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Post by Ackrin on Jun 9, 2020 4:27:21 GMT -5
I've used the original Lush with someone. It was awesome! I've thought about trying some of the male vibrating remote toys. But considering I only have my caregiver to assist me at the moment. I doubt she'd be comfortable with that.
As a quad, when getting a blowjob I like humming (or moaning) because the sensation kinda waves up my body. I don't know if that it's just in my head but I don't really care. Since it feels great. I'm imagining that a male toy would probably feel similar. I
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Post by zacc on Jun 9, 2020 13:31:21 GMT -5
I can attest that the max works pretty well as an accessible toy. You can control it with your computer or your phone, which is pretty helpful. Here's a link for all the guys. Max 2 by LovenseHow difficult is it to get on? It looks like it could require some hand strength. How easy is it to clean? Honestly I don't know, I usually have someone help me get it on. It's not that difficult for my staff to clean, you just need to be careful about the silicone so you're not really supposed to use soap.
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Post by sungod on Jun 9, 2020 15:42:18 GMT -5
For men with grip issues, male masturbators are the bomb. I’ve had pretty good luck by strapping one to my hand, lubing up, and... you know the rest
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Post by matisse on Jun 9, 2020 16:10:03 GMT -5
How difficult is it to get on? It looks like it could require some hand strength. How easy is it to clean? Honestly I don't know, I usually have someone help me get it on. It's not that difficult for my staff to clean, you just need to be careful about the silicone so you're not really supposed to use soap. Wow you're brave. Are they able to get it on while you're soft, or do they have to do it when you're hard?
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Post by cilantro on Jun 9, 2020 20:23:41 GMT -5
I just learned about the ferticare. Super expensive, but it might be worth it for some people. Anyway it's cool that these things are out there, but in a perfect world there would be more affordable options. More a*sex*ability please!
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Post by matisse on Jun 9, 2020 21:20:59 GMT -5
I just learned about the ferticare. Super expensive, but it might be worth it for some people. Anyway it's cool that these things are out there, but in a perfect world there would be more affordable options. More a*sex*ability please! From what I have read it sounds like more of a medical device than something for casual use while watching pornhub or scenes on Mr. Skin.
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Jun 10, 2020 15:40:26 GMT -5
cilantro, this is such a fun thread. Oooo, toys are so much fun. I have loved my trusty Rabbit vibrators!! I have often wondered in my dev head how different toys could be used in an intimate setting with a PWD who might have limited use of hands etc. It's been great to read some of the responses.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2020 1:07:13 GMT -5
cilantro, this is such a fun thread. Oooo, toys are so much fun. I have loved my trusty Rabbit vibrators!! I have often wondered in my dev head how different toys could be used in an intimate setting with a PWD who might have limited use of hands etc. It's been great to read some of the responses. I can tell you how it is. I stay in my chair as it's easier to put some strength on the vibrator. And I sit more on the edge of my chair for more balance and not fall.😅 It's not always easy. It's difficult to put it in so I ask her help but once in and she's wet it's easier to do the thrust movement. I start with my "good" hand and try to hold it tight and start slow but sometimes I need to stop a few seconds because it puts a lot of tension in the shoulders. To go faster I try to put 1 finger or 2 around the clitoris stimulator. There I need to slow down sometimes because it's really tiring but I use the clitoris stimulator on the clitoris to continue to keep her excited and keep building up the level of arousal. Phase 3 is the most difficult part but the best part for her. I give everything I have. My whole body is moving to do the thrust I want to give so fast and deep but this is sometimes painful but I keep on going on. Then when it's to hard I switch hands but since I sit sideways compared to how she is on the bed, I'm bent sideways too on my chair and give everything but it's really hard. I switch hands again and give till she's done. After I need to rest 10 min lol. If it's not clear I can take pics of my positions. Chair and hands.
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Post by sy on Jun 11, 2020 8:01:06 GMT -5
Andrew Schulz does a great big about vibrators hold on let me go find it, if I don't I probably got lost on YouTube.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2020 9:20:32 GMT -5
I am a huge fan of Lelo toys, they are so beautiful (and they work).
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Post by zacc on Jun 11, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
Honestly I don't know, I usually have someone help me get it on. It's not that difficult for my staff to clean, you just need to be careful about the silicone so you're not really supposed to use soap. Wow you're brave. Are they able to get it on while you're soft, or do they have to do it when you're hard? Luckily I have two staff that I feel very comfortable with, and I usually ask them to put it on me. And I have to put it on when I am hard, not soft, which can be a little uncomfortable at times since other people are putting it on me.
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Post by SouthernCalGal on Jun 11, 2020 13:42:40 GMT -5
Thank you @belgianwheeler for that detailed description - Whew... I couldn't quite visualize it in my head but that sure helps!!
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Post by matisse on Jun 11, 2020 15:33:40 GMT -5
Wow you're brave. Are they able to get it on while you're soft, or do they have to do it when you're hard? Luckily I have two staff that I feel very comfortable with, and I usually ask them to put it on me. And I have to put it on when I am hard, not soft, which can be a little uncomfortable at times since other people are putting it on me. Do they have to stretch it open at all when they put it on, or can they just push it on? I would not be able to put it on if there is any stretching involved, but I can probably pull it on. My fingers are starting to have some issues so one day I won't be able to choke the chicken myself.
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Post by infinatedreams on Jun 11, 2020 16:47:54 GMT -5
As a para who doesnt get an erection (apart from the odd spontaneous one) or ejaculate, I've just learned to have sex differently, don't need toys or assistance just different. I can understand why dudes who can get an erection, have sensation or can ejaculate would find something to help them out or those with grip issues finding an appropriate toy to help. For me I'm happy using what I can and it works for me.
I sometimes struggle to understand why some para guys obsess about getting an erection and ejaculating. Even if we get an erection we cant thrust, feel it and unlikely to ejaculate. What's the point?
Sure I've done the injecting penis to get hard (I think twice before giving up), viagra was fun for a while in a novelty kinda way (before giving up) and the only time I've ever ejaculated was in hospital to get sperm for IVF .. and that experience I never ever wanted again!
I've used toys, but not in an 'assistive' manner, more as the name alludes, just to have a bit extra spice. Though I did discover the tip of a vibrator against my nipples was rather nice, much to her distress as instead of wielding it on her I laid back and sorted myself out (selfish bloody men).
The best sex toy EVER is my chair, I've had loads of great sex in it and it doesn't need batteries 👍🏻
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Post by infinatedreams on Jun 11, 2020 17:42:14 GMT -5
choicetomake the injections were just rubbish and didnt work properly and hardly romantic. As for intimacy, I guess it's all about personal preference, for me and maybe it's just me I like the intimacy of using my fingers and tongue, with lots of kissing and caressing to bring her to orgasm rather than having her doing all the work and ride on a penis I cant feel and hoping that's enough to bring her to orgasm. I just dont find that intimate or sexy in any way and wouldn't feel any personal sense of satisfaction. I remember once using viagra and after the initial 'oh this is different and looks nice' I actually couldn't wait for her to climb off so I could feel and taste how turned on she was rather than just imagining it. Good topic to discuss from different perspectives though
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