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Post by BA on May 13, 2006 19:00:26 GMT -5
Welcome back Leilia, I missed you!
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Post by Amy on May 14, 2006 3:56:24 GMT -5
Anything new in the James saga?
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Post by Pisti on May 14, 2006 7:45:49 GMT -5
Hi Leilia, Welcome back! I think it is up to you to feel whether there are any "strings" or not. I wish there are none - because if there are any they probably hurt you like hell... Men usually don't make a big fuss about some sleeping apart - only the woman get ulcers from the guilt. I believe that when you feel confortable to talk about this chapter of your life with your soon-to-be husband, he'll understand any explication you might come up with (J. in need of some confort, you wanting to try out if you're decided to marry, your devo feelings running wild,..., anything). He might even find it flattering that you choose him. But the first thing is to come to terms with your own feelings... And of course shoot all the unasked advice givers like me.  |
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Post by Triassic on May 14, 2006 9:04:28 GMT -5
Judit, are you nuts?! If Leilia tells her fiance about J, he won't BE her fiance anymore...
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Post by Pisti on May 14, 2006 10:54:41 GMT -5
Judit, are you nuts?! If Leilia tells her fiance about J, he won't BE her fiance anymore... Why?  |
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Post by needles on May 14, 2006 11:31:35 GMT -5
Judit, are you nuts?! If Leilia tells her fiance about J, he won't BE her fiance anymore... Why? Men are flighty creatures and at times given to become jealous and whiney. You need to take caution when approaching sensitive subjects.  |
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Post by Amy on May 14, 2006 21:07:46 GMT -5
Thank god you are not telling your bf. That would be a huge mistake!
I've never successfully managed to have a no-strings attached relationship, no matter how hard I tried. The guys were never able to deal with the fact that I was seeing other guys and would always try to talk me into something more serious. Guys always act like they want the NSA stuff, but then they end up not being able to handle it.
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Post by wheelie37 on May 15, 2006 0:37:02 GMT -5
It is possible to have no strings fun without getting too serious.
Just look on it as being a good friend and fulfilling a basic human of need of affection and a sex life and maybe doing something that you may not be able to get else where, with a friend you care about and helping them with thier needs too.
Some guys can handle it, specially if they do not want a full time relationship for various reasons.
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Post by spurs2000 on May 26, 2006 9:02:01 GMT -5
Some guys can handle it, specially if they do not want a full time relationship for various reasons. Yeah! I agree! |
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Post by maddie on May 28, 2006 11:11:47 GMT -5
I agree with what wheelie said entirely. No strings sex can be really beneficial and fun. It doesn't have to be an act of desperation. Sadly, the idea is pretty much taboo, or at least it is where I am in the US.
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Post by wheelie37 on May 29, 2006 0:34:55 GMT -5
There are groups of people who do "swinging" in the Uk and in the USA.
Most of them keep it quiet and do it by word of mouth.
It also tends to be couples or couples wanting another woman.
They may have the same problem of trust, jealousy, even sexual insecurities , mostly by the men judging by most couples looking for another woman etc
As you said , it is a taboo subject, even more so if it includes disabled people!
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Post by spurs2000 on May 29, 2006 5:57:45 GMT -5
There are groups of people who do "swinging" in the Uk and in the USA. Most of them keep it quiet and do it by word of mouth. It also tends to be couples or couples wanting another woman. They may have the same problem of trust, jealousy, even sexual insecurities , mostly by the men judging by most couples looking for another woman etc As you said , it is a taboo subject, even more so if it includes disabled people! You've hit the nail on the head there wheelie! |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jun 4, 2006 8:00:01 GMT -5
thanks  |
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