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Post by Amee on Feb 25, 2020 9:35:31 GMT -5
Same here! In all the years of secretly searching the Internet I've never come across any of those. Are they closed or public groups? I'm sure I never searched anything while logged onto Facebook, becasue I was completely paranoid about anonymity, so that might explain it. Are there more devs on there than here? (I'm always curious about anything relating to our numbers ) I joined one, but it seems to be about: 70% male PWD and devs, 20% spambots, 7% female PWDs and less than 3% female devs. I don't like my odds, lol. Huh, those really are pretty bad odds. It would be interesting to know what the PWD to dev ratio here on PD really is. Does anyone know if there's a way to see that on the site?
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Post by manicpixiememegirl on Feb 25, 2020 9:45:35 GMT -5
Same here! In all the years of secretly searching the Internet I've never come across any of those. Are they closed or public groups? I'm sure I never searched anything while logged onto Facebook, becasue I was completely paranoid about anonymity, so that might explain it. Are there more devs on there than here? (I'm always curious about anything relating to our numbers ) I joined one, but it seems to be about: 70% male PWD and devs, 20% spambots, 7% female PWDs and less than 3% female devs. I don't like my odds, lol. But excellent odds for female devs
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Post by Amee on Feb 25, 2020 9:58:25 GMT -5
PD - not a dating site, I know, but let's see... more than 20 messages within the first two weeks of signing up. Now I am seriously jealous! I don't think I've ever exchanged messages with half of that number, devs included! I'll go now to beat myself up for what I've done wrong! missparkle I have no idea what I might have done "right" - except write a scared and nervous intro about how excited and terrified I am to be joining and whining a little bit about dev guilt (if I remember correctly)
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Post by Braced4Impact on Feb 25, 2020 10:41:57 GMT -5
I joined one, but it seems to be about: 70% male PWD and devs, 20% spambots, 7% female PWDs and less than 3% female devs. I don't like my odds, lol. Huh, those really are pretty bad odds. It would be interesting to know what the PWD to dev ratio here on PD really is. Does anyone know if there's a way to see that on the site? Well, first you have to sort between active and non-active members, as some have left, some forgot their passwords and made duplicate accounts, others sadly have passed on. If I had to guess, I'd say it's about 70% male PWDs, 10% male devs, and 20% female devs.
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Post by Braced4Impact on Feb 25, 2020 10:42:21 GMT -5
I joined one, but it seems to be about: 70% male PWD and devs, 20% spambots, 7% female PWDs and less than 3% female devs. I don't like my odds, lol. But excellent odds for female devs That, I can't dispute
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Post by pam on Feb 25, 2020 11:31:20 GMT -5
Same here! In all the years of secretly searching the Internet I've never come across any of those. Are they closed or public groups? I'm sure I never searched anything while logged onto Facebook, becasue I was completely paranoid about anonymity, so that might explain it. Are there more devs on there than here? (I'm always curious about anything relating to our numbers ) I joined one, but it seems to be about: 70% male PWD and devs, 20% spambots, 7% female PWDs and less than 3% female devs. I don't like my odds, lol. I'm in one Facebook group. I dont remember the name of it but there are hardly any posts. I see one every 2 or 3 weeks. I've never posted anything on there either.
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Post by Braced4Impact on Feb 25, 2020 13:31:31 GMT -5
I joined one, but it seems to be about: 70% male PWD and devs, 20% spambots, 7% female PWDs and less than 3% female devs. I don't like my odds, lol. I'm in one Facebook group. I dont remember the name of it but there are hardly any posts. I see one every 2 or 3 weeks. I've never posted anything on there either. And that in and of itself is probably a problem, as well. I'm guessing most of the female devs there are like "if I post, I'll get 11,000 requests from thirsty PWDs, and they'll know my real name." Hell, I bet even devs who don't post a single thing, as soon as they join get a ton of requests. I mean, many PWDs are desperate for anything they can get, and will not think twice about PM-bombing the shit out of anyone even remotely possibly interested.
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Post by Braced4Impact on Feb 25, 2020 13:32:24 GMT -5
On that topic, I don't know how long I'll remain in the FB group, because I think my chances aren't even a snowball's chance in hell, more like a snowflake's chance.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2020 17:49:06 GMT -5
Unfortunately, you have to fight with surplus of men always and everywhere. Above all, there are always a lot of idiots around in the web. And then you have just bad luck, no matter whether you are a nice guy. But a minimal chance is still better than none. And it is always advisable to have several searches running in parallel.
