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Post by BA on Nov 9, 2011 9:10:27 GMT -5
I am very sorry, Ruth. It can be so discouraging. Hugs to you.
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Post by Pisti on Nov 9, 2011 9:49:57 GMT -5
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Post by Pisti on Nov 9, 2011 12:01:47 GMT -5
Like Inigo, I also have a special talent for liking guys that don't like me back... or if they do, they're married or otherwise unavailable. But you know this... I could have seconded that until few years ago.  |
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Post by Valkyrja on Nov 9, 2011 13:01:23 GMT -5
That kind of lack of reciprocity really sucks, Ruth...
I´m very sorry it happened to you
I think we all women have passed for that point at least once in our life. It really sucks.
Again, sorry it happened to you Ruth. Hope you are feeling better. We are here to support you.
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Post by Emma on Nov 9, 2011 13:41:47 GMT -5
Ruth I too know how you feel. I'm so sorry. Maybe there is a reason you went through all this thought about AB guys. I'm sure you learned some things.
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Post by ruthmadison on Nov 9, 2011 13:52:28 GMT -5
Interestingly, high dev still has not returned. I continue to feel interested in AB guys (maybe time to go flirt with the cute FedEx guy...) I still have feelings for the first guy, and who knows, maybe things will change. Or maybe he has friends like him.
I even went to see my amputee friend and the strangest thing is, I still couldn't stop thinking about the AB guy. So weird.
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Post by ruthmadison on Nov 9, 2011 13:53:00 GMT -5
I'm sorry, Ruth. I have a special talent for liking guys who don't like me back. It sucks. :-( I send hugs and hopes for better in the future.  Me too! Story of my life. lol. Feels like when I was in college all over again. |
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Post by Peony on Nov 10, 2011 5:19:47 GMT -5
He doesn't like me back. I'm almost positive and now I feel crushed. Is that why they call it a crush? Because when the other person doesn't like you back, it really feels like you're being flattened. I can say that I firmly believe when it finally happens, when you meet a guy who you can totally get into, who is just as into you, you will be so glad you waited and didn't just throw in the towel or settle. *hugs* Oh noes! I'm very sorry to hear that! Still, that means the universe has someone better for you in store! And I second Lucretia's excellent advice! |
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Post by dentelle on Nov 10, 2011 5:50:37 GMT -5
Huggles Ruth I know the crushed feeling. A very crushed feeling. I've even had the bitter-sweet thing. Now that is something to feel. I haven't had that for years. Oh well, I'm picking myself back up off the ground and hopefully will find true love with that AB guy here We went to see a movie the other night. My oldest came with us. He was an add-on. I called him at the last minute. We went to see Harold and Kumar. It was their Christmas movie. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2011 15:25:30 GMT -5
Sorry to hear Ruth, don't give up! I know this sounds corny but there are other fish in the sea....
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Post by ruthmadison on Nov 11, 2011 8:19:08 GMT -5
Huggles Ruth I know the crushed feeling. A very crushed feeling. I've even had the bitter-sweet thing. Now that is something to feel. I haven't had that for years. Oh well, I'm picking myself back up off the ground and hopefully will find true love with that AB guy here We went to see a movie the other night. My oldest came with us. He was an add-on. I called him at the last minute. We went to see Harold and Kumar. It was their Christmas movie. Yay! And I didn't know Harold and Kumar had a new movie. Trying to be optimistic, I do have to think it's encouraging to have these feelings at all. The truth is I fell in love hard in college with someone who was never a possibility for me. We were great friends and hung out all the time. I wanted to be around him every moment of every day. He made me feel loved, safe, comfortable, just right as I am. No one else has ever made me feel that way. I did not tell him the truth about my feelings because I knew that he wouldn't ever date me (religious reasons) and I watched him get married to someone else. I figured that if I felt something like that once, I would feel it again. Just had to wait for it. It's been twelve years and I didn't find it again. That man is the only one I've really loved. Now suddenly, I am having feelings like that for someone else. It's incredible. It's something that I was beginning to doubt would happen again. It feels great, but it also stings because I can feel myself being drawn into the same exact trajectory as before and not being able to do anything about it. If I have to wait another twelve years for a third strike of lightning... I don't know if I have that in me. |
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Post by Valkyrja on Nov 11, 2011 10:00:56 GMT -5
I´ve never fallen easily for no one. But I´ve had a "great love" in every stage of my life.
When I was 7, I was "madly in love" with my neighbor; I remember that every time I saw him I felt buterflies in my stomach... he was 12 and obviously he hated my guts! It lasted about 5 years of pain and sorrow (LOL).
Then, in my preteen time, when I was 14 yo I met a boy (he was 16) and ahhh... how hard I fell for him! and he liked me too!... I was in heaven.
We shared 2 wonderfull weeks hanging out together. His home was about 200 km from mine so, we kept in touch by letter for one year.
Then, when I was 15 and something, I received a letter from his sister telling me that he had died, he drowned. I was an afflicted teenager with a long-distance love... that ended up dead (Romeo and Juliet was nothing in comparison!) I swear I would never wish that teenager pain to anyone. The pain was so terrible that it choked me, obviously I tried several times to "go with him"... if you know what I mean.
