*DEVS ONLY* Would you still be a dev if everyone was a PWD?

[myrrh]

Honestly, probably not. Even among disabilities, I'm most attracted to those with high variability like CP and limb differences... bodies that formed and grew in a unique way. If those features were no longer novel, I'm sure I would feel very differently about them.


Interesting question, and fun timing. This is right in line with some things that have been on my mind lately.

[lisa]

Strangely enough, I think I would still be a dev. I'm not sure what would happen to people attracted to ABs, would they race after the few remaining ABs? :D

Sometimes I feel that the world is just somehow wrong for me in that there are so many ABs in it.. I probably wouldn't know how to handle all this sexual feelings overload when I am seeing hot PWDs all the time. Maybe that would be different though, I would get used to it and not be so excited everytime it happens. But I see beauty in a disabled body and I'm sure that wouldn't change.

But as the world is full of ABs: It can be an advantage to not be distracted by hot guys all the time.

[Dani]

I don't think I would be a devotee or maybe I would be a devotee of able-bodied men or another type of man.
I think a lot of my devotee is the curiosity about the disabled man, his body, how he manages, what he feels, how he has adapted, and how the trauma has shaped him or made him the person he is. For me, it's a psychological pull more than a physical one I think.
I am just fascinated with disabled men of my type and preferred disability. So for me, it's a lot about the man being different than the general population.

I am fascinated with male legs though, so maybe I would still be a dev, I don't know. Would it just be reversed and I would be into male, functioning legs? I don't know.

[Amee]

That's a really interesting question with no easy answer for me! I'm fairly certain that my devness would be weaker, but I don't know to what degree.

I do think that part of the strong attraction comes from the PWD being different from most people. That said, it's not like everyone that's different is more attractive to me by virtue of being different. I find plenty of things attractive that are pretty mainstream. The combination of vulnerability and strength, which feels like it's a core component of my devness, would probably not be as present in an individual either, if everyone had a disability - because it does kind of cease to be a source of vulnerability if everyone has it.

I highly doubt that my devness would have developed in the way it did, had I grown up in the world you describe. If you changed the world into that today, it probably wouldn't go away immediately, but I assume it would become weaker. Whether it would go away completely eventually... I don't know. Probably not.

[ayla]

I think I would still be attracted to the same type of guy I am attracted to now.

I am more attracted to the personality of the man than his outward appearance (although looks/disability definitely matter too). I would probably still find myself attracted to the same type of specific individuals even if they were no longer elusive unicorns. So, not much would change, except there would be more of them and I would be more distracted! As lisa said — there are benefits to the status quo.😆 I really don’t know how typical straight folks (especially men) cope!

[ichbin]

This is a very interesting question to ponder over.

I am quite sure I would find them (paraplegics) just as attractive and sexy.

The drive and urge to be with them might be less?! When you have or encounter something on a regular basis it's always less "special". PWD which you really find attractive and encounter so seldom you have to even search for them are probably even more attractive than the same PWD when you are surrounded by them everywhere.

Maybe?! Just a thought.

Maybe also not.

[feelsunshine]

I guess I would still be a dev. More guys to choose from 😁
I see the point. If most of the population was disabled, it wouldn’t be as “special” anymore.
I hang around with wheelers a lot, so yes, it’s getting somewhat a picture that I’m getting used to. It’s normal to have a wheeler around, I don’t celebrate a “wheeler-spotting” anymore (at least not as much as I did before) but I still feel attracted.