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Post by devogirl on Jan 30, 2022 23:14:05 GMT -5
there is a book list here somewhere and lots of fan fiction including some from our fearless admin devogirl
Thanks blueskye101! For the newer members, there are threads here where people talk about devvy books and movies, those are easy to find. Feel free to keep posting more and/or start new threads. I used to post movie and book reviews at the link at the top of the page but now I put most of my reviews on Goodreads. There are lists on Goodreads of titles with various PWD characters but they don't seem to be updated much anymore, the interface is not great so I think people stopped using it much. The best way to find new titles on Goodreads is to friend other devs and see what they recommend.
Here is the fanfic thread: Feel free to add more to update if you know of anything good.
Here is a list of devvy Webtoons if you like comics:
Sticky list of books/fanfic published by PD authors: Please add yourself if anyone has something they want to share.
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 3, 2022 21:17:20 GMT -5
I'm going to be even more honest than usual. I'm struggling with dev urges.
For a very long time I was satisfied with good books and my favorite movies/tv shows (anyone watch Black Sails? Some amazing dev moments with John Silver, who was in fact my first ever crush)
But I've been dreaming of the great sex that only a disabled guy can give me. Sometimes literal dreams.
I adore my husband and he is perfect for me in so many ways, the most important ways. But almost nine years into marriage to an able-bodied guy I'm wishing there were a way to have a no-strings fling every once in a while (and though I know many poly people, we just aren't).
It's kind of brutal and there's nothing I can think of to do about it.
I have been reading my husband a really hot short story about a para. He'll take sexy stories in any form.
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 3, 2022 21:18:32 GMT -5
I don’t experience waves this intense, typically, but I’m familiar with the rhythm. I agree with Lilly that keeping busy and connected with others is helpful. One other thing I’ve found helpful is that *consuming* media tends to intensify the feeling, while *creating* media tends to help release it. For example, if I sketch or write a short story (or even an outline of a story) that’s usually good. The black hole of internet only leads to perpetual lack of fulfillment/release. By creating something, anything, there’s some sort of “finish” that I’ll never find by clicking through and through and through… y’all know what I mean🤪 That's a really awesome tip! |
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 3, 2022 21:27:55 GMT -5
I love dev highs, but you're all right, it can get overwhelming. It gets really intrusive. Usually I'll just let myself indulge with porn and other media while I ride it out. Dev fiction has never really been my jam, but now I'm curious. em where do you look for fiction? I wouldn't even know where to start, except for the PD archives. I eat up Annabelle Costa books. She's a member here, though I don't know if she's posted recently. She got into a rhythm of posting multiple books a year so there's dozens now. She has a light chick-lit stye that reminds me of Shopaholic. I like that tone a lot. One of my favs of hers is My Ex-Girlfriend's Wedding which is a high level quad. I recently read a short story that Amazon kept recommending to me, Plane Love by Avery Kingston. I wish it were longer. It is super hot. In reading it out loud to my husband I'm noticing some typos but all in all I found it very satisfying. I've tried a few other books that I get recommendations for but some of them are a little too graphic for my personal taste. Like Savage Collision was a bit too much for me (the character's name is Savage Hawke. That by itself was hard to get past). Our own Dani Deveaux has books up on Amazon too though I haven't had a chance to read one yet! Hart Broken by Annie Arcane was excellent but then all the sequels were unreadable, sadly. |
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Post by devogirl on Feb 3, 2022 22:12:24 GMT -5
I recently read a short story that Amazon kept recommending to me, Plane Love by Avery Kingston. I wish it were longer. It is super hot. In reading it out loud to my husband I'm noticing some typos but all in all I found it very satisfying. I've tried a few other books that I get recommendations for but some of them are a little too graphic for my personal taste. Like Savage Collision was a bit too much for me (the character's name is Savage Hawke. That by itself was hard to get past). Our own Dani Deveaux has books up on Amazon too though I haven't had a chance to read one yet! Hart Broken by Annie Arcane was excellent but then all the sequels were unreadable, sadly. Avery is a member here. Check out her other books too, they're all really good! If you look at the "also boughts" on Amazon for books by PD authors you'll usually see a lot of dev titles, haha. Annie is also a former PD member although she left a while ago, around the same time she stopped writing. Check out Shadowboxing by Rowan Mai, another PD author.
