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Post by myrrh on Dec 13, 2019 12:57:00 GMT -5
RELATE!!! minus the have to care about her to derive satisfaction part. Don't get me wrong... I have similar function and experience you do.. BUT it can still be satisfying and pleasurable with someone I'm not in love with.. THAT BEING SAID... it's always the best with someone you are crazy about. The past few years have shown me that. Great topic... great comments. I definitely don't need to love her, but at least give a shit. lol It's actually part of why I'm so picky. If I don't think it's worth the effort, I'm not going to pursue it. Being a quad that needs help to transfer, get undressed, etc., I usually want to know the person before I let her "peek behind the curtain." That's not to say that I don't enjoy casual relationships because I most certainly do, but not just randoms. For what it's worth, my experiences as a dev aren't too far removed from this. I've had a decent number of partners, but only climaxed a couple of times. My sexuality is so tangled up in dev wtf, that I've basically told my long term partners that I don't climax and that's not the goal of sex for me. And, that's the truth. My last long term relationship with an AB was honestly great sex, even though I never climaxed with him, the whole experience of intimacy and getting him there was fine by me.
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Post by infinatedreams on Dec 13, 2019 13:49:31 GMT -5
This might be a bit of an overshare but whatever, I’m not shy. But if you have delicate sensibilities or would like my sexual function to remain a mystery, stop reading now. Sex with me is definitely a different experience. While erections do happen, it’s not very often. And when those stars do align, I don’t ejaculate. While I still enjoy it very much, that is not how I derive satisfaction. I know it sounds weird but I somehow feed off of my partner’s pleasure. I get a tangible sense of release when she does. In order for me to feel this, I have to actually care about her. I’ve had one night stands and they just don’t do anything for me. If I’m not “in tune” with my parter, it’s just busy work for me. All that is just my way of saying that I don’t think I’d enjoy being with a sexual surrogate or sex worker. RELATE!!! minus the have to care about her to derive satisfaction part. Don't get me wrong... I have similar function and experience you do.. BUT it can still be satisfying and pleasurable with someone I'm not in love with.. THAT BEING SAID... it's always the best with someone you are crazy about. The past few years have shown me that. Great topic... great comments. RELATE + RELATE Sex with someone I'm not in love with or where things haven't started getting deep is satisfying in a .... nice ... way but always misses that mental explosion of 'oh yeah baby's mainly because I'm pleasing her more than shes pleasing me (physically) Whereas in love or with someone theres more of a connection with then yup that gets the fireworks popping. Perhaps it's more about the sci body and how it reacts to stimuli that a longer term partner figures out just what touch, where and when does the trick. And I guess for us sci guys what those 'magic buttons' are will be different as no injury even at the same level is the same. Some ladies like the challenge and the exploration, others just dont 'get it' I prefer the former 😉
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2019 14:32:51 GMT -5
I don't know about all the US states but isn't it illegal almost everywhere except for Nevada? I think it's stupid and I am actually for legalization of prostitution. As for sex surrogates, I think it's a great thing and I have envied that it is legal in the UK for example. zacc I forgot, are you in the UK? As for being a sex surrogate I have discussed this with a friend and I always joke how that would be perfect for some people and maybe if it's under a "medical" umbrella it may work, but then again I highly doubt it would ever go through. Kind of like getting the green light for like massages or such things from your doctor, to also get a sex surrogate prescribed. That of course is soooo long away from actually becoming reality, at least here in the US. I liked the movie "The Sessions" which deals with this topic.
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Post by wonk on Dec 13, 2019 15:45:09 GMT -5
Prostitution was made legal in Australia in the late 80's I think. The industry is well regulated. The ladies are well looked after, and there are reasonable rules. Many Brothels and most built in the last 10 years are wheelchair accessible, and I know of at least one that has a ceiling hoist and ladies specifically trained to cater to PWD's www.touchingbase.org/
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Post by wonk on Dec 13, 2019 15:47:32 GMT -5
On an interesting side note, there is a case currently before the administrative appeals tribunal, where are guy is suing the government, wanting them to pay for prostitutes as sex is a fundamental human right
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Post by zacc on Dec 13, 2019 16:25:15 GMT -5
I don't know about all the US states but isn't it illegal almost everywhere except for Nevada? I think it's stupid and I am actually for legalization of prostitution. As for sex surrogates, I think it's a great thing and I have envied that it is legal in the UK for example. zacc I forgot, are you in the UK? As for being a sex surrogate I have discussed this with a friend and I always joke how that would be perfect for some people and maybe if it's under a "medical" umbrella it may work, but then again I highly doubt it would ever go through. Kind of like getting the green light for like massages or such things from your doctor, to also get a sex surrogate prescribed. That of course is soooo long away from actually becoming reality, at least here in the US. I liked the movie "The Sessions" which deals with this topic. I’m in the US. Also I loved The Sessions, it’s what gave me the idea to work with a surrogate/SW.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2019 19:01:36 GMT -5
I don't know about all the US states but isn't it illegal almost everywhere except for Nevada? I think it's stupid and I am actually for legalization of prostitution. As for sex surrogates, I think it's a great thing and I have envied that it is legal in the UK for example. zacc I forgot, are you in the UK? As for being a sex surrogate I have discussed this with a friend and I always joke how that would be perfect for some people and maybe if it's under a "medical" umbrella it may work, but then again I highly doubt it would ever go through. Kind of like getting the green light for like massages or such things from your doctor, to also get a sex surrogate prescribed. That of course is soooo long away from actually becoming reality, at least here in the US. I liked the movie "The Sessions" which deals with this topic. I’m in the US. Also I loved The Sessions, it’s what gave me the idea to work with a surrogate/SW. So is it legal here then?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2019 19:02:40 GMT -5
Prostitution was made legal in Australia in the late 80's I think. The industry is well regulated. The ladies are well looked after, and there are reasonable rules. Many Brothels and most built in the last 10 years are wheelchair accessible, and I know of at least one that has a ceiling hoist and ladies specifically trained to cater to PWD's www.touchingbase.org/ It's like that in Germany...
