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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2020 17:42:42 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler Why am I imagining you smoking a cigarette with a wicked grin on your face in the 10 minute rest time? 😉
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Post by infinatedreams on Jun 11, 2020 17:53:49 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler Why am I imagining you smoking a cigarette with a wicked grin on your face in the 10 minute rest time? 😉 simples Dani because your part European and you know we European wheelers are cool. An American wheeler in the 10min break would be munching donuts and slurping a mcflurry 😁
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2020 21:18:45 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler Why am I imagining you smoking a cigarette with a wicked grin on your face in the 10 minute rest time? 😉 simples Dani because your part European and you know we European wheelers are cool. An American wheeler in the 10min break would be munching donuts and slurping a mcflurry 😁 @infinitedreams are you using the ‘munching’ and ‘slurping’ analogies as a euphemism ?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2020 1:37:26 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler Why am I imagining you smoking a cigarette with a wicked grin on your face in the 10 minute rest time? 😉 Grin you are right not the cigarette lol
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2020 11:46:06 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler I didn't think you were a smoker, it was just an image in my head 😁 Like you know...the stereotypical cigarette after Sex 😉
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Post by myrrh on Jun 12, 2020 12:17:13 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler I thought that was a cigar in your avatar!
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Post by IcarusFellOnce on Jun 12, 2020 12:47:52 GMT -5
Love this topic.... sex, intimacy, pleasure, closeness... I mean it's a critical part of the human experience... AND that is not something you go over in rehab... at least no here in the US. Everyone's goal is different.. everyone's journey is unique. For me.... I was obsessed with trying to regain my life as much as I could. There were girls at the beginning that wanted a stable relationship, BUT part of regaining my life at the beginning was being able to go to bars and flirt and get a number... be able to go out on random dates and bring them back home. I needed to reclaim that "normal" for myself.
Different women ALSO enjoy different things.... AND if it's their first experience with a wheeler, then you really have to read them, get to know them, to try and gauge what they would like and honestly... what they might or might not be able to handle (not in a hahaha.. I'm huge... can she handle me kind of way.. BUT in a will she freak out when she sees my frog butt and toothpick legs?)
Over time I started collecting a whole dresser drawer set of toys. Whether we are talking about cuffs and blindfolds... or soft rope for shibari and rope play.... sex toys for shock play... plugs with fur tails... collars.. chokers... gags... vibrators, dildos, Hitachi wands, sybian, fucking machine, swings and stands.... large and small... simple or complicated. Over the past 8 years post injury you build up many ways to facilitate intimacy, adventure, fun, pleasure... really a connection.
And as far as the discussion of good old fashion sex... especially with a para that doesn't feel any sensation, or can't get an erection on command, or can't ejaculate. There are women out there that want that... no matter what. Some just crave that closeness and that's what helps get them off.. they just want to feel you hard and inside them... and would I make noises and get more fierce and riled up as they did.. whether they were gridning harder and faster or making a lot of noise themselves.. OF COURSE I WOULD... because it's human nature to want to share in pleasure and intensity during those moments..... AND if nothing else it's a workout. NOT ONLY THAT... if it's with someone long term.. they figure out the touches and pressures in places that do cause pleasure... and when they do... the increased ferocity, tempo, heavy breathing and moans ARE real.
As I said.. everyone's journey, preferences, needs are different from person to person.. and honestly probably change over time for themselves. That's been my journey anyways.
Stress and workload do impact my desire and ability to engage in this... right now it's an extremely busy yet rewarding time for me professionally.... AND I do make time for intimacy.... just nothing too time consuming and fancy. Do I miss having the time to plan entire days or weekends of intense craziness... of course I do... BUT I'm in something for the long term... someone that I am building memories in ALL ways with... so I know we will get there again. This professional endeavor won't be this busy indefinitely.. and she has her own professional ambitions she is going after right now.... BUT... we are already teasing, planning, and fantasizing about what we are going to do when we have time.
Thanks.. for posting this thread. It's been great reading everyone's responses too. Life is short... life is fun.. life is an adventure if you live it that way... to be spent/can be spent enjoying the MANY sexy, beautiful, smart, witty, intelligent, impressive men and women in it.. OR enjoying a deep and intense ride with your chosen human. Happy playing everyone.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Jun 12, 2020 13:14:42 GMT -5
As I said.. everyone's journey, preferences, needs are different from person to person.. and honestly probably change over time for themselves. That's been my journey anyways. Stress and workload do impact my desire and ability to engage in this... right now it's an extremely busy yet rewarding time for me professionally.... AND I do make time for intimacy.... just nothing too time consuming and fancy. Do I miss having the time to plan entire days or weekends of intense craziness... of course I do... BUT I'm in something for the long term... someone that I am building memories in ALL ways with... so I know we will get there again. This professional endeavor won't be this busy indefinitely.. and she has her own professional ambitions she is going after right now.... BUT... we are already teasing, planning, and fantasizing about what we are going to do when we have time. Thanks.. for posting this thread. It's been great reading everyone's responses too. Life is short... life is fun.. life is an adventure if you live it that way... to be spent/can be spent enjoying the MANY sexy, beautiful, smart, witty, intelligent, impressive men and women in it.. OR enjoying a deep and intense ride with your chosen human. Happy playing everyone. Well said, man. I don't have any girlfriend(s) yet, as I'm currently in the process of building myself up professionally and financially. When I feel the time is right, and if I do end up finding the woman of my dreams for the long-term, then I'll definitely consider the points you, and others on this thread, highlighted with regard to sex and intimacy. All in due course of time, I'd say.
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Post by midwestguy on Jun 12, 2020 13:22:05 GMT -5
I have one of these and the loop is perfect for my quad hands. I can slide my fingers or thumb through it to grip it for thrusting, twisting or applying pressure at different angles on a partner. But my best tool is still my tongue and thumb, I've never had any complaints
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Post by cilantro on Jun 12, 2020 13:38:33 GMT -5
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Post by midwestguy on Jun 12, 2020 14:38:21 GMT -5
I know right! It’s got itty bitty ears 😃
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2020 1:45:52 GMT -5
@belgianwheeler I thought that was a cigar in your avatar! It is lol I smoke a cigar once or twice a year
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Post by matisse on Jul 3, 2020 23:46:00 GMT -5
I can attest that the max works pretty well as an accessible toy. You can control it with your computer or your phone, which is pretty helpful. Here's a link for all the guys. Max 2 by LovenseThis is on sale for the 4th, $100 instead of $200. I'm going to give it a try.
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Post by zacc on Jul 5, 2020 8:10:09 GMT -5
I can attest that the max works pretty well as an accessible toy. You can control it with your computer or your phone, which is pretty helpful. Here's a link for all the guys. Max 2 by LovenseThis is on sale for the 4th, $100 instead of $200. I'm going to give it a try. Awesome! I hope it works for you.
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Post by unitoquad on Jul 6, 2020 12:42:59 GMT -5
Toys are always fun. I use electro-stim if there's a desire for me to really ejaculate (complete SCI). Quite enjoyable in the moment having those powerful spasms, busts of AD (can get dangerous), and of course the end results. Experimented with plenty of other toys and playing over the years but e-stim is my go to when I'm on my own now (easiest setup and clean up). With a partner I'm way more into understanding the women's preferences and establishing a connection (I'm not usually desiring to have my own big finish). I enjoy actually touching, tasting, and smelling over mostly watching a performance that leaves me feeling more like a toy doll Don't get me wrong I understand some women enjoy this act so I'm willing to play along and can sometimes end up really getting into it. Just how I'm wired, I'd claim.
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