New member here - mixed feelings - feeling so weird

[ichbin]

hi @lilyinblossom,

I think your intro is really great! You describe yourself, you are candid about what turns you on, even though you feel a little guilty about it sometimes (a lot of us devs do, as you will find out, when you read a little bit on this board). From what you describe and how well you know yourself and know what you want, I dare to predict that you will find the guy of your dreams. From my own experience, it's much more likely to find a good match when you know what you want to search for.

Also, with stating the fact that not only the disability is attracting to you, but most of all the personality of the guy is something that should match your interests, you can be sure that you are in good "dev-company" with. Real connection, true love... Also, many of us find the overcoming of struggles / positivity of PWDs pretty sexy.

I am sure you will find very interesting threads to read here on PD, and I am glad you joined the board!

xo

[ayla]

Hi Lily, I agree totally with my friend ichbin. You are definitely ahead of the curve in terms of understanding what attracts you, and I think coming here was a great choice. It helps so much to be able to share these thoughts that have nowhere else to go at first. So many of us here know how that feels! Keep exploring and keep an open mind. Enjoy your dev journey as much as you can :) Welcome aboard!

[Dani]

Hi Lily
Welcome to PD, and thanks for your thorough explanation. You describe your feelings so well, and I am sure that much of how you feel also resonates with other devs here.

I think it's awesome you're so into hands. The way you feel about hands, I feel that way with legs; I always say that I'm a leg girl. I enjoy male legs and especially non-functioning legs, and I also want the legs to be still attached to the person; I'm not an amputee dev. It's weird how all that plays out. I'm not sure what the leg thing is with me, but I know it's definitely a leg thing for me.

And how you describe your ideal partner, I am sure many of us feel that way. It's not only one feature of the guy, but other boxes also have to check to be into a person.

Anyways, welcome again and glad to have you here!

[devogirl]

Hi @lilyinblossom your experiences seem quite common here. Many of us could have or are currently in relationships with able bodied men, but it doesn't make us less devs. Most of us also have very specific things we prefer, which can be quite varied, but usually something that makes the disability visible. As long as you treat the person with respect, as you describe, there's no reason to feel weird about this attraction.

[feelsunshine]

Hi and welcome,
that’s a deep intro. Wow.
good to have you here and I hope you like it.
It’s hard to believe that you are 1. so young and 2. you just found us. Most of the devs who first come here are just starting to explore their devness but you seem a few steps further which is great.
have fun!