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Post by Braced4Impact on Nov 8, 2018 10:53:44 GMT -5
Just throwing the idea out here; we're all scattered across the globe here, and many times, the chances of a dev or a PWD finding each other locally is often somewhat slim. I know this isn't a dating site per se, but relationships have developed here, as well. However, there are some devs who aren't maybe ready to jump fully into a relationship, whether IRL or even just LDR, but those dev feelings still exist. You could read dev fiction or watch vids, look at pics, but there's another option. What about PWDs who are willing to have a casual, online role-play or NSA (no strings attached) relationship, where the dev kind of can test the waters, learn about what to say and not say, maybe explore their fantasies, and gain confidence for something more serious down the road? I've role played with a few devs on here, and am more than willing to do so again. I've got spina bifida and walk with a limp, incontinence issues, deformed feet/toes, and wear leg braces. If you're a lady dev who's interested in perhaps some fun, no-pressure roleplaying through the PMs here, send me a message. If you're a PWD, feel free to post in this thread if you're interested in doing so with a dev, too. I understand devs might be hesitant to reply to the message, but if PWDs state they're open for such experiences, maybe one of the devs reading this might then contact you. It could be just for fun, or something more serious can develop from it, so who knows? Anyway, just throwing the idea out there. Don't shoot the messenger.
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Post by The legs don't work on Nov 8, 2018 16:02:54 GMT -5
I would be willing to explore this. Sounds quite fun. Only into ladies though, no offence to any guy devs just not my thing.
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Post by lucretia on Nov 8, 2018 18:05:06 GMT -5
I've done it with a couple of guys... And once with a guy and another dev. š
With the right person it can be a really fantastic experience.
For me there has to be chemistry even if just goofing around. The one guy I had a role-play relationship with for over a year I would genuinely have been interested in him in other circumstances (age, distance, etc.) He was the second guy I tried it with, and it was never as good/intimate/satisfying with anyone else. Even people I actually dated IRL would try it when we were apart... And it was ... meh.
So yeah, it's a lot of fun, and it's a way to play with scenarios you might never get the chance to try IRL.
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Post by Braced4Impact on Nov 8, 2018 22:43:54 GMT -5
I've done it with a couple of guys... And once with a guy and another dev. š With the right person it can be a really fantastic experience. For me there has to be chemistry even if just goofing around. The one guy I had a role-play relationship with for over a year I would genuinely have been interested in him in other circumstances (age, distance, etc.) He was the second guy I tried it with, and it was never as good/intimate/satisfying with anyone else. Even people I actually dated IRL would try it when we were apart... And it was ... meh. So yeah, it's a lot of fun, and it's a way to play with scenarios you might never get the chance to try IRL. Absolutely! I think it's all about fun, but of course, everyone will have different experiences and different reasons for doing so. For a dev who's unsure how much they're into the whole concept of dating a PWD, it can be a great way to dip one's toes in the water, and for a PWD, it can be a huge confidence booster, and a way to gain experience. I highly encourage it, and I'm very much looking to get back on that saddle again
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Post by The legs don't work on Nov 9, 2018 4:46:26 GMT -5
I've done it with a couple of guys... And once with a guy and another dev. š With the right person it can be a really fantastic experience. For me there has to be chemistry even if just goofing around. The one guy I had a role-play relationship with for over a year I would genuinely have been interested in him in other circumstances (age, distance, etc.) He was the second guy I tried it with, and it was never as good/intimate/satisfying with anyone else. Even people I actually dated IRL would try it when we were apart... And it was ... meh. So yeah, it's a lot of fun, and it's a way to play with scenarios you might never get the chance to try IRL. That's really interesting. How did you both bring up the subject initially or did it "just happen"? Would you say the roleplaying activities were driven by the things that interest you as a dev, about disability?
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Post by gimpygay on Nov 9, 2018 5:11:44 GMT -5
Sounds like great fun. I suppose I have done this online without really thinking about it. I have Spina Bifida and cannot stand or walk so I am in a wheelchair. However, SB being the weird and wonderful condition it is, I have bladder and bowel control (except for the occasional "accident", and normal sexual function.
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Post by lucretia on Nov 9, 2018 8:14:29 GMT -5
I've done it with a couple of guys... And once with a guy and another dev. š With the right person it can be a really fantastic experience. For me there has to be chemistry even if just goofing around. The one guy I had a role-play relationship with for over a year I would genuinely have been interested in him in other circumstances (age, distance, etc.) He was the second guy I tried it with, and it was never as good/intimate/satisfying with anyone else. Even people I actually dated IRL would try it when we were apart... And it was ... meh. So yeah, it's a lot of fun, and it's a way to play with scenarios you might never get the chance to try IRL. That's really interesting. How did you both bring up the subject initially or did it "just happen"? Would you say the roleplaying activities were driven by the things that interest you as a dev, about disability? Except for the one guy who was very experienced, the beginnings were a little clunky. You kind of have to know how to get the ball rolling. With the one guy it happened totally organically. I couldn't even tell you how it first changed from just chatting to a full-on role play experience. It just did. I'd say if you have chemistry and your conversation is fun and spontaneous then moving into role play is easy. If you just want to jump to it, it can be clumsy and embarrassing at first. For me it was less about disability and more about what we could do if we were together in person. Of course that included his disability, but it was definitely personality and attraction first. One time we tried role playing as if he were AB, and it was hilariously bad. So definitely his being disabled was a big part of it. But it was more because we became vulnerable to each other in our "realest" selves with both of our experiences, abilities and limitations that made it the amazing experience it was.
