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Post by BA on Nov 21, 2009 20:30:26 GMT -5
Neffie, they say you can't win, unless you are in. I think you are brave for following your dream. I hope it is a wonderful experience for both of you.
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Post by doe on Nov 21, 2009 21:20:21 GMT -5
The reason I find it hard is not for me, but rather him. I think my status as a Dev is a problem and I worry that he doubts me. Neff, I haven't really contributed much to this thread along the way, but I wish you every bit of good luck there is  - this is a huge step, particularly given what you have said about your past male relationship experiances. I think if I was about to embark on this great adventure, I would also worry for exactly the same reason you have stated above. But you never know, if you never try, right? |
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Post by Neffie on Dec 19, 2009 10:08:59 GMT -5
Hey guys,
I know I have written posts only to delete them after because frankly I feel ok sharing but not involving another member of the team so to speak!
I am 52 days away from my first Dev experience and it's going well. He hasn't spared any punches at all I mean I know what I'm getting into here and even though the reality may be an eye opener, it's what I'm here for right? If I couldn't handle it then I may as well pack up all my sexual fantasies and turn into Mrs Haversham!
I'm good, I feel confident that we're laying the right ground work and that neither of us will get a shock. Friends and siblings have been informed and it's all very real now!
I just want to say that I "came out" two months ago and i wasn't looking to hook up but I have and I see no point wasting time because I've wasted most of my adult life as it is. Whilst I'm still limber enough to perform the moves then you better believe I'm gonna do it.
The most fun aspect has been thinking about what exactly our options are...seeing the limitations and viewing them as a reason to try new and exciting things rather than how they can hold us back.
Thanks for the encouragement guys, you're fantastic x
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Post by faith on Dec 19, 2009 11:00:32 GMT -5
I am happy for you- and for him.
And, yes, it can be everything you imagine and even more. There are things you have not thought about (or at least for me) but as they come up I believe we are accepting and open to them, making the experience better for both.
I hope it all works out the way you both want. I can be unbelievable and better than any imagination.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Dec 20, 2009 15:10:28 GMT -5
Is it just me, or does it seem like more of our members are stepping out, going after what they want and getting it? I think that's awesome and I'm thrilled for everyone.  |
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Post by Neffie on Dec 22, 2009 10:35:26 GMT -5
Hi Clover,
Maybe that is the truth...I can't speak for others but once I faced up to things I felt so much better. This truly is the icing on the cake although I couldn't imagine hooking up with someone else, I mean, this is someone who just literally hit me as the guy I could see myself with....AB or not. I think that's the main thing I want to get across...this isn't a whim and it is taking a lot for both of us to make this happen.
Today I was sat in my office and a British man got hit by a bus. Literally I am sat here drinking wine thinking about it. He was with his wife and son on holiday one minute and then the next a bus plowed into him and he's bleeding in the street.
The locals, being totally ignorant just swarmed him and his wife. I could hear her screaming from the 3rd floor. I swear I never ran so fast in my life. When I got there he had lost a lot of blood and I was the only Westerner there.
They were trying to pick him up and get him in a cab. I had to fight them off yelling the whole time not to touch him.
I know accidents like this happen hence the boys all being on this site and the one thing you realise when you live through it or see it happen as I did today is that life is too bloody short not to be happy.
Yeah, there may be obstacles and stuff but I'm going for this whole heartedly and I intend to make a go of it, because literally tomorrow you could be hit by a bus.
Right, back to the drinking....
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Post by faith on Dec 22, 2009 11:13:56 GMT -5
Nefertari, I so agree.
There is a BIG difference between meeting with a cute wheeler and going out vs. meeting the right guy who is a wheeler.
The first is fun.
But when you meet someone who is so right for you, someone to whom you want to share your heart and who is worthy of it- it is just magic.
Best of luck to you!
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- this is a huge step, particularly given what you have said about your past male relationship experiances. I think if I was about to embark on this great adventure, I would also worry for exactly the same reason you have stated above. But you never know, if you never try, right?
