bryguy2018
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Post by bryguy2018 on Jul 21, 2020 16:41:10 GMT -5
This is much more of a support forum. Which I have a friend that I'm trying to get to join. She is feeling like a freak because of an attraction to men in wheelchairs. It makes up the majority of fantasy life and her dreams about getting married. She is also in the field of psychology like me. So wish me luck in getting her to join the site.
Dating has always been terribly difficult. I just don't have the confidence to go straight up and ask someone out. I'm so afraid of rejection and maybe even them laughing right in my face. So that leaves me with one alternative especially in the COVID-19 era. People treat me like I have the cooties on a regular basis anyways, and I have really good personal hygiene habits. So it definitely isn't the stink! Anyways to any of you know any legitimate dating websites where you can chat with a devotee? I do not mind putting in the legwork, emotional energy, or commitment to get to know each other first. Actually I prefer it that way! Also I am a very devout Christian so that factors into the process. No websites with barely dressed women please. Thank you for any of your help!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2020 17:47:22 GMT -5
To my personal knowledge there is no website where you can chat with "devotees" only. Devotees are not that numerous as it is so to find a bunch of devotees on one dating site is not going to happen. Paradevo is one site where there is a concentration of devotees and disabled men, so I recommend just hanging out here, at least for connections and friendship. It is not meant to be a dating site but people have met here and relationships have come out of PD, sometimes also just hook-ups for fun or members meeting in real life as friends. And maybe if you are looking to date or find someone for a relationship, you should not only focus on finding a dev. Habe you tried sites like "Christian singles"? As for your dev friend, you suggested PD, that's all you can do. She has to make that decision to join if she wants to connect with other devs.
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KingRichard
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Post by KingRichard on Jul 21, 2020 19:20:46 GMT -5
I do agree with you dani that this website is not a dating website but still it can't hurt to have some good dating websites to help others out if there is any good dating websites out their a lot of dating websites for disabled people with or without devotees are pretty much dead websites well the ones I have find anyway
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Post by Deleted on Jul 21, 2020 20:39:31 GMT -5
I do agree with you dani that this website is not a dating website but still it can't hurt to have some good dating websites to help others out if there is any good dating websites out their a lot of dating websites for disabled people with or without devotees are pretty much dead websites well the ones I have find anyway Yeah, definitely all dating websites are a start but one specifically/only with devs is something he probably won't find. Maybe the thread about dating sites is something for bryguy2018 to check out. Lots of info on dating sites there.
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dream2bc5c6
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Post by dream2bc5c6 on Jul 22, 2020 4:57:06 GMT -5
fetlife
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Post by wonk on Jul 22, 2020 7:57:49 GMT -5
Geez dude, he said no sites with barely dressed woman. I am not sure FL is the best suggestion. He may be scarred for life. Lol What has been seen cannot be unseen. I am still recovering from Bunster, mainly just the quoting though!
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Post by KingRichard on Jul 22, 2020 8:45:44 GMT -5
Geez dude, he said no sites with barely dressed woman. I am not sure FL is the best suggestion. He may be scarred for life. Lol What has been seen cannot be unseen. I am still recovering from Bunster, mainly just the quoting though! True fetlife is not for the lighthearted that for sure lol
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Post by kwhi on Jul 22, 2020 9:25:28 GMT -5
There is a site I visit-not a paying member-called Dating4Disabled. It gives the opportunity to list sexual orientation as devotee. I have had contact with a number of AB females, and one I know is a devotee. I suspect several of the AB females may indeed be devotees. I never joined, but it is worth considering.
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bryguy2018
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Post by bryguy2018 on Jul 22, 2020 16:38:50 GMT -5
Thank you all so much for your feedback. Except for the fetlife suggestion, while I appreciate the input, I don't need to see anything that might lead to years of counseling. I do personally desire something spiritual first of all. A connection on that level is most important. I'm a quadriplegic so anything physical is all mental anyways. If you connect on the emotional and spiritual level it only enhances anything physical for the quadriplegic.
I have looked at many of those dating sites. I'm not only looking for devotees on the website, but at least one that has a few. If anybody needs any of my feedback I can tell you the ones that definitely aren't worth your money.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2020 17:47:41 GMT -5
bryguy2018In the general section is a thread about dating sites, you could add your feedback/advise
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Post by sy on Jul 22, 2020 22:51:58 GMT -5
I feel like there's a new thread about dating every other week. Just stick to in person meetings websites rarely work besides women/men whatever you're into don't have to be devs to like you.
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Post by vo on Jul 23, 2020 16:53:09 GMT -5
So what is the need of the personal section that clearly states post about yourself and blah ba blah blah for ROMANCE...how misleadingš¤„
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2020 18:47:58 GMT -5
Excuse you vo The OP asked about other sites where he could specifically meet devs and people replied to him so I don't think there is an issue Of course he can also post here for "blah blah blah and romance" as you so nicely put it but that wasn't his question
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Post by vo on Jul 26, 2020 7:20:23 GMT -5
Excuse you vo The OP asked about other sites where he could specifically meet devs and people replied to him so I don't think there is an issue Of course he can also post here for "blah blah blah and romance" as you so nicely put it but that wasn't his question Dani youāre absolutely right šall Iām saying is isnāt the personal section specifically made for that...made for getting very personal with each other in the hopes of finding true romance and happiness š¤... I donāt want to fight you...youāre a dev...I love š youš
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Post by robbb on Jul 26, 2020 13:21:26 GMT -5
So what is the need of the personal section that clearly states post about yourself and blah ba blah blah for ROMANCE...how misleadingš¤„ When the Personals section was created there was a fair bit of debate about the name and description. I can see why a new member may find it unclear but there is a long established use for the section (and for that matter non-use) decided by the mods and members. If that is explained to another member then it should be accepted. Unless of course at some point the mods and members decide to change that use. R.
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