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Post by Green on Dec 13, 2019 20:09:21 GMT -5
Sex surrogacy is legal in the US, but I'm not sure what regulations there are to be able to get that on the patient's end. I looked into it before, but I didn't seek one out in the end. I did see a sex worker though. An escort specifically. That was several years ago, and only two times a several months apart.
I'm not sure I would describe it as eye-opening, but it was fun. What I gained was more comfort with myself, and thinking about sex in general. It's not that he became more confident in my abilities, but that I had an opportunity to do something sexual. It has always been better with people I've cared about though, and developed a connection with to some degree.
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Post by zacc on Dec 13, 2019 20:46:16 GMT -5
I’m in the US. Also I loved The Sessions, it’s what gave me the idea to work with a surrogate/SW. So is it legal here then? I think your right about the legality. I know FOSTA and SESTA, laws that passed recently, have made it really difficult for sex workers to exist on the internet. Because places like Backpage on Craigslist used to make it easy for sex workers to screen clients and contact them and be contacted by them in a safe way. But because of those laws, which were geared towards sex trafficking, it’s much more difficult to be a sex worker than it once was.
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Post by lizzy on Dec 14, 2019 21:07:12 GMT -5
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Post by Utahquad on Dec 15, 2019 18:24:36 GMT -5
To me this is a subject that falls into the “Each to his/her/their own. “category. But to me it is always better to know the person at least a little to know you have a few things in common. But on the other hand, I don't mind when things get a little strange. In America it really all depends on what State you live in and being in such a conservative State like mine sex surrogacy is definitely frowned upon. #LegalizeIt
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Post by Sir Paul on Dec 15, 2019 22:30:47 GMT -5
A larger scale service or program set up like this in the U.S. would be kinda cool. As a general rule, we are so uptight here and most view sexual surrogates and prostitution as being one in the same. I just don't see us thawing out on these views anytime soon.
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Post by feelsunshine on Dec 20, 2019 18:00:17 GMT -5
Where does firmware fit in this analogy? Shareware? Malware?? Give me a bit of time, I’m sure there’s something I can come up with. I'm sorry it took forever - I haven't had PD-time for a while So here's my attempt: firmware: that's the very heart of software that was put on your hardware (brain). Stuff that you learned in your early days as a kid. Stuff that you parents taught you. So, the very core of your personality. The stuff that will stick there forever. shareware: that's information we voluntarily (free of cost) share with others. Like for example on PD. Everything what we type here is part of our personalities, but of course not the whole package. In order to get the whole package, you'd have to leave the trial version (free PD-membership) and step up to meet in person - or actually: marriage pay for the full version, so to say. malware: that's easy. That's the stuff that causes trouble and causes you to leave your own personality. That could either be the negative influence of another person's thoughts or your own thoughts that get tingled up and cause damage (like fears, or psychological issues). I hope this helped in answering your questions regarding our earlier correspondence. If you encounter further questions or issues, please do not hesitate to contact our service desk via our ONLINE FORM We wish you a pleasant weekend. feelsunshine GmbH und Co AG
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Post by icon0clast on Jan 17, 2020 21:14:39 GMT -5
I don't know about all the US states but isn't it illegal almost everywhere except for Nevada? I think it's stupid and I am actually for legalization of prostitution. As for sex surrogates, I think it's a great thing and I have envied that it is legal in the UK for example. zacc I forgot, are you in the UK? As for being a sex surrogate I have discussed this with a friend and I always joke how that would be perfect for some people and maybe if it's under a "medical" umbrella it may work, but then again I highly doubt it would ever go through. Kind of like getting the green light for like massages or such things from your doctor, to also get a sex surrogate prescribed. That of course is soooo long away from actually becoming reality, at least here in the US. I liked the movie "The Sessions" which deals with this topic. Interesting story. I actually sat on a panel on sex and disability with Cheryl Cohen-Greene: the real person the surrogate in "The Sessions" was based on (I do a lot of academic work on sexuality and disability). She's super nice and said I was cute in her Boston accent. Helen Hunt really nailed her personality. She was so rad and so unapologetic about sex and her body! After our panel, she suggested I spend some time in Berkley and become a surrogate myself, since my experiences as a disabled person might be valuable in the work they do. It was so tempting, but I politely declined. Perhaps I'll take it up in the future though. Hehehe.
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