rebeca
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Post by rebeca on Jun 23, 2020 21:57:51 GMT -5
freya, I'd be down with a reddit subthread. I'd probably even access it more than I do this pro board. I'm not a fan of the forum format really. But I'm time-poor and cannot in good conscience commit my time any more. But if it happens, It'll be great. There's always backlash against EVERY subthread on reddit, but who cares. Certainly it is not about how well-kept a secret we can possibly be. I'd not be interested in an FB private group though. I use facebook for professional networking, politics and digital branding, I wouldn't want to mix that with my private sexual predilections. The trend on paradevo has historically been averse to sharing personal identities especially from Devs, so I doubt the women here would be keen on an FB group.
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rebeca
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Post by rebeca on Jun 23, 2020 22:00:52 GMT -5
I have never gotten over this, I doubt I ever will. I'm married to an AB man, now, and I love him very much, but what Fallinginreverse and I had is impossible to put into words. To quote E.A. Poe: "We loved with a love that was more than love." I miss him every single day. My condolences freya“It isn't possible to love and part. You will wish that it was. You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.” ― E.M. Forster, A Room with a View
I know how true those lines are. Here to you and to love
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Post by devogirl on Jun 23, 2020 23:17:19 GMT -5
Welcome back Freya. I wonder why we are not a reddit sub thread? Seems like it would be a good idea. I was thinking this website would be better off having a Facebook private group
The mods here are not going to create a Paradevo Facebook group or subreddit. But anyone who wants to is welcome to create their own dev group or reddit under a different name. We never wanted to be the only dev site on the internet. More is always better. You don't need to use the Paradevo name to create a new group.
There have definitely been Facebook groups formed by members here, but I have no idea if they are still active.
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Post by Emma on Jun 24, 2020 0:04:15 GMT -5
His name on PD was fallinginreverse. His account is still "active." We met here, dated, fell madly in love, moved in together. It's a really long, sad story, but in the end he died of an overdose in 2017. He had been struggling with severe depression and suicidal thoughts during our relationship, then became addicted to opiates to manage his emotional and physical pain. Nothing I did, no amount of love, could bring him out of his private darkness. The OD appeared to be accidental, but I also know he was passively suicidal, so he behaved recklessly hoping something would happen. And it finally did. I have never gotten over this, I doubt I ever will. I'm married to an AB man, now, and I love him very much, but what Fallinginreverse and I had is impossible to put into words. To quote E.A. Poe: "We loved with a love that was more than love." I miss him every single day. I remember the whirlwind romance you and fallinginreverse had. I'm so sorry to hear that story ended so sadly. I'm glad you are back with us freya. I have tried a few times to explore Reddit for dev stuff but either I don't understand how it works or possibly there isn't much there. I know a LOT of people find us through Reddit so assumed there was a larger disability community there. Is it possible I'm missing something?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2020 2:43:33 GMT -5
Welcome back freya I am very sorry to hear about the tragic end to what you had with fallinginreverse I hope you can still cherish good memories with him. I honestly know nothing about Reddit, I would have to check it out. What is it actually?
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Post by lars on Jun 24, 2020 8:11:48 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2020 10:07:57 GMT -5
welcome back
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Post by cilantro on Jun 24, 2020 12:59:20 GMT -5
Welcome back freya. I wasn't here when you last were, but I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Returning to a familiar place can sometimes be very comforting, I hope it is for you. Excited to have you back!
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Post by mona on Jun 24, 2020 13:31:51 GMT -5
freya, welcome back to the board. I had read the story of you both while browsing through older threads. I'm sad and very sorry about what happened.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2020 15:17:32 GMT -5
Hello everyone! I was a very active Dev on PD a few years ago, and lurked for years before that. I made so many amazing connections on PD. I also fell in love with someone here. Some tragic stuff happened with him and me, and it's taken me years to finally return to the "place" where we first met. Every time I would try, I dunno, I would get really emotional and couldn't stay for long, let alone post. Too many memories, I guess. What brought me back was a recent Reddit post. I'm quite active on Reddit where I recently made a post on r/unpopularopinion discussing ableism in regards to able-bodied people dating PWDs. It got an amazing response with over 1.6k upvotes. It felt good to bring an issue so close to my heart to the forefront. I started talking with a PWD on Reddit who had responded to that post, and referred him here in hopes he too would find like-minded people and support. After that, I felt maybe it was time to come back and face my demons. Maybe I can do some good for somebody, somewhere. So, I'm back Slim-Shady-style. Hope everyone is doing well. Feel free to ask me anything. Thanks guys! Hey Freya..welcome back! Good to see you back Slim Shady. Well l probably wasn’t here when you left but good to see you back.... and my nosey azz wants to know what happened to the pwd🤔 His name on PD was fallinginreverse . His account is still "active." We met here, dated, fell madly in love, moved in together. It's a really long, sad story, but in the end he died of an overdose in 2017. He had been struggling with severe depression and suicidal thoughts during our relationship, then became addicted to opiates to manage his emotional and physical pain. Nothing I did, no amount of love, could bring him out of his private darkness. The OD appeared to be accidental, but I also know he was passively suicidal, so he behaved recklessly hoping something would happen. And it finally did. I have never gotten over this, I doubt I ever will. I'm married to an AB man, now, and I love him very much, but what Fallinginreverse and I had is impossible to put into words. To quote E.A. Poe: "We loved with a love that was more than love." I miss him every single day. Super sorry to hear about this. Stay strong even though at times Im sure it can be tough. But you got this!
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cripman33
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Post by cripman33 on Jun 24, 2020 16:59:49 GMT -5
Welcome back and thank you for sharing what I'm sure was very difficult to recount. For those interested, such a subreddit does now exist. I was hesitant to post about it here because I wasn't sure how readily the PD community would accept it but, for those interested, it can be found here: www.reddit.com/r/DisAndDevs/ There is also a Discord server, which can be found here: discord.gg/dEzq9mm
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writerg
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Post by writerg on Jun 28, 2020 12:27:43 GMT -5
Thanks for helping that person out.
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Post by vo on Jun 30, 2020 7:54:24 GMT -5
Well l probably wasn’t here when you left but good to see you back.... and my nosey azz wants to know what happened to the pwd🤔 His name on PD was fallinginreverse. His account is still "active." We met here, dated, fell madly in love, moved in together. It's a really long, sad story, but in the end he died of an overdose in 2017. He had been struggling with severe depression and suicidal thoughts during our relationship, then became addicted to opiates to manage his emotional and physical pain. Nothing I did, no amount of love, could bring him out of his private darkness. The OD appeared to be accidental, but I also know he was passively suicidal, so he behaved recklessly hoping something would happen. And it finally did. I have never gotten over this, I doubt I ever will. I'm married to an AB man, now, and I love him very much, but what Fallinginreverse and I had is impossible to put into words. To quote E.A. Poe: "We loved with a love that was more than love." I miss him every single day. Sheesh, sorry for your lost, I don’t know much about suicide, but these pharmaceuticals doctors 🥼 push on people will have you thinking 💭 some very unusual thoughts and not happy with yourself at all so I stay away from them🙅🏽♂️
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Post by expresso on Jun 30, 2020 17:50:48 GMT -5
whow thats pretty sad sorry to hear - amazing your strong enough to pull thru.
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Post by robbb on Jul 20, 2020 2:15:14 GMT -5
Hi freya, so sorry to hear about fallinginreverse. I hope you find support from being back here.
R.
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