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Post by freya on Jun 23, 2020 17:41:46 GMT -5
Hello everyone!
I was a very active Dev on PD a few years ago, and lurked for years before that. I made so many amazing connections on PD. I also fell in love with someone here. Some tragic stuff happened with him and me, and it's taken me years to finally return to the "place" where we first met. Every time I would try, I dunno, I would get really emotional and couldn't stay for long, let alone post. Too many memories, I guess.
What brought me back was a recent Reddit post. I'm quite active on Reddit where I recently made a post on r/unpopularopinion discussing ableism in regards to able-bodied people dating PWDs. It got an amazing response with over 1.6k upvotes. It felt good to bring an issue so close to my heart to the forefront. I started talking with a PWD on Reddit who had responded to that post, and referred him here in hopes he too would find like-minded people and support. After that, I felt maybe it was time to come back and face my demons. Maybe I can do some good for somebody, somewhere.
So, I'm back Slim-Shady-style. Hope everyone is doing well. Feel free to ask me anything. Thanks guys!
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KingRichard
Full Member
Posts: 200
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by KingRichard on Jun 23, 2020 17:51:25 GMT -5
Cool I am a bit of a newbie here I find this website on Reddit I am still trying to get used to this website I am mostly on Facebook do to the fact that most websites that have disabled with or without devotees dating sites are dead or fakes
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Post by newjess on Jun 23, 2020 17:54:58 GMT -5
Great to see you back freya ❤
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spinaltap2020
New Member
Posts: 6
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by spinaltap2020 on Jun 23, 2020 18:18:59 GMT -5
What brought me back was a recent Reddit post. I'm quite active on Reddit where I recently made a post on r/unpopularopinion discussing ableism in regards to able-bodied people dating PWDs. It got an amazing response with over 1.6k upvotes. It felt good to bring an issue so close to my heart to the forefront. I started talking with a PWD on Reddit who had responded to that post, and referred him here in hopes he too would find like-minded people and support. I was the Redditor!
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rebeca
Full Member
Posts: 162
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
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Post by rebeca on Jun 23, 2020 18:42:26 GMT -5
Welcome back Freya. I wonder why we are not a reddit sub thread? Seems like it would be a good idea.
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KingRichard
Full Member
Posts: 200
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by KingRichard on Jun 23, 2020 18:45:02 GMT -5
Welcome back Freya. I wonder why we are not a reddit sub thread? Seems like it would be a good idea. I was thinking this website would be better off having a Facebook private group
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Post by sy on Jun 23, 2020 18:50:35 GMT -5
Welcome back yo
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Post by freya on Jun 23, 2020 20:20:26 GMT -5
Welcome back Freya. I wonder why we are not a reddit sub thread? Seems like it would be a good idea. I totally agree! When I first started using Reddit a couple years ago, something akin to PD was one of the first subreddits I searched for, but none exist. Maybe we should organize one? That would be so awesome!
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Post by freya on Jun 23, 2020 20:27:50 GMT -5
Welcome back Freya. I wonder why we are not a reddit sub thread? Seems like it would be a good idea. I was thinking this website would be better off having a Facebook private group A private FB group would be good, too, but FB is limited these days in its audience. Most young people (30s and under) seem to have left en masse due to FB being overwhelmed with cantankerous boomers and militant antivaxxers/flatearthers. I only go on there like once a week if that. Reddit would have some cons: we as a community would be exposed to outsiders that may mean us harm; the subreddit would require heavy and strict moderation. The pros would be it could reach a HUGE audience that otherwise might have never known this sort of community exists. We could become an invaluable resource for many people. So I dunno. I've never started my own subreddit, but if there were people here who would want to go in on it together and be mods, I'd be down.
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Post by midwestguy on Jun 23, 2020 20:33:14 GMT -5
Welcome back
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Jun 23, 2020 20:40:47 GMT -5
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Post by vo on Jun 23, 2020 21:15:15 GMT -5
Well l probably wasn’t here when you left but good to see you back.... and my nosey azz wants to know what happened to the pwd🤔
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Post by myrrh on Jun 23, 2020 21:20:53 GMT -5
Welcome back, lady.
There was a PWD/dev subreddit a few years ago that burned out pretty quickly. I don't recall the name. I did come across another one recently, but it had hardly any activity. If someone was interested in growing that community on Reddit, I think it would be a decent option but it would be a LOT of work. There's currently disablednudes, which isn't a PWD/dev community per se buuuuuut I mean.... there's a lot of that happening. There's also disabledsex but that's primarily a space for PWDs and should be respected as such. Occasionally someone will ask about devs on there, and someone usually tells them to google paradevo.
I feel like it would be difficult to have a community like this on Facebook. I nuked my account, but if I hadn't, there is precisely zero percent chance I'd go within 1000 pixels of anything dev- or PWD-related on an account with my personal info attached.
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Post by wonk on Jun 23, 2020 21:20:55 GMT -5
Welcome back
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Post by freya on Jun 23, 2020 21:57:28 GMT -5
Well l probably wasn’t here when you left but good to see you back.... and my nosey azz wants to know what happened to the pwd🤔 His name on PD was fallinginreverse. His account is still "active." We met here, dated, fell madly in love, moved in together. It's a really long, sad story, but in the end he died of an overdose in 2017. He had been struggling with severe depression and suicidal thoughts during our relationship, then became addicted to opiates to manage his emotional and physical pain. Nothing I did, no amount of love, could bring him out of his private darkness. The OD appeared to be accidental, but I also know he was passively suicidal, so he behaved recklessly hoping something would happen. And it finally did. I have never gotten over this, I doubt I ever will. I'm married to an AB man, now, and I love him very much, but what Fallinginreverse and I had is impossible to put into words. To quote E.A. Poe: "We loved with a love that was more than love." I miss him every single day.
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