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Post by devogirl on Nov 9, 2005 23:09:27 GMT -5
The point isn't encouraging infidelity, but that devo women should be open about their desires. I think it's very sad when someone gets married but is scared to tell the AB partner about her/his devo-ness (and men do this just as much as women). I don't think anyone can repress their desires and ultimately be happy--you have to be true to yourself. If you are open and honest and choose to marry an AB guy, then good for you. But personally I think once you go crip, you never go back. Can't say that enough ;D
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Post by carpenter on Nov 10, 2005 6:05:47 GMT -5
Welcome Elise.
Please feel free to join in. You can merely mingle and explore as it suits you. Your point of view is valid and completely acceptable. Sometimes the more shocking stories can be just that. But you dont have to go there to settle in here.
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Post by matisse on Nov 10, 2005 11:07:21 GMT -5
If you and your husband have a solid, loving and sexually exciting relationship then, of course you have no reason whatsoever to look elsewhere. I thought it was the already-strong sexual relationships that were best suited to allow looking elsewhere, since it would be more of an enhancement than an attempted fix? |
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Post by mrjefffurz on Nov 10, 2005 11:30:02 GMT -5
hmmm,,im not sure any grrl would find watching me transfer a turn on but i am fairly sure they would get a great laff out of the facial expressions and my typical verbal dialogue w/ myself and various body parts,,,damnable leg spazzes!
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Post by BA on Nov 10, 2005 16:01:42 GMT -5
Matisse, unless there is an agreed upon open relationship between married partners with a strong relationship then I consider anything else to be "infidelity". If your spouse doesn't know, then you are cheating.
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Post by matisse on Nov 10, 2005 17:03:53 GMT -5
Matisse, unless there is an agreed upon open relationship between married partners with a strong relationship then I consider anything else to be "infidelity". If your spouse doesn't know, then you are cheating. Yes I agree--my comment was made with agreement of openness as an assumption (although I can see how the phrase "looking elsewhere" would lead to a different conclusion). |
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Post by wheelie37 on Nov 11, 2005 3:10:40 GMT -5
There is a growing community of people that swing, but I think most of them tend to be for couples or single women only. I dont think many of them would entertain the idea of including wheelchair users in their adult recreation though  |
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Post by V on Nov 11, 2005 3:35:35 GMT -5
I thought it was the already-strong sexual relationships that were best suited to allow looking elsewhere, since it would be more of an enhancement than an attempted fix? I totally disagree. If you have a strong sexual relationship then you're not going to want to look elsewhere because you're satisfied. If you want to look elsewhere, something fundamental is wrong and some need isn't being met in which point the relationship probably isn't that strong after all. |
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Post by matisse on Nov 11, 2005 11:32:47 GMT -5
If you have a strong sexual relationship then you're not going to want to look elsewhere because you're satisfied. If you want to look elsewhere, something fundamental is wrong and some need isn't being met in which point the relationship probably isn't that strong after all. Well it sounds like you don't think an open relationship is a good thing under any circumstances: if there is a strong relationship it's not needed and if it is wanted, it's a sign of a weak relationship. My question assumes that there are circumstances under which an open relationship is ok. |
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Post by BA on Nov 12, 2005 7:50:57 GMT -5
Chan (Chan Chan), great photos of you and Earl. Really looking like you were having alot of fun indeed! Now wondering if half the Murderball team is going to be over here visiting. They are all WAY too young for me, lol.
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Post by matisse on Nov 12, 2005 16:25:31 GMT -5
Personally, if I were to do it, I would do swinging instead of polyamory. I am not so sure about making that deeper emotional connection with other folks. But just sex could be good.
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Post by BA on Nov 12, 2005 22:25:47 GMT -5
But, Matisse, the problem with swinging is that it can be really, really sleazy and I am not into that whole thing. I think it's kinda gross when the first question after "Hey, what's your name" is "How big is your erect dick in exact inches."
Jason, even 31 is a bit young for me, lol.
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Post by matisse on Nov 13, 2005 0:21:32 GMT -5
True, but it still seems less risky for the relationship, IMO. Moot point for me anyway since I do neither.
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