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Post by mike on Jun 27, 2020 11:22:30 GMT -5
Yes, but there are limits. For example, people with cognitive limits would not interest me, but orthopedic issues are fine. I have no experience with dating a PWD, but the concept is interesting. Similar to other aspects such as personality, it would be interesting to explore but totally impracticable in real-life. It's hard enough to meet a person you're interested in who also finds you attractive, can you imagine further limiting the field to certain specific disabilities? Well actually I suppose that's what life is like for a dev.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Jun 27, 2020 11:42:18 GMT -5
Hell yes I would, of course on certain conditions. For instance, if she had a chronically severe disability, SCI, or cognitive impairments, then no mainly because of logistical considerations given my severe form of Duchenne muscular dystrophy. However, if she is an amputee, has minor orthopedic issues, or uses a wheelchair sometimes (but is usually ambulatory), then woohoo!
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Post by midwestguy on Jun 27, 2020 12:46:35 GMT -5
If I were AB I would be open to it. But as many have said it’s a huge logistical challenge. I’ve recently become friends with a beautiful para with a spectacular personality. We can’t even ride in the same vehicle together let alone all the physical aspects of a relationship, that I enjoy, those would be practical impossible.
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Post by KingRichard on Jun 27, 2020 13:02:54 GMT -5
I have no problems with dating pwd in a way I find it much easier to date a pwd than a able person
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Post by Deleted on Jun 27, 2020 14:35:47 GMT -5
I guess it surprised me a bit...not saying desire or such should be policed as stated above. On logistical aspects I totally get the points that were made. I guess I am curious if you just generally don't find anyone attractive with a disability @mrniceguy or if it's just certain disabilities? I mean I've seen for example para girls who are really hot, a lot hotter than me . But I actually don't specifically see the disability but the person who looks very attractive in her wheelchair. Idk...I am just thinking about this a bit but then my attraction is all over the place so...
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Post by unitoquad on Jul 6, 2020 14:29:41 GMT -5
Yes.
This topic brings up a ton of stressful memories for me because I had a women "friend" that was a para and was engaged when I met her. Long story short... We hung out about twice a week, for 5 months, and I tried to be a good friend but a few days before her wedding she came onto me very strong. I tried to resist her but eventually caved to "attempt" to fulfill her desire, and failed like I had warned her. This upset her greatly but was my ticket out of her life. I'm fairly certain she used the incident to make her soon-to-be husband jealous and persuade him into marrying her. After that I couldn't look at her the same way and burned the bridge. I cared about her, was ashamed by my weakness, and despised her for manipulating me. I missed a ton of red flags during our "friendship".
Had she been single or broken off her engagement (for another reason) I would probably be typing up some pointers on how to get around the logistic issue most of the men are referring to, or that their assumption is correct.
Maybe I'll post my write up about the entire encounter in the "Story" section someday...
Side note: during my initial rehabilitation, I met an old couple that were both PWDs and had been together for over twenty-five years. So I know it is completely possible for this type of relationship to work. They even had a daughter!
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Post by IcarusFellOnce on Jul 9, 2020 9:48:50 GMT -5
Love is love.. and when you feel like you've found your human.... leg walker or PWD.. won't matter. SO... if I didn't already find my human and I felt about them like I feel about her.. then absolutely I would.
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Post by matisse on Jul 9, 2020 16:29:39 GMT -5
If I unfortunately was in a position to date again, I would definitely not date a wheeler, solely because of the logistical issues it would pose. I actually hope none of my kids marry a wheeler. I would of course support them if they did, but I would rather they did not, unless they were devs (I haven't seen any indication any of them are). It just seems like a hard life.
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Post by myrrh on Jul 9, 2020 18:49:49 GMT -5
I've heard people say the same thing about their children dating other ethnicities. My dad said the same thing to me when I told him I was bisexual. His reasoning was that he watched his gay brother (my uncle and namesake) face a lot of bigotry, and that he didn't want me to have to deal with any of that. It's not a nonsensical conclusion to come to as a parent, but it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
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Post by HottRodd on Jul 13, 2020 17:10:55 GMT -5
I know im a hypocrite for this, but no. I would not. One cripple per relationship is more than enough.
Of course you cant choose who you love and anything could happen, i know several couples here in Sweden (and abroad) where both partners use wheelchairs. But for me, that door is closed.
Amputees and other minor disablities are a different story i would not mind as much. But two wheelchairs? Nope.
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Post by rayan on Jul 14, 2020 4:29:58 GMT -5
For me I don't find any problem in dating a disabled girl but in condition that she doesn't have the same disability as me just because our daily life will be really complicated
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Post by kwhi on Jul 15, 2020 10:22:05 GMT -5
Hi I have dated a chair user, it was fine. Getting in and out of the car is a pain, but if you go to place that is accessible, no big deal. The only thing that troubled me was feeling like a visual curiosity as a couple. I get plenty of looks on my own in public, but I take most of those as a positive. With an AB female we get looks as a couple, but to me the looks are as most people view any couple. When we go out as a two wheelchair couple, the view is so unusual lots of people openly stare, and I know I should not say this but I feel like we are viewed as a freak show.
Intimacy with a disabled female is very easy, and good, as with an AB female
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Post by blindlover on Jul 16, 2020 9:24:32 GMT -5
Also for me, a loving connection is just that, a loving connection ... I have dated both blind and sighted girls and these relationships are very charming in their own way. Dating a blind girl encompasses a deep understanding of what you're going through and every little detail that makes the blind life . Getting places is a bit of an adventure,but then again, taking up that adventure together is just nice , cute and romantic in its own right. A sighted person doesn't have this levl of understanding of what exactly comes along when you live blindly, but then again, my sighted dates were all curious and more than happy to learn and understand. Off course getting places is easier, but then my date is sometimes seen as my care taker,and we get the "it's so nice you help him like this " comments. Usually I respond with a deep and passionate kiss to change the commentators mind:p. Being with someone with another disability is something I haven't got experience with, but I would certainly be open to, as long as I can provide the help and care that would be needed. Most importantly for me though,there needs to be a real connection, if the feels are there, I could go to great lengths to make it work ...
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Post by Sir Paul on Jul 16, 2020 15:27:00 GMT -5
Physically disabled, yes! I'm pretty freakin' disabled though, so it would be hard (probably VERY HARD) and sexually frustrating if my partner was in the same boat I am. We could figure it out though. I'd ask you pervs for suggestions.
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Post by Ackrin on Jul 19, 2020 18:32:21 GMT -5
I've dated a few blind and visually impaired girls in the past. I was also interested in a girl who used a walker before I broke my neck.
In general, I tend to be attracted more to a person's personality than anything. I've dated woman of various races, shapes, and M. That's not to say I don't have a "type" but to me looks aren't everything.
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