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Post by pam on Feb 25, 2020 21:39:39 GMT -5
I'm in one Facebook group. I dont remember the name of it but there are hardly any posts. I see one every 2 or 3 weeks. I've never posted anything on there either. And that in and of itself is probably a problem, as well. I'm guessing most of the female devs there are like "if I post, I'll get 11,000 requests from thirsty PWDs, and they'll know my real name." Hell, I bet even devs who don't post a single thing, as soon as they join get a ton of requests. I mean, many PWDs are desperate for anything they can get, and will not think twice about PM-bombing the shit out of anyone even remotely possibly interested. Truthfully I have not gotten any messages at all. I was thinking maybe I could make a friend at least, since dating is out of the question, but there really is nothing going on in the group. I should probably just leave it.
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Post by FlyingBert on Mar 4, 2020 11:40:48 GMT -5
I don't really get tired of this topic for whatever reason So... Tinder and Bumble - never seen a single PWD on there and I was on Tinder for more than a year, so there would have been plenty of opportunity (not to just hook up with anyone, I feel like I always need to add that, because people make assumptions about it). Some local dating site probably similar to OKCupid or Match.com - never seen a single PWD. Dating sites catering specifically to PWDs - I've looked some of those up out of curiosity at some point in the past, but they seemed a little weird to me from outside. No actual experience though, since I never signed up. PD - not a dating site, I know, but let's see... more than 20 messages within the first two weeks of signing up. Many of those from people on another continent, so not exactly practical. But plenty of cool people and great conversations and so on and so forth, so... Clear winner to me I see a lot of PWD in OKCupid, for some reason.
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Post by feelsunshine on Jul 19, 2020 2:19:02 GMT -5
it’s slightly off-topic but I felt more like pulling out an older thread instead of creating a new one. So couple of weeks ago, I decided to go back on Tinder and similar dating apps. Just some time until I’ll decide to delete all my accounts again LOL. This question is actually more to the devs: “how” do you use Tinder - do you swipe left (“nope”) on everyone who doesn’t have the disability of your choice or do you also swipe right with AB people? I often find myself swiping left to AB people who could have been really nice company and good-looking, but they were just not that pwd guy I’m looking for. I know, Tinder is totally only a game but I sometimes feel bad for some apparently very nice people who just don’t have the desired disability and therefore get my “nope”.
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Post by rebeckers84 on Jul 19, 2020 6:31:41 GMT -5
it’s slightly off-topic but I felt more like pulling out an older thread instead of creating a new one. So couple of weeks ago, I decided to go back on Tinder and similar dating apps. Just some time until I’ll decide to delete all my accounts again LOL. This question is actually more to the devs: “how” do you use Tinder - do you swipe left (“nope”) on everyone who doesn’t have the disability of your choice or do you also swipe right with AB people? I often find myself swiping left to AB people who could have been really nice company and good-looking, but they were just not that pwd guy I’m looking for. I know, Tinder is totally only a game but I sometimes feel bad for some apparently very nice people who just don’t have the desired disability and therefore get my “nope”. LOL, I’m the exact same way!! Get them for a week or so and then I’m out cause I’m so frustrated. Previously I was swiping right to anyone that may have been of interest but in the last week or so I’ve decided to only swipe right for pwd (verrrrrrry few and far between 😕) my thumbs are hurting. Happy swiping, good luck
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Post by Amee on Jul 19, 2020 6:41:30 GMT -5
feelsunshine, if I only swiped right on PWDs I would have swiped right exactly zero times in all the time I've been on Tinder. So yes, I swipe right on AB people, but I guess it really depends on whether or not you see yourself dating AB guys as well? If that is completely out of the question for you, then there's no point swiping right. I personally couldn't limit myself to PWDs, because the chances of finding a PWD I'm compatible with are so slim, they're almost zero. So, if you can imagine dating AB guys, I would totally give some of those attractive and nice people a chance. But don't do it, just because you feel bad for them - that's not gonna help anyone I'm curious how many PWDs you come across on Tinder? And I totally get your feelings about dating apps. I have an On and Off relationship with Tinder, too.
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Post by rebeckers84 on Jul 19, 2020 7:07:22 GMT -5
I'm curious how many PWDs you come across on Tinder? I’ve actually had a decent string of good luck recently with some popping up but I haven’t heard back from any of them yet 😏 3 on hinge in the past week, 2 on bumble. OKC’s search thing used to be great but now it’s all jacked up. And I’ve seen a few on Tinder in the past but I rarely get on that one.
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