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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2019 17:09:30 GMT -5
Are y'all saying that my scientific research here is flawed?
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Post by missparkle on Dec 14, 2019 17:43:05 GMT -5
Are y'all saying that my scientific research here is flawed? I have to back up my dear colleagues, Dr. BiPAP Sachin and @causticcrip, I am sure they will agree that the only thing we can claim by certain at this moment is that approximately 1,3978% members of this board dated/hooked up with another member and 0,9984% didn't (with assumption that everyone is telling the truth). I am also sure many other members will agree that side effect results of this research were not satisfying either. Or should we vote on that, too?
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Post by AlrightyAphrodite on Dec 14, 2019 18:06:11 GMT -5
Hmm ...not many, perhaps, but they certainly exist. There are facebook groups for blind seeking blind, for example, and they are quite heavily visited. Things become a little more tricky when blind seeks non-blind though, I would imagine :-) I am assuming similar initiatives for disabled people in general or other specific disabilities exist :-) A bit more tricky for non blind seeking blind too, but sometimes I get real lucky
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Post by infinatedreams on Dec 14, 2019 19:18:49 GMT -5
Isn't it just that the survey confirms that PD is not a dating site or at the very least a rubbish one if that was its primary function. Taking a look through the topics in the threads and very few are attempts at hooking up, those that do tend to be lacking in any awareness about PD and what it exists for, I suspect they have a zero success rate.
But to see that some folk do hook up, no surprise there, a bunch of devs and a bunch of pwd in the same space .. its gunna happen, and for those that do hook up then its probably those guys and devs that get involved with the conversations and more so the guys who show genuine interest in 'devness', wanting to understand devness and willing to be open themselves then those guys are going to be more 'appealing' to devs than the ones who trundle in and flash off their shiny new chair with the offer of a free ride.
Just my observation of course. Sadly my chair isn't shiny or new, its lived in, well used and with the odd dint so I'll skip the dating ad 😊
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Post by lizzy on Dec 14, 2019 20:40:35 GMT -5
This survey is a bit of fun. Thank you @mrniceguy I voted YES and I'm married. 😜
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2019 21:08:11 GMT -5
This survey is a bit of fun. Thank you @mrniceguy I voted YES and I'm married. 😜 If you ever find yourself in the Midwest US and want to add another vote... lol
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Post by lizzy on Dec 14, 2019 21:12:40 GMT -5
If you ever find yourself in the Midwest US and want to add another vote... lol I'll bear that in mind, my friend.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 15, 2019 4:17:16 GMT -5
and at the end of the day this site is about sharing and tapping into a fetish.. PD is a lot more to me personally than just a place to tap into a "fetish"...I don't consider devness a fetish at all. I believe I am not the only one who feels that way
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Dec 16, 2019 7:56:53 GMT -5
I feel like we easily miss-interpret what this survey reveals. As many say, the people who did meet someone here would be more inclined to answer the survey. I have not but am here with that hope, but not desperation. I think it would be very revealing if there's a survey of intention and desire for being on here. I think you may get better poll numbers if you make the thread more transparently a survey in its subject, @mrniceguy . Dani I'm very curious of what you do define devness as. A preference?
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Dec 16, 2019 9:26:05 GMT -5
Dani I'm very curious of what you do define devness as. A preference? I am one of the devs who do not think it is a fetish for me. I had dev feelings prior to learning/experiencing sexual feelings. It was more of an innate heart feeling I had to want to know PWDs with SCI when I was about 9 or 10. I had a lightbulb moment a couple of months ago after watching a documentary as to why those feelings/thoughts started. Then, with natural progression, as I became sexual in my teens, the dev thoughts began to become sexual too on top of all the other feelings I had been experiencing prior to. So, for me-it is way more than a sexual fetish-much deeper with many feelings attached to it. I often compare what I go through in my mind, how I felt when I “came out” here, similar to one of my best friends who was gay. He knew about my feelings/thoughts and said it was similar to his journey (he passed away at 26 from AIDS 27 years ago 😪). We were both trying to make sense of feelings that were not “ordinary.” I hope that helps to understand my devness. Each of us is a bit different.
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Post by missparkle on Dec 16, 2019 9:54:32 GMT -5
I am one of the devs who do not think it is a fetish for me. I had dev feelings prior to learning/experiencing sexual feelings. It was more of an innate heart feeling I had to want to know PWDs with SCI when I was about 9 or 10. I had a light bulb moment a couple of months ago after watching a documentary as to why those feelings/thoughts started. Then, with natural progression, as I became sexual in my teens, the dev thoughts began to become sexual too on top of all the other feelings I had been experiencing prior to. So, for me-it is way more than a sexual fetish-much deeper with many feelings attached to it. SouthernCalGal, I feel absolutely the same.
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Post by infinatedreams on Dec 16, 2019 10:04:18 GMT -5
Meh .. fetish .. can't describe a sexual preference as a fetish, and definately not one that seems (in many) to develop naturally before puberty or exposure to the more 'alternative' thing in life. A more appropriate word could be 'orientation'
Whatever the 'tag' I'd say a dev is a connoisseur of the finer things in life. But shhhhhhh keep it quiet only so many wheelers to go around. I could be biased though 😜
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Dec 16, 2019 10:24:33 GMT -5
A more appropriate word could be 'orientation' I have described my devness as an orientation (mostly in the dev only section). That is what it feels like and appears to be for me.
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Post by Braced4Impact on Dec 16, 2019 10:34:44 GMT -5
How do I get to the yellow column?
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Post by linda on Dec 16, 2019 10:41:12 GMT -5
To me, my devness is a matter of identity. It is many things. I cannot rule out that it also has a sexual part to it, but that is not my main focus, I don’t see it as a fetish and it is far less sexual than what I had believed my entire adult life, until I made my first experience. I came to realize that it is mostly really an identity. It is very hard to describe why I feel this way. It is the kind of thing that you can only understand when you’ve experienced it yourself. I am still just at the beginning of my journey of self-discovery, but I came to realize that when I had this very clear moment of self-awareness as a dev which felt like „becoming whole“. I just felt so in the right place with myself as I had never felt before. And that was before I had my first real life encounter with a PWD. So realizing myself as a dev had a great impact on me, notwithstanding whether or not I can live it in my everydaylife or not.
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