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Post by Boyinwheelchair on Sept 30, 2019 2:02:20 GMT -5
Hey there, I'm new to this thread and just wanted to Introduce myself… I live in Los Angeles, work in film and television as a producer, and I've been doing life in a chair since a trampolining accident in 2013. looking forward to connecting with some of you. Ok...i am curious what shows and movies did you produce so far
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Post by timm on Oct 1, 2019 20:17:57 GMT -5
Hey there, I'm new to this thread and just wanted to Introduce myself… I live in Los Angeles, work in film and television as a producer, and I've been doing life in a chair since a trampolining accident in 2013. looking forward to connecting with some of you.
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Post by timm on Oct 1, 2019 20:23:44 GMT -5
Hi Lenny, Welcome to the site. We are always in awe of the whole tv and movie production world when we visit LA and Burbank, where younger family works. Keep in touch. 🙂
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Post by lennylarsen on Oct 1, 2019 22:20:25 GMT -5
Hey there, I'm new to this thread and just wanted to Introduce myself… I live in Los Angeles, work in film and television as a producer, and I've been doing life in a chair since a trampolining accident in 2013. looking forward to connecting with some of you. Ok...i am curious what shows and movies did you produce so far At the moment, I'm the executive producer for two new kids series, one in preproduction and the other in postproduction. Also working as a consultant for a new crime drama series on NBC. In the past, my work was largely in the theme park world, executive producing or directing more than 120 projects worldwide.
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Post by newmn on Oct 24, 2019 8:23:54 GMT -5
So I spent most of my life as a “lurker” in 2 areas - as a dev and also a gay man. Actually, sharing this with anyone happened simultaneously when I started texting with a PWD gay guy. What were your experiences? Anyone else have their first gay connection with someone who was a dev or PWD? Also, if there’s anyone here who’s a “gay lurker”, I hope you know that this is a safe place to discuss those feelings as well. Feel free to reply by private message if you’d rather not post to this thread.
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Post by robbb on Oct 24, 2019 10:03:19 GMT -5
I'm neither openly gay nor dev outside of this forum, but quite comfortable about both in my own mind at least.
My first gay encounter was with a married AB man, my second with a gay PWD.
R.
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Post by timm on Oct 27, 2019 20:01:43 GMT -5
I’m posting this here trying to keep this thread active though I suppose it could be a new one.
Subject: What would you have done?
I’m in Whole Foods and there is a very handsome guy in a wheelchair shopping. Our paths don’t really cross until I am leaving the store and he is getting into his car, parked in the handicapped spaces right in front. He has gotten his wheelchair in the space between the back seat and front seat and is in the driver’s seat. He is having a bit of s struggle getting the back door closed but does it.
Just to set the scene he is very attractive with perfect preppy clothes. haircut and a white Mercedes. I am a couple of years older but considered attractive and fit at 6’3”.
I wanted to offer to help with the door. Actually I wanted to help put away his groceries and spend the rest of the afternoon making love to him.
Indecision was my enemy, he drove away. If you were him, would you have welcomed or been put off by my offer of help? I don’t know if he was gay or bi, but my gaydar thought there was a good possibility.
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Post by newmn on Oct 27, 2019 22:37:31 GMT -5
Best answered by the PWD guys, but I might have made a generic “hello” type greeting to gauge his response. That would open the door for him to ask for a hand if he really did need it.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2019 8:27:27 GMT -5
This has happened to me about a million times over the years. The same car scenario or a PWD who looked at me and smiled. I just wish I had the nerve to actually say “hello”. Looking back on all the past opportunities makes me realize now that I have nothing to lose. It’s just a hello. If the guy was truly interested…
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Post by newmn on Oct 28, 2019 9:15:23 GMT -5
This has happened to me about a million times over the years. The same car scenario or a PWD who looked at me and smiled. I just wish I had the nerve to actually say “hello”. Looking back on all the past opportunities makes me realize now that I have nothing to lose. It’s just a hello. If the guy was truly interested… I think my heart jump out of my chest if a PWD guy struck up a random conversation. Sometimes it would be nice to explain to a guy why I can’t take my eyes off of him...not because of his disability but because I think he’s extremely hot. But that would just be weird - especially since he’s likely straight.
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Post by robbb on Oct 28, 2019 9:57:25 GMT -5
As I have said in many threads I am not attracted to effeminate men so if I find a straight looking guy attractive by the law of averages he will be straight. So any sort of chat up line would be difficult.
In this situation, and I have been in similar, I would simply ask if he needed any help, as much as anything in the hope that it would lead to some conversation.
