cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 15, 2020 17:29:14 GMT -5
I first learned about devotees about 6 months ago. In that time, I have not been able to have an actual conversation with anyone who identifies as one.
So here's my question: what does it mean to you to be a dev? I wanna know as much about it as y'all are willing to tell me 😊
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Post by lizzy on Feb 15, 2020 18:16:35 GMT -5
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 15, 2020 18:17:42 GMT -5
Oh damn, sorry!
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Post by lizzy on Feb 15, 2020 18:20:29 GMT -5
Not a problem! Really! You might get some interesting (new) responses.
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 15, 2020 18:27:39 GMT -5
So far the thread you directed me to has a lot about *why* people think they are devs. I guess I'm just trying to figure what it even means to be a dev. Does that make sense?
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Post by lizzy on Feb 15, 2020 18:57:21 GMT -5
No. Not really.
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 15, 2020 19:25:07 GMT -5
Fair enough lol
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Post by devogirl on Feb 15, 2020 19:28:55 GMT -5
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 15, 2020 19:34:23 GMT -5
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 15, 2020 21:29:33 GMT -5
This is great, thank you!
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Post by kat on Feb 16, 2020 3:48:33 GMT -5
I have some trouble understanding the exact meaning of your question, because as far as I know, the definition of a dev is pretty simple: someone who is (romantically/sexually/both) specifically attracted to people with disabilities. That's literally what it means to me.
What does it mean on a more concrete level? It means... I don't really want to date able-bodied guys, so my dating options are very limited. I often feel like the outsider or the odd one out because many people's turn-offs are my exact turn-ons. I hesitate to talk about dating and relationships with some of my friends who don't know this about me. I think about accessibility and representation a lot. Essentially, I guess it just means that the guy of my dreams is different from most people's guy of their dreams, which leads to some feelings of marginalization... but I'd like to think that it also affords me a pretty novel way of looking at the world.
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Feb 16, 2020 8:33:10 GMT -5
I have some trouble understanding the exact meaning of your question, because as far as I know, the definition of a dev is pretty simple: someone who is (romantically/sexually/both) specifically attracted to people with disabilities. That's literally what it means to me. What does it mean on a more concrete level? It means... I don't really want to date able-bodied guys, so my dating options are very limited. I often feel like the outsider or the odd one out because many people's turn-offs are my exact turn-ons. I hesitate to talk about dating and relationships with some of my friends who don't know this about me. I think about accessibility and representation a lot. Essentially, I guess it just means that the guy of my dreams is different from most people's guy of their dreams, which leads to some feelings of marginalization... but I'd like to think that it also affords me a pretty novel way of looking at the world. This is a great explanation, thank you!
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Post by robbb on Feb 16, 2020 10:27:19 GMT -5
the definition of a dev is pretty simple: someone who is (romantically/sexually/both) specifically attracted to people with disabilities. That's literally what it means to me. This. R.
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Post by newmn on Feb 16, 2020 11:00:54 GMT -5
I don't really want to date able-bodied guys, so my dating options are very limited. I often feel like the outsider or the odd one out because many people's turn-offs are my exact turn-ons. ...and this.
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Post by Amee on Feb 16, 2020 11:21:24 GMT -5
I don't really want to date able-bodied guys, so my dating options are very limited. I often feel like the outsider or the odd one out because many people's turn-offs are my exact turn-ons. ...and this. I would add that this is something where we already start to differ quite a bit - on the question how willing/keen we are to date AB guys. I personally have no problem dating AB guys. I find plenty of AB guys attractive, although the physical attraction to attractive PWD is always more intense. But since other factors apart from physical attraction tend to be much more important to me (and my attraction to PWD isn't exclusive), it never occurred to me to limit my dating just to PWD - precisely because the dating pool is so small. (Of course, finding someone within that small dating pool is the jackpot.) Completely agree about often feeling like an outsider and not being too keen to talk about my dating/relationship life because of it. I think that my devness has caused a lot of loneliness and isolation in my life.
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