Post by el_steveo on Feb 18, 2018 17:25:33 GMT -5
I don't think a dev needs to tell a PWD right away that she/he is a dev. It depends on the situation and circumstances of their interaction or connection.
I would imagine that in meeting a PWD and connecting over whatever it is, a casual connection could happen and then I just go from there. I don't think I need to walk around telling every PWD that I am a dev.
I feel the disclosure of being a dev is so intimate, private, and personal, it would possibly take a long time to actually tell a PWD with whom one is just friends. It is not something explained very factual, it goes so much deeper for some and is more of an emotion, attraction, or fetish than just a fact. It also depends on the PWD.
In a romantic relationship with a PWD of course it is different. Then the topic "dev" should probably come up sooner than later.
Just as an example for me right now is the situation I have at the gym where I see this attractive wheeler and I can't get enough of it.
In an ideal world we would connect more personal eventually and he would already know that devs exist. But on the other hand he may have no idea and it may totally freak him out if he would find out why I'm checking him out and why I think he is awesome.
When I told my friends the other day that I smiled at him and he didn't smile back, my friend said, he may think it was a pity smile..
He may also be a guy I wouldn't even click with if I would get to know him more and again, I may not reveal I'm a dev then.
He may be super nice and open minded and we would talk about other things and I would get to know him more and maybe could eventually open up about the world of devs. It may still freak him out and he would be gone or he would be interested and would want to know more.
If in the very fantastic scenario where we would connect in romantic ways, then I probably would try to reveal that I'm a dev early on.
I guess the whole "opening up about being a dev" is not very easy, it could go very wrong and it could go right. It is difficult to know the right timing but I think here on PD we have always agreed that if it is a romantic relationship the earlier, the better.
When I interact or see PWD my question is always "I wonder if he knows about devs?" and not even so much for myself but just the fact to let PWD know we exist and we are not all creeps and perverts and that it's a good thing. But that's me in my fantasy world and in reality it so much more complicated.