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Post by lisa on Jul 11, 2005 19:50:54 GMT -5
I have an interesting situation. I have told my husband that I am a devotee. He is really supportive and actually found it pretty cool that his wife had a kink. Anyway, here is my problem: He has offered to role play with me. I am a leg braces and crutches person first, wc second and he thinks it would be fun to get all trussed up in braces for me. Sounds ideal, right? The problem is that he isn't the one I want to see in braces. I am attracted to him for entirely different reasons that have nothing to do with being a devotee and I kind of don't want him to enter that world with me. I know how lucky I am that he didn't think I was a freak, but I am not sure how to explain to him that I don't want to role play with him. Has anyone had any similar situations or does anyone have any thoughts to share? Thanks!
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Post by bobby on Jul 12, 2005 6:43:08 GMT -5
Hi I know where you are coming from,my wife knew about my being a devotee/pretender,but wouldn't go with me on my outings.would you like to e mail about this subject? bobby
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Post by Emily on Jul 12, 2005 11:37:26 GMT -5
Omigod... totally same situation here!!! My bf knows I'm a dev and wants to pretend for me, but I'm just not into it. I think my bf is inCREDibly sexy and adore him, but it just doesnt do it for me to see him in a wc. Sooooo so weird.
Maybe its cuz i dont find pretenders sexy. I once had a dream about him where he was a DAK amp and woke up all wet.
It's hard to explain to him tho that even tho I'm a dev, I am still reeely attracted to his adorable able bodied self.
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Post by Emily on Jul 12, 2005 11:42:29 GMT -5
Oooh, and I would also like to add that even if my hunnybunny doesnt do it for me as a pretender, it is totally a turn-on that he WANTS to pretend and is always asking to do it. Go figure!!!
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Post by bobby on Jul 12, 2005 22:47:23 GMT -5
I would haved liked my ex wife to pretend with me but.
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Post by lisa on Jul 13, 2005 17:46:20 GMT -5
Thanks Emily and Bobby for your responses.
I think Emily had the key, though. I don't find pretenders sexy and I don't want to see my husband as a pretender.
I do think it is super sweet of him though to want to do that for me.
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Post by bobby on Jul 13, 2005 20:22:14 GMT -5
As a devo/pretender asked SO to be the devoted wife girlfriend,would not.Maybe same thing she didn't want to see me in a chair or braces.I had /have two chairs,would think it would be sooooooo cool to see her in a chair.
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Post by Triassic on Jul 14, 2005 17:37:03 GMT -5
Lisa and Emily, I would not be so hasty to rule out playing games w/an AB guy pretending to be a crip. If he's a good actor, it could work well.
I didnt think I had a submissive side-thought i was 100% dom- but I learned different...
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Post by Emily on Jul 14, 2005 19:20:08 GMT -5
Wellllllllllll............... it might be sexy if he WANTED to pretend, just cuz he wuz into it. But if he's only doing it for me............ gee, I'd just feel TOO self-conscious!!!
Plus I dont know if he quite "gets" what I think is hot about it. Sorta like an actor w/out insight. But he's still supersexy w/out a wc!
(ALSO: Lee, ur site totally ROCKS !!!!!!!!!! tHANK U for making it!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX)
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Post by Triassic on Jul 15, 2005 11:15:16 GMT -5
Um, yeah Emily...he'd be doing it 'for you'. But when he saw how much it turned you on, then itd be 'for him' as well, believe me.
Thats the whole point of role playing; to expand horizons and fulfill fantasies. Besides, its may be the closest you ever get to the real thing. I don't see a lot of dev/crip hookups IRL.
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Post by Emily on Jul 15, 2005 20:17:23 GMT -5
Um, yeah Emily...he'd be doing it 'for you'. But when he saw how much it turned you on, then itd be 'for him' as well, believe me. Hee hee, ur funnie Very very true!!!! I really don't know, guys! On one hand, I think it's really sexy that my bf wants to do it......... maybe it's that I'm ashamed of being a dev and I just imagine he's thinking, she's such a freako!!! Even if he's not, I can't help thinking that!
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Post by devogirl on Jul 15, 2005 22:49:51 GMT -5
Go for it! I have done some pretending with able-bodied guys and it is hot hot hot. You don't necessarily need a lot of expensive equipment, like wheelchairs or braces, either. I've found just playing around with surgical gauze as restraints and/or blindfolds, plus roleplaying can be really fun. Going out in public is complicated, not something I've tried. But in the bedroom you don't have to try to "pass", you only have to use your imagination. Also if you're worried the whole time that your bf thinks you're a freak, even vanilla sex will not be fun. He already told you he doesn't mind, and really most people I know don't think it's that big a deal. Once you get over feeling like a freak, you'll be amazed how much better the sex is.
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