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Post by olive on Feb 4, 2022 10:15:04 GMT -5
I get these waves very on and off as well. They usually go from day to day or week to week. I can usually tell I’m going into a dev wave when I start having wet dreams every night. The urges usually go away once I indulge in them. I know they’ll reoccur later, but I have no problem with that. I like riding the dev high 🥴
Honestly, I would just embrace it. If you feel like your urges are stemming from boredom, then maybe try to find something else to occupy your time that’s more stimulating. But if not, then there’s no harm in indulging in them. They make you feel good and there’s nothing wrong with that. Plus once you satisfy the need, it’ll be a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.
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Post by ruthmadison on Feb 6, 2022 9:46:05 GMT -5
I'm going to be even more honest than usual. I'm struggling with dev urges. For a very long time I was satisfied with good books and my favorite movies/tv shows (anyone watch Black Sails? Some amazing dev moments with John Silver, who was in fact my first ever crush) But I've been dreaming of the great sex that only a disabled guy can give me. Sometimes literal dreams. I adore my husband and he is perfect for me in so many ways, the most important ways. But almost nine years into marriage to an able-bodied guy I'm wishing there were a way to have a no-strings fling every once in a while (and though I know many poly people, we just aren't). It's kind of brutal and there's nothing I can think of to do about it. I have been reading my husband a really hot short story about a para. He'll take sexy stories in any form. You sound very experienced in all this, so I probably don't have much to say that you haven't considered. I think it's important to remember that most of what we are crazving is fantasy and would likely be difficult to attain in reality even when single. It's hard to find people with disabilities in general and also hard to find people we are attracted to in person or when they open their mouths. There's also a lot of advantage a steady partner has when it comes to knowing what pleases you and how to please you that any disabled stranger would be totally in the dark about and likely take awhile to learn. There's also so much disappointment and frustration when it comes to dating or hooking up that we forget about after we've been out of the game for awhile. You're absolutely right. One of the things that has kept me satisfied with my life as it is for many years is that I did have the opportunity to date disabled men, to be hurt by them, to be disappointed by them, to struggle to find anyone that I could connect with both physically and emotionally. I sometimes long to live in a book world where that perfect person comes into your life and it eventually falls into place. But that's rarely real life for sure. I am definitely grateful for my husband and the relationship we have. I wouldn't trade it. I just miss sex on that whole other level! I had a friends with benefits situation with a double amputee for a while and that was pretty sweet. He and I did not see eye to eye politically or socially but that made it just perfect for no strings attached sex because there was no temptation or desire for a relationship. Eventually he moved, got married, had children, and unfortunately has since passed away from cancer. For a little while I was engaged to an incomplete quad and he treated me like trash. I've never experienced anything like the kind of verbal and emotional abuse he inflicted on me. Not to mention pressuring me into sex acts I didn't want to do. But we had sex every single day while we were together. I wanted to find that perfect fantasy person. But in the end I've been very lucky because I have a partner who is a true soulmate, endlessly supportive, kind, gentle, tells me all the time how much he adores me, and isn't threatened at all by my devness. I even read dev erotica to him. That's a million times better than someone I only have great sex with. |
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Post by dapperdev on Feb 16, 2022 18:41:01 GMT -5
Thank you all for again for your insight and thoughts and honesty. It really is a huge comfort in knowing that these feelings and urges and "waves" aren't unique to me and that all of us go through these motions from time to time. It's been a huge help reading all the suggestions and coping mechanisms that we've all developed through the years.
I will say however, that though my wave eventually subsided and though it was great to find solace here with you all, I recently saw a video of a beautiful quad woman on tiktok (like a 10/10 for reals) and she did a post about devs / "chair-chasers" where she talked about how we're weirdos who are in to their dead fingers and floppy feet and she seemed so grossed out by the whole thing, it kinda made me feel shitty.