In situations like this guys never needed help and it has never really lead to conversation.
R.
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Post by alex48 on Nov 8, 2019 9:30:33 GMT -5
I’m posting this here trying to keep this thread active though I suppose it could be a new one. Subject: What would you have done? I’m in Whole Foods and there is a very handsome guy in a wheelchair shopping. Our paths don’t really cross until I am leaving the store and he is getting into his car, parked in the handicapped spaces right in front. He has gotten his wheelchair in the space between the back seat and front seat and is in the driver’s seat. He is having a bit of s struggle getting the back door closed but does it. Just to set the scene he is very attractive with perfect preppy clothes. haircut and a white Mercedes. I am a couple of years older but considered attractive and fit at 6’3”. I wanted to offer to help with the door. Actually I wanted to help put away his groceries and spend the rest of the afternoon making love to him. Indecision was my enemy, he drove away. If you were him, would you have welcomed or been put off by my offer of help? I don’t know if he was gay or bi, but my gaydar thought there was a good possibility. As a long time lurker I felt compelled to sign up and offer my two cents on this discussion. I'm disabled and have often struggled getting things into cars. I would NEVER be offended by someone offering to help me. In fact, I love when someone offers to help me even though I usually turn them down (I hate strangers touching my stuff). If I found you attractive though, I would definitely let you help me just to get to chat with you. Next time just say, "Hey, can I give you a hand?". You'll know quickly if he's interested. If a disabled guy takes offense to you offering to help him, well, he has other problems. An offer of help from an attractive guy would be thrilling to me. Makes me think I should be shopping at Whole Foods more.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 8, 2019 12:34:19 GMT -5
I’m posting this here trying to keep this thread active though I suppose it could be a new one. Subject: What would you have done? I’m in Whole Foods and there is a very handsome guy in a wheelchair shopping. Our paths don’t really cross until I am leaving the store and he is getting into his car, parked in the handicapped spaces right in front. He has gotten his wheelchair in the space between the back seat and front seat and is in the driver’s seat. He is having a bit of s struggle getting the back door closed but does it. Just to set the scene he is very attractive with perfect preppy clothes. haircut and a white Mercedes. I am a couple of years older but considered attractive and fit at 6’3”. I wanted to offer to help with the door. Actually I wanted to help put away his groceries and spend the rest of the afternoon making love to him. Indecision was my enemy, he drove away. If you were him, would you have welcomed or been put off by my offer of help? I don’t know if he was gay or bi, but my gaydar thought there was a good possibility. As a long time lurker I felt compelled to sign up and offer my two cents on this discussion. I'm disabled and have often struggled getting things into cars. I would NEVER be offended by someone offering to help me. In fact, I love when someone offers to help me even though I usually turn them down (I hate strangers touching my stuff). If I found you attractive though, I would definitely let you help me just to get to chat with you. Next time just say, "Hey, can I give you a hand?". You'll know quickly if he's interested. If a disabled guy takes offense to you offering to help him, well, he has other problems. An offer of help from an attractive guy would be thrilling to me. Makes me think I should be shopping at Whole Foods more. Whole Foods! Drinks after the groceries? 😉
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Post by alex48 on Nov 8, 2019 18:05:33 GMT -5
Whole Foods! Drinks after the groceries? 😉 Wheatgrass?
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Post by alex48 on Nov 8, 2019 18:16:41 GMT -5
This has happened to me about a million times over the years. The same car scenario or a PWD who looked at me and smiled. I just wish I had the nerve to actually say “hello”. Looking back on all the past opportunities makes me realize now that I have nothing to lose. It’s just a hello. If the guy was truly interested… I think my heart jump out of my chest if a PWD guy struck up a random conversation. Sometimes it would be nice to explain to a guy why I can’t take my eyes off of him...not because of his disability but because I think he’s extremely hot. But that would just be weird - especially since he’s likely straight. You think your heart would jump out of your chest if a PWD guy struck up a conversation with you??? If an able-bodied guy struck up a conversation with me I would probably faint!!! From my experience, most able-bodied gay men have no interest in a PWD. If you are attracted to a PWD then you should ALWAYS find a way to strike up a conversation. I would not recommend your opening line to be "YOU'RE HOT!!!", just in case he's straight. Ask directions or something. To all Devotees: Don't EVER be afraid to chat up a PWD. We're the ones who don't want to start up a conversation for fear of rejection. Every time I go out in public I wish and hope an able bodied guy would chat me up. It rarely happens.
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