After a long mourning, when I was almost 19 I met a 26yo guy. He was the love of the beginning of my adult life... I was no longer a teen but I wasn´t a grown up either. And I was attracted by him like a moth to the flame.
He was so tall, so sexy... but he was so f*cked up, so cynical that our relationship was worst than a wicked game.
That wicked relationship immersed me in a whirlwind of anger and vengeance towards all men.
I became what I hated, between my 21 and 25 yo, I used every man that attracted me just for one night pleasure and then I discarded them no matter what.
It took 4 years of lust to make peace with myself and forgive him.
A year later, at 26, I met my current partner ... He was so persistent that managed to penetrate the walls that I had constructed. It took me 6 months to realize that I had fallen for him and 6 more months to tell him I loved him!... it happened 16 years ago.
This is the summary of my love life (not my sexual life... that´s another story).
There was only one constant in my life, my devness and the guilt to think each time "what wonderful it would be if he were a para"
Hope I didn´t bored you too much ;D ... I think this is my longest post ever!
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Post by ruthmadison on Nov 11, 2011 10:24:35 GMT -5
That is very touching, Val!
I can't imagine how painful and difficult it must have been to have the object of your love die like that! My goodness!
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Post by Cake on Nov 11, 2011 11:07:22 GMT -5
I´ve never fallen easily for no one. But I´ve had a "great love" in every stage of my life. When I was 7, I was "madly in love" with my neighbor; I remember that every time I saw him I felt buterflies in my stomach... he was 12 and obviously he hated my guts! It lasted about 5 years of pain and sorrow (LOL). Then, in my preteen time, when I was 14 yo I met a boy (he was 16) and ahhh... how hard I fell for him! and he liked me too!... I was in heaven. We shared 2 wonderfull weeks hanging out together. His home was about 200 km from mine so, we kept in touch by letter for one year. Then, when I was 15 and something, I received a letter from his sister telling me that he had died, he drowned. I was an afflicted teenager with a long-distance love... that ended up dead (Romeo and Juliet was nothing in comparison!) I swear I would never wish that teenager pain to anyone. The pain was so terrible that it choked me, obviously I tried several times to "go with him"... if you know what I mean. After a long mourning, when I was almost 19 I met a 26yo guy. He was the love of the beginning of my adult life... I was no longer a teen but I wasn´t a grown up either. And I was attracted by him like a moth to the flame. He was so tall, so sexy... but he was so f*cked up, so cynical that our relationship was worst than a wicked game. That wicked relationship immersed me in a whirlwind of anger and vengeance towards all men. I became what I hated, between my 21 and 25 yo, I used every man that attracted me just for one night pleasure and then I discarded them no matter what. It took 4 years of lust to make peace with myself and forgive him. A year later, at 26, I met my current partner ... He was so persistent that managed to penetrate the walls that I had constructed. It took me 6 months to realize that I had fallen for him and 6 more months to tell him I loved him!... it happened 16 years ago. This is the summary of my love life (not my sexual life... that´s another story). There was only one constant in my life, my devness and the guilt to think each time "what wonderful it would be if he were a para" Hope I didn´t bored you too much ;D ... I think this is my longest post ever! Love you |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 11, 2011 13:53:53 GMT -5
I´ve never fallen easily for no one. But I´ve had a "great love" in every stage of my life. When I was 7, I was "madly in love" with my neighbor; I remember that every time I saw him I felt buterflies in my stomach... he was 12 and obviously he hated my guts! It lasted about 5 years of pain and sorrow (LOL). Then, in my preteen time, when I was 14 yo I met a boy (he was 16) and ahhh... how hard I fell for him! and he liked me too!... I was in heaven. We shared 2 wonderfull weeks hanging out together. His home was about 200 km from mine so, we kept in touch by letter for one year. Then, when I was 15 and something, I received a letter from his sister telling me that he had died, he drowned. I was an afflicted teenager with a long-distance love... that ended up dead (Romeo and Juliet was nothing in comparison!) I swear I would never wish that teenager pain to anyone. The pain was so terrible that it choked me, obviously I tried several times to "go with him"... if you know what I mean. After a long mourning, when I was almost 19 I met a 26yo guy. He was the love of the beginning of my adult life... I was no longer a teen but I wasn´t a grown up either. And I was attracted by him like a moth to the flame. He was so tall, so sexy... but he was so f*cked up, so cynical that our relationship was worst than a wicked game. That wicked relationship immersed me in a whirlwind of anger and vengeance towards all men. I became what I hated, between my 21 and 25 yo, I used every man that attracted me just for one night pleasure and then I discarded them no matter what. It took 4 years of lust to make peace with myself and forgive him. A year later, at 26, I met my current partner ... He was so persistent that managed to penetrate the walls that I had constructed. It took me 6 months to realize that I had fallen for him and 6 more months to tell him I loved him!... it happened 16 years ago. This is the summary of my love life (not my sexual life... that´s another story). There was only one constant in my life, my devness and the guilt to think each time "what wonderful it would be if he were a para" Hope I didn´t bored you too much ;D ... I think this is my longest post ever! Love you [/quote Me, too. |
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