Do you let someone around know about you dev feelings?

[hjfundus]

My second update on this thread: I just let the second person in my life know. It was scary, but I was not such a blubbering mess as I was the first time. I think it was also because the environment and the person was just so much better this time. This person was super non-judgmental and I felt like I could speak my mind freely and not have any unwanted backlash. Anyway. They said "Oh that's kind of odd, and random." But in a super okay way - just like "Huh. Okay." It was just like they had never considered disability or mobility aids could be something someone found sexual or could be sexualised. But then we discussed about other objects that people sexualise. So I think it's a lot about the people you tell. I have nearly almost told my super BDSM kinky friend because I know they are super accepting of kinks and will shout "NO KINK SHAMING!" at people at every opportunity they get.

[allisonsr]

I told a friend about my dev "thing" over lunch today and she was like, "Yeah, I figured. Makes sense." That was not what I expected at all! We've literally known each other half our lives. Even our kids are friends, and she knows my AB ex husband.

I didn't plan to talk about it, but in discussing her new relationship, it just came up naturally.

Example #46883 of why I should quit overthinking things.

[allisonsr]

Oh! I forgot the part of her response that made me laugh so hard I almost fell out of my chair. She reminded me that her late father had a disability and said that he and would have been great together and I could have been her stepmother. He and I got along great, but, uh, no.

Now THAT would be a universe of Daddy issues.

[dutchdev]

I have been on the verge a couple of times these last months. I will be crossing that line somewhere this year. Just not sure when yet.

Really glad to hear all your positive responses, gives me courage.

[GabsDev]

I only told a close friend in the past, and an ex-boyfriend found out through my search history. They both tried to use it against me, so I never wanted to tell anyone else. I’m currently considering telling my therapist, but I’ve come to think that’s a bad idea. Maybe if she was being paid directly, but she sees me through my health insurance, and I’m not comfortable with that being written in my records.