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Post by ichbin on Feb 17, 2022 2:42:24 GMT -5
I wanted to find that perfect fantasy person. But in the end I've been very lucky because I have a partner who is a true soulmate, endlessly supportive, kind, gentle, tells me all the time how much he adores me, and isn't threatened at all by my devness. I even read dev erotica to him. That's a million times better than someone I only have great sex with. So beautiful, Ruth! Congratulations to your luck. I'm happy for you! |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 8, 2022 0:22:12 GMT -5
I'm going to be even more honest than usual. I'm struggling with dev urges. For a very long time I was satisfied with good books and my favorite movies/tv shows (anyone watch Black Sails? Some amazing dev moments with John Silver, who was in fact my first ever crush) But I've been dreaming of the great sex that only a disabled guy can give me. Sometimes literal dreams. I adore my husband and he is perfect for me in so many ways, the most important ways. But almost nine years into marriage to an able-bodied guy I'm wishing there were a way to have a no-strings fling every once in a while (and though I know many poly people, we just aren't). It's kind of brutal and there's nothing I can think of to do about it. I have been reading my husband a really hot short story about a para. He'll take sexy stories in any form. This resonates with me so much, I have woken up from dev dreams SO disappointed about waking up. I am also married to an AB man, my best friend and great husband/father, but after also 9 years we are realizing that maybe I need to be able to fulfill a part of my devotee-life to be 100% satisfied. I'm glad to hear your husband is also on board with acknowledging your desires <3 |
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Post by mwin on Mar 13, 2022 18:20:43 GMT -5
I love dev highs, but you're all right, it can get overwhelming. It gets really intrusive. Usually I'll just let myself indulge with porn and other media while I ride it out. Dev fiction has never really been my jam, but now I'm curious. em where do you look for fiction? I wouldn't even know where to start, except for the PD archives. I eat up Annabelle Costa books. She's a member here, though I don't know if she's posted recently. She got into a rhythm of posting multiple books a year so there's dozens now. She has a light chick-lit stye that reminds me of Shopaholic. I like that tone a lot. One of my favs of hers is My Ex-Girlfriend's Wedding which is a high level quad. I recently read a short story that Amazon kept recommending to me, Plane Love by Avery Kingston. I wish it were longer. It is super hot. In reading it out loud to my husband I'm noticing some typos but all in all I found it very satisfying. I've tried a few other books that I get recommendations for but some of them are a little too graphic for my personal taste. Like Savage Collision was a bit too much for me (the character's name is Savage Hawke. That by itself was hard to get past). Our own Dani Deveaux has books up on Amazon too though I haven't had a chance to read one yet! Hart Broken by Annie Arcane was excellent but then all the sequels were unreadable, sadly. Ruth! Just wanted to say, I REALLY enjoyed Savage Collision so if there are any other books you’ve come across that weren’t right for similar reasons, please throw them my way! (I’ve absolutely loved all your books by the way and just reread the Billionaire’s Secretary for the fourth time 🙈) |
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Post by frenchgirl on Mar 27, 2022 12:30:44 GMT -5
major dev waves.... o yes.... hello!! .... how I deal with them.... a lot of masturbation, watching YouTube clips.... and sooner or later the wave will get smaller... sometimes it takes days.   Haha this is honnest |
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Post by melaney23 on Jun 4, 2024 23:31:14 GMT -5
Resurrecting this thread because I have a couple thoughts and I'm curious if anyone else has tried anything like this (Normally I do just indulge, but if I truly do not have the time I'll try these other things):
1. Fantasize about a meetcute, and then try to make it happen in real life: For example, I'll imagine meeting this person because we bump into each other at a coffee shop, which will then make me go to a coffee shop Instead of just watching Devvy Videos at home.
2. This one feels kind of mean, but hey you do what you have to do: I will purposefully look up videos, stories, or whatever etc. That feature people with the disability I'm attracted to, but who for whatever reason give me the ick. Sometimes, feeling that ick tied to the very thing that I'm fantasizing about is enough to make me get over it lol
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Haha this is honnest