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Post by newmn on Feb 20, 2020 5:20:38 GMT -5
I’m also not a hookup guy. I’ve developed some nice friendships with guys on Scruff. Tried Grindr but that’s definitely more of a hookup site. As a dev, I prefer an site that has a keyword search option. Most of the ones I liked have gone by the wayside.
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Post by robbb on Feb 20, 2020 11:57:22 GMT -5
Never used them. Never even heard of Scruff.
R.
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Post by dannyboy95 on Feb 23, 2020 13:57:22 GMT -5
Whether disabled or dev, thoughts on things like Scruff and Grindr? Perhaps it’s me being a bit old-fashioned but I admit I’m hesitant to use them. Also because I’m not necessarily an instantaneous hookup guy. Anyone feel the same/differently? I have tried Grindr and I have met some great people through the app. Never actually had Sex with them or anything. But it can be also very tireing to get all the spam messages or messages from people twice my age. However unfortunately it is basically impossible to search for disabled people there. There is no hashtag search or anything that would enable you to find disabled people. I've also never seen one on there...
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Post by newmn on Feb 23, 2020 14:01:25 GMT -5
Whether disabled or dev, thoughts on things like Scruff and Grindr? Perhaps it’s me being a bit old-fashioned but I admit I’m hesitant to use them. Also because I’m not necessarily an instantaneous hookup guy. Anyone feel the same/differently? There is no hashtag search or anything that would enable you to find disabled people. I've also never seen one on there... That’s the issue with a lot of sites - or the search is limited to nearby people. If I found someone nearby, I wouldn’t be on any of those sites!
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Post by dannyboy95 on Feb 23, 2020 15:08:04 GMT -5
Well it always depends on what kinda people are in your radius and what you make from it.
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wheelbearep
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Post by wheelbearep on Feb 23, 2020 16:12:06 GMT -5
I have had successes and misses using grindr, scruff, and growlr. Successes as I have had successful hookups. Misses in that I have been devastated when my crush of all time just stop chatting with me out of the blue (after several successful dates).
I am honest and upfront on the apps. Honesty is important.
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Post by loveparas on Feb 24, 2020 0:39:28 GMT -5
Omg I always feel so old when I think about this subject. Even tho I am extremely young compared to the average age of this forum members, I do still feel quite out of place when using apps such as grinder. While I do enjoy meeting new people over there (main reason why I keep on installing and uninstalling it all the time), the concept of just hooking up and then forgetting about that person is not what I am looking for. I ways felt like a romantic guy so I guess I just enjoy getting to know the person and doing more than just a one night thing. I guess that my best advice to you would be to try it on your own and then decide if it's actually something made for you or not.
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Post by newmn on Feb 24, 2020 1:38:52 GMT -5
Omg I always feel so old when I think about this subject. Even tho I am extremely young compared to the average age of this forum members, I do still feel quite out of place when using apps such as grinder. While I do enjoy meeting new people over there (main reason why I keep on installing and uninstalling it all the time), the concept of just hooking up and then forgetting about that person is not what I am looking for. I ways felt like a romantic guy so I guess I just enjoy getting to know the person and doing more than just a one night thing. I guess that my best advice to you would be to try it on your own and then decide if it's actually something made for you or not. I agree! Seems guys are either looking for NSA hookups or they’re looking for marriage (without getting to know me first).
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Post by someonerandom on Feb 24, 2020 11:07:35 GMT -5
Grinder is great for hooking up. If you want dates you can try using Bumble or Tinder, and setting it so you only view males. It made lots of matches on there but always end up back on Grinder because the Bumble/Tinder people are looking for dating/boyfriends.
When I checked out the gay situation on OKcupid I was not impressed, but it’s been a while since I looked.
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fotorbcn
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Post by fotorbcn on Feb 24, 2020 13:55:07 GMT -5
Whether disabled or dev, thoughts on things like Scruff and Grindr? Perhaps it’s me being a bit old-fashioned but I admit I’m hesitant to use them. Also because I’m not necessarily an instantaneous hookup guy. Anyone feel the same/differently? I have tried Grindr and I have met some great people through the app. Never actually had Sex with them or anything. But it can be also very tireing to get all the spam messages or messages from people twice my age. However unfortunately it is basically impossible to search for disabled people there. There is no hashtag search or anything that would enable you to find disabled people. I've also never seen one on there... Fully agree with dannyboy 95... it all depends on how you use it. I've met also great people on Grindr and also had some good fun with it... its easy to get in touch with lots of guys just be open-minded and don't get offended by how some people use it! If it was more focused on finding disabled guys.. i would say Planetromeo is better bc has a search function. I think i found some pwd devs in Romeo... I even met my boyfriend there so can't say bad things about it... but as always have to be careful and respectful!
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Post by newmn on Feb 24, 2020 19:14:49 GMT -5
Yes - dannyboy95 told me about planetromeo. Have met some great PWD guys since I’ve been on there. Mostly German and other European guys so if you live in the US and want to meet someone nearby, you probably won’t have much success. Been chatting with a really nice para near Frankfurt on there for about 6 months. We’ve started to talk about meeting this summer...
Stay tuned
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2022 15:57:09 GMT -5
I have had successes and misses using grindr, scruff, and growlr. Successes as I have had successful hookups. Misses in that I have been devastated when my crush of all time just stop chatting with me out of the blue (after several successful dates). I am honest and upfront on the apps. Honesty is important. Hi there, you posted this a while ago but I felt like I wanted to comment. Your honesty is very interesting to me. Before I joined this board I was wondering if this would be yet another hookup site but I was kind of surprised that there is apparently a much wider range of topics. I have read some posts with interesting thoughts like yours .
You speak openly about your successes and misses and it comes honest and self reflective across. Thumbs up.
By the way... I'm not sure why does somebody would stop chatting with such an interesting (and as far as I can see) cute guy . Even if things doesn't work out the way people want, I think it's important to communicate and say: "Bud, I've changed my mind" or whatever. You know what I mean.
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