pervert -  i would hate to think i am that way - i am not  -  and if anything should ever come of it -  it would be consensual of course -  its not like i am looking for a certain age or anything like that - i dont go seek someone for the sole purpose of wanting to date them etc, 

i am respectful - and its not sexual in nature -  i dont look at them that way -  the person grows on you and then feelings develop -  its not lust.     at the moment i am single  - and it dosnt matter to me much the age per say or body type or what ever -  its who ever i get those feelings for.   i hope i am explaining  myself correctly

[feelsunshine]

I tend to like guys that are older than me. It depends on the person but I think I could go with a good +10 years if everything else matches character wise and having same interests as some of you mentioned before. I would not want to consider dating a guy who is younger than me.

Of course all this is very relative. In ten or twenty years from now this could be different, I might consider also being open to men that are younger than me.

But after all, if you really fall for someone, a number like age doesn't matter at all.

And for those who might be wondering: I'm 33.

[Dr. BiPAP Sachin]

Oct 17, 2019 13:52:09 GMT -5 feelsunshine said:

And for those who might be wondering: I'm 33.

So am I! 

[strawberrybubblegum]

I also prefer guys older than me. Although not too much, either. On Tinder you can adjust the age range you’re looking for. Being 26 myself, I have adjusted it from 24-36 for guys and 20-32 for women.

At first I had guys from 23 upwards and I always swiped left when they were 23. I guess I just feel they’re too young when it probably doesn’t even make a huge difference. Right now I’m seeing a guy who’s 24. I’ve never dated a guy younger than me before and at the very beginning I felt... old. I couldn’t let go of him being younger. But now that I’m getting to know him better, I don’t feel like he’s younger or too young, I don’t even really think about it anymore.