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Post by Braced4Impact on Nov 9, 2018 8:52:03 GMT -5
Yeah, chemistry is a must, but it can certainly evolve too, it doesn't have be instant. Start out getting to know your role play partner, find out who they are, what they're like, what they like to do, what they're interested in, and start casually building from there. I know it's exciting for a PWD, but don't lead off with sex (unless the dev does first, lol.) It's like going on a virtual date, get to know each other and then see where it goes from there. You might find you don't mesh well right at the get go, so don't try to force it, but if things look promising, build on that. Ground rules being established early on are good, too.
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Post by The legs don't work on Nov 9, 2018 12:41:31 GMT -5
That's really interesting. How did you both bring up the subject initially or did it "just happen"? Would you say the roleplaying activities were driven by the things that interest you as a dev, about disability? Except for the one guy who was very experienced, the beginnings were a little clunky. You kind of have to know how to get the ball rolling. With the one guy it happened totally organically. I couldn't even tell you how it first changed from just chatting to a full-on role play experience. It just did. I'd say if you have chemistry and your conversation is fun and spontaneous then moving into role play is easy. If you just want to jump to it, it can be clumsy and embarrassing at first. For me it was less about disability and more about what we could do if we were together in person. Of course that included his disability, but it was definitely personality and attraction first. One time we tried role playing as if he were AB, and it was hilariously bad. So definitely his being disabled was a big part of it. But it was more because we became vulnerable to each other in our "realest" selves with both of our experiences, abilities and limitations that made it the amazing experience it was. Absolutely I can understand that and I suppose a first time will always be a bit awkward when it comes to sensual or intimate contact or in this case discussion. I think it's great that you are so open to this kind of thing. Speaking as a disabled guy myself, I know it's quite difficult for me to open up to just anyone in that way but that's mainly because i'm concerned about the way i'm perceived in terms of body image etc. I love the fact that there are women out there who are willing to have that sort of experience with a disabled guy and would like to try it. What disabilities did the guys have if you don't mind me asking? Would it be something you would be willing to experience again?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2018 13:18:34 GMT -5
I think it is a good way to have fun, test out the waters, explore some fantasies, and play with someone who lives too far away. For me I have to build a connection first, find a type of trust and I have to be attracted to him and his disability in other ways. It should also be a friendship. I have experienced online playing and it always was fun and thinking about it makes me smile.
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Post by janzax on Nov 9, 2018 13:20:55 GMT -5
Never tryed but sounds interesting, Iād defenetly liked to try this if I could find the right Person to play with. :-)
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Post by Braced4Impact on Nov 9, 2018 13:24:11 GMT -5
I think it is a good way to have fun, test out the waters, explore some fantasies, and play with someone who lives too far away. For me I have to build a connection first, find a type of trust and I have to be attracted to him and his disability in other ways. It should also be a friendship. I have experienced online playing and it always was fun and thinking about it makes me smile. Agreed, Dani. I certainly believe both parties can certainly gain a lot more than just sexual gratification. Confidence for both dev and PWD alike can grow, as well as learning curves; like a dev might learn of a faux pas which he/she might not commit again, or a PWD might learn some insight on what to say and not say when talking with a dev. I think a certain level of "forgiveness" should be included, especially as both sides are trying to feel each other out in the role play at first.
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Post by The legs don't work on Nov 9, 2018 15:42:47 GMT -5
I think it is a good way to have fun, test out the waters, explore some fantasies, and play with someone who lives too far away. For me I have to build a connection first, find a type of trust and I have to be attracted to him and his disability in other ways. It should also be a friendship. I have experienced online playing and it always was fun and thinking about it makes me smile. Totally understand that. I think there has to be a mutual trust and respect and also some attraction as well. How did you first of all get into that with your experience. Did it just happen like Lucretia's experience? Is it something that you would be interested in doing again?
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Post by malibu on Nov 9, 2018 16:25:06 GMT -5
I think it is a good way to have fun, test out the waters, explore some fantasies, and play with someone who lives too far away. For me I have to build a connection first, find a type of trust and I have to be attracted to him and his disability in other ways. It should also be a friendship. I have experienced online playing and it always was fun and thinking about it makes me smile. like a dev might learn of a faux pas which he/she might not commit again Do you have any examples to that?
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Post by Braced4Impact on Nov 9, 2018 16:37:48 GMT -5
like a dev might learn of a faux pas which he/she might not commit again Do you have any examples to that? Not exactly sure; perhaps a more insecure PWD might become sensitive on a particular topic or comment, whereas another doesn't care much either way. That's why it's a learning curve, and you figure out what each participant is comfortable with.
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