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Post by andyc251 on Aug 9, 2008 21:36:04 GMT -5
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Post by Triassic on Aug 10, 2008 8:02:58 GMT -5
i gotta concur w/andy on this....
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Post by BA on Aug 10, 2008 8:20:57 GMT -5
Do you like Michael better pre-bleaching or post?
Edited to say: Yes, I will eat my popcorn on this one, but please get a new popcorn eating model.
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Post by matisse on Aug 10, 2008 11:25:56 GMT -5
Well, I would be interested to know what happened, mostly because I am curious about whether it was a dev-specific problem or just a generic relationship issue.
Either way, at least she's out there doing something, there's nothing wrong with that. Hope you don't get discouraged, Laura.
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Post by laurasweetou on Aug 10, 2008 12:51:12 GMT -5
ok, I'm home... early. explanations later, I'm ok, mostly. Why can something be right AND not fair??? Thanks to all of you who took time to IM, email, and phone, and all of you for experiacing this with me. So, Laura, I'm dying to know why he kicked you out. You ASS I LEFT didnt get kicked out. In fact, he told me to post I was the best lover, friend, carer, etc. he's ever had. Besides all this, you don't know me, what the f do you have to say about it???
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Post by laurasweetou on Aug 10, 2008 12:52:30 GMT -5
What would make you think he kicked her out? I was in phone communication with her quite alot. I think she was unhappy with certain aspects of his personality and probably visa-versa and she didn't want to stay in a situation that was uncomfortable for either of them. You wouldn't happen to be the guy in question, would you? Right AB, he said he'd never join, but he did a few things he said he'd never do, and ty for telling that ass off! Hugs
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Post by laurasweetou on Aug 10, 2008 12:54:42 GMT -5
Well, I would be interested to know what happened, mostly because I am curious about whether it was a dev-specific problem or just a generic relationship issue. Either way, at least she's out there doing something, there's nothing wrong with that. Hope you don't get discouraged, Laura. As I said before, I have only been home a week, I'm very sad. I'll eplain things when I'M ready. I'm not going to gt discouraged, ever.
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Post by Ouch on Aug 10, 2008 17:27:14 GMT -5
Don't like to hear that someone's sad! Hope things brighten up and are cheerier soon for you, Laura! Sorry to hear that you're down right now.
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Post by cunning69guy on Aug 11, 2008 12:41:15 GMT -5
That's right, it's ALWAYS the guy's fault, and everything the woman says is ALWAYS the gospel truth. Never two sides to a story, so why bother to even wait to place the blame here or in any "relationship".
Sad to say, but without any more details, and being perhaps a bit cynical, or maybe just realistic, anyone who falls in love over the internet and phone and moves thousands of miles away to co-habitate for any length of time without first meeting the person to discover if there's true compatibility or having a back-up plan (like an alternative place to stay besides going home early when the excitement wears off and reality sets in) deserves a bit of heartache and some of the blame for being so naive.
But hey, that's just my uninformed opinion. But when people have flown out to meet/stay with me, there was always a motel room or alternative place to stay just in case the chemistry in real life wasn't the same as long distance via internet, webcam, email, phone, etc. Thankfully, for me, those options were never needed/utilized, but they were discussed and planned in advance, thus negating anyone's argument that such thinking is self-defeating - au contraire, it's just logical and common sense, and thinking otherwise is just naive and foolish (whether one thinks they are in love or not).
Hopefully Ms. Laura can live and learn - not be bitter, just wiser in the future.
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Post by laurasweetou on Aug 12, 2008 9:54:13 GMT -5
There were SEVERAL back up plans set up.
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Post by mrjefffurz on Aug 12, 2008 14:32:20 GMT -5
whats with all the finger pointing,,,,laura told us that things hadnt worked out,,,even THAT is more information than she had to provide,,,placing blame on her,,or on him,,,especially since we werent there,,,is just spewing hot air...only they know what transpired...and every story has two sides with the actuality lying somewhere in the gray area between...i think the laura bashers,,,and the "whats his name" bashers need to back off,,,since laura felt a need to share this slice of her life with us, we should use her experience to consider what our actions in similar situations should be and leave it at that,,,at least laura & the fella had the cojones to try to grasp the brass ring,,,and sometimes the ring is missed...keep your head up, laura, and if the opportunity to ride that carousel comes again i hope u will take the ride...and try to grasp that elusive ring..
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Post by laurasweetou on Aug 13, 2008 21:57:31 GMT -5
Keeping it short and sweet, and not airing my dirty laundry... This had absolutely NOTHING to do with my devness, in fact that's why he was interested in me to begin with. This was a total whirlwind, too much too fast, things said in haste and miscommunication. We've said we'll be friends, but I'm pretty sure he's just trying to let me down gently. This is all I'm going to share, because it really was very precious. It was the experience of a life time, and a dream come true to go to Ireland, and I got to share all of this with a really great guy. And, knowing what I know now, I'd do it again in a heartbeat. OK?
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Post by devogirl on Aug 16, 2008 21:33:46 GMT -5
Kudos to Laura for ignoring the haters and wrapping up this story in a very classy way. I'm glad to hear you can be positive about the experience.
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Post by brendanuk on Aug 17, 2008 5:40:11 GMT -5
Well done Laura, only you know exactly what you went through and only you should know. Haters know nothing and it should stay that way.
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Post by dink on Aug 17, 2008 18:20:35 GMT -5
I just think it would be interesting to find out the other side of things. Judging from her previous, ignorant posts on the board I can't take her description of things seriously and think it would be just as well to hear it from the poor guy who had to share living quarters with a psycho retard for five weeks before finally getting rid of her.
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