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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 6, 2011 12:43:50 GMT -5
I feel like such an old fogey, I've been gathering dates from dating4disabled.com, which is a mess of a site. Goodness gracious.
It's great to see everyone here! I'm amazed this site has existed since 2000 and I'm only just finding it.
I've been an active dev since about that time. Well, I guess I didn't start dating disabled men until 2006.
Anyway, let me introduce myself. I'm Ruth. I'm 28 years old and I live in Maryland. I work as an office manager, but fiction writing is my real passion. I wrote a fiction book about devoteeism called (W)hole and self-published it.
I have lots of interests and many things going on in my life right now. I want to meet new people and start new relationships and just see where things go.
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Post by E on Jan 6, 2011 12:50:27 GMT -5
Welcome, Ruth.
We are glad to have you.
I'm sure you have realized you are a quasi-celebrity around here.
Hearing you're 28 -- the same age as I am -- makes me feel like I need to hurry up in completing a book.
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 6, 2011 13:39:51 GMT -5
Welcome, Ruth. We are glad to have you. I'm sure you have realized you are a quasi-celebrity around here. Hearing you're 28 -- the same age as I am -- makes me feel like I need to hurry up in completing a book. It feels amazing to be a sort-of celebrity. I really had no idea that anyone except a few of my friends had read my book! It's weird, actually, I've always felt like I was behind, not accomplishing enough with my life. I'm very driven. I was 27 when the book came out and I felt old! It's never enough, I always want to accomplish more and more with my writing. I'm really happy to be here and to meet everyone. I had just told a new friend about my book and he said, "Did you know there are people talking about it online?" I had no idea.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 6, 2011 14:06:06 GMT -5
Welcome Ruth.
When I turned 30, I felt the same way, like I was behind. I still feel that way but working on it.
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 6, 2011 17:45:22 GMT -5
Welcome Ruth. When I turned 30, I felt the same way, like I was behind. I still feel that way but working on it. Going to my high school reunion was a drag. I felt like I had nothing to show, I wasn't anywhere near where I wanted to be. But we all look to the things we don't have, right? I had a book, but all I could think about was all the things I didn't have. I'm glad the reunion is done and I can now approach 30 with a much clearer mind and psyche!
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Post by wheelieInCali on Jan 6, 2011 17:50:27 GMT -5
Welcome, good to see you here. This place is awesome! It has it's slow periods like any online forum but stick around and before long you'll be hooked like me.
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Post by BA on Jan 6, 2011 17:55:51 GMT -5
Once again, so glad you found us and are here!
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Post by Devoblue on Jan 10, 2011 8:43:25 GMT -5
I'm a little late in welcoming you but better late than never. Very glad you've joined us and I hope you enjoy your time here.
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 10, 2011 13:24:39 GMT -5
Hi Ruth and welcome to the garden. It's good to have you here. I am a little slower in reading your book than some of the others. Firstly, I am farther away from that nirvana called Amazon and I like my books in print not in electronic form - so hence had to wait a bit longer to get it. Secondly and possibly a little differently to the other devs, I've found that since I have been on this site, I just can't get into reading or writing fantasy/fiction like I used to. I would much rather read something based in reality, a biography or a collection of anecdotes and real life experiences dealing with disability. That said, I am about half way through the book at the moment and Stewart has just discovered the elephant in the room. One thing I would like to comment on is the relative ease with which Elizabeth and Stewart got together in your book. Now I know that had to happen early to set the premise for the book, but hearing the stories from the board and some other experiences, I have a view that it's really not that easy. Stewart just seems a little too self assured, a little too accepting about this "new life" and it seems that in reality the biggest obstacle is each person's relationship with himself/herself (dev or wheeler). It's true, the book is not realistic in some aspects. It's sort-of a hybrid, I blended my real life experiences with dealing with my own emotions and added in this "romance-hero" type guy. It is not at all that easy to meet potential dates! That's the part of the book that's fantasy. The difficulty of meeting people is something I think I will touch in in the sequel.
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Post by benquad on Jan 14, 2011 10:23:19 GMT -5
WELCOME!
IM CHARGING THROUGH MY 1/4 LIFE CRISIS!
I hope to share some of my " Memoirs on wheels" soon
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Post by Pony on Jan 14, 2011 11:24:00 GMT -5
Ahhhh, it feels I've been 'late' to everything in life....hell, it took fuckin years to grad college! lol I finally, at the ripe age of 52, did publish my book of short stories. The stories don't deal with disability, but all carry messages and parts of my life. In the preface I tell a little about my background and concept of the title, but I didn't want the focus of my book to be on my disability. www.lulu.com/product/paperback/goodnight-sun/13036132Ruth, we have a Maryland-connection. I got hurt in car accident just outside Balto...i worked at Westinghouse near the airport, got drunk with friend after work, crashed into tree. I rehabbed in Maryland Rehab Center. Maybe you've been there? Anyway, I have such distant, yet fond memories in that rehab center...not unlike military men feel when going through boot camp, I imagine.
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 14, 2011 11:36:43 GMT -5
Congratulations on your book, Tony, that's wonderful. I hope we'll see something soon from you too, Benquad. It takes so much time and work and effort to put a book together, it is a great sense of accomplishment when you do it, even if you can't get a publisher interested! Also, I have not heard about the Maryland Rehab Center. Thanks for letting me know, I'm going to look it up. I was just thinking that there must be such a place nearby. I just moved here a little over a year ago. In Boston, where I'm from, I know where Spaulding Rehab is
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Post by matisse on Jan 14, 2011 11:49:05 GMT -5
I got hurt in Maryland too LOL......On my way back to the Baltimore Marriott from dinner, I was too busy talking with my colleague to notice an oddly-placed drop off. My front right wheel went off of the curb, which spun my chair around so that both front wheels were off the curb, which of course literally dumped me out of the chair and on to the ground........I went to the hospital since I had hit my head. Everything turned out ok in the end, but for a week or so I had a very badly scratched up face. Interestingly, people (strangers) were more nice than usual as I went about my days with my scuffed face. I was surprised, I though the opposite would be true.
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Post by matisse on Jan 14, 2011 11:50:20 GMT -5
Anyway, I have such distant, yet fond memories in that rehab center... Hot nurses?
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Post by Pony on Jan 14, 2011 12:56:02 GMT -5
Too funny, Matissimo...lol WTF, man, are you accident prone? I took a few spills in Balto the first two years after i got hurt. Hot nurses? Yes, I fell in love too many times...; )
Yeah Ruth, I think it's on Ravenwood Dr, right beside the state hospital (Monticello)...lol I still remember the address after 30 years!! lol The movie 'Waterdance" reminded me of my rehab stay. We had some funny ass times, along with the inevitable sad ones.
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