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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2020 1:57:12 GMT -5
Very interesting to read your view and explanation on this Green
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Post by blindlover on Feb 20, 2020 14:48:34 GMT -5
Physical affection from others and sex to someone with a physical disability isn't only a matter of filling a common human need. It's a matter of filling an even deeper need for interacting with the world around you and integration with your body! It's about feeling more human in your own body.
Although my disability is totally different, and might not impair my ability to touch both in the sending and receiving ways, this resonates in me so deeply. I definitely don't want to speak for other blind people, but I think that my own (hyper)sensitivity to touch might also be a way to compensate for the visual interaction I miss.
The feeling I had about a week ago really made me think about this very thin a lot. I had been missing hugs and affection for a while, but it didn't seem to bother me that much, not more than I 'd expect normally anyway.
Then, someone gave me a nice and soft hug. It was from an almost stranger, with whom I had no special connection, certainly not beyond anything platonic. Still, her closeness and the way her hands caressed my back and briefly touched my neck for these few seconds, resulted in such intense sensations and emotions that I lost my focus on anything else that happened for a while .During that moment, all my thoughts just stopped. There ,was only that sensation. The rest of my mind just fell silent. Then came the chills that rushed all over me and lasted until long after the hug was over. Finally, a deep craving came over me of a kind I never felt before, and also confusion as to what I actually was feeling.
It was not until things started to calm down and return to normal, however , that I realized there was not really a sexual component to this experience. I think the sensations and emotions I felt made explicit the lack of loving affection that I was experiencing for a while now. That this relatively normal touch deprivation would affect me so deeply, was until then unimaginable for me.
So thank you so much for sharing this, and giving me the opportunity to relate to your story in my own way ...
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Post by Green on Feb 20, 2020 22:57:49 GMT -5
I think that internal frustration of liking touch is sometimes called skin hunger. I read it somewhere, when I find it I should post it here. It certainly isn't a sexual feeling, and I'm usually one to embrace whenever I do feel something sexual. So it isn't just because it's a less intense sexual desire that I don't want to be open about.
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Post by FlyingBert on Mar 4, 2020 11:48:03 GMT -5
I wonder why I lost that "touch joy"
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Post by Slinxter on Oct 6, 2020 16:21:58 GMT -5
It looks like the beginning of the COVID outbreaks was the last this was commented on.
How is everyone doing lately? I am guessing there are more people touched-starved than usual, with social distancing and such.
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Post by Green on Oct 7, 2020 17:46:57 GMT -5
Perhaps fortunately enough for me, even though it hasn't gotten better, it hasn't gotten worse either.
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Post by Sir Paul on Oct 9, 2020 21:22:59 GMT -5
It looks like the beginning of the COVID outbreaks was the last this was commented on. How is everyone doing lately? I am guessing there are more people touched-starved than usual, with social distancing and such. Yes! I've hardly seen anybody outside of my family this year. Every time I really dwell on not getting touched, hugged, or kissed, I want to risk it all and seek out some affection. This has been a trying time.
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Post by cilantro on Oct 9, 2020 21:47:12 GMT -5
I've been really touch starved lately. Affectionate touch is definitely my *thing.* When I'm with friends I kinda interact like a cat, I might go silent for a long time and just take hands and rest on shoulders while people are having conversations. It's just my way of saying "I'm still here and I still love you" even if I don't feel like I can contribute to the conversation at that moment. It's something that I really don't like about virtual conversation, sometimes I'll sit on the phone in silence with someone, but I'd really like to be able to nudge them with my foot or play with their hair and you can't get that whole part of it. I used to really get uncomfortable with silence and touch has been the way I learned to deal with it so it's hard having that separation. I really need a hug and a snuggle, especially as the colder months approach. Even under normal circumstances I get pretty touch hungry when the weather gets chilly, so not being able to curl under a blanket with someone and watch a movie is especially hard now. I have some touch time scheduled with a friend next week and it's literally been the only thing keeping me going for the past month, waiting is killing me, but it won't be nearly as hard as leaving after that week.
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Post by Slinxter on Oct 9, 2020 21:57:51 GMT -5
I could definitely use a few hundred hugs, and some cuddling.
I really wish we could send koalas and sloths to each other to deliver hugs. I suppose I will work out the logistics on that about the time I finish building the teleporter.
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Post by infinatedreams on Oct 10, 2020 2:42:03 GMT -5
I really wish we could send koalas and sloths to each other to deliver hugs. I suppose I will work out the logistics on that about the time I finish building the teleporter. sure ive read that koalas bite .. having said that a few hugs followed by some biting can be invigorating π As for a teleporter, i need one of those, bio filter of course for nasty bugs
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2021 17:39:28 GMT -5
I could definitely use a few hundred hugs, and some cuddling. I really wish we could send koalas and sloths to each other to deliver hugs. I suppose I will work out the logistics on that about the time I finish building the teleporter. Same. I'm not normally a hugger, but I haven't had a good long hug in years. It's definitely getting to me. internet hugs to you.
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Post by gimp3590 on Feb 20, 2021 18:03:34 GMT -5
i was fortunate enough to hold hands and cuddle with my girlfriend today and I always forget how something so simple can be so stimulating and comforting. also never having a real partner before makes me appreciate it that much more. she is also a big hugger but sometimes too tight, she is still getting use to dating a gimp
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Sept 21, 2022 17:44:54 GMT -5
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Post by someonerandom on Sept 21, 2022 18:23:17 GMT -5
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Sept 21, 2022 19:30:20 GMT -5
You tryin' to make Doc horny, huh? I can't eat pussy like a PhD, but man I'm sure I can lick it really nicely like a PhD, shit I already have a doctorate in math. The naughty version of my CV is now gonna include cunny, jk, but still lmao. #MyTongueCanGoPlaces
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