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Post by dutchdev on Oct 28, 2023 15:53:33 GMT -5
I’m just super grateful for this community and I’m glad I don’t have to answer the questions that I do in the real world lol 😂 Most annoying question in the real world?
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Post by sungod on Oct 28, 2023 19:10:30 GMT -5
I’m just super grateful for this community and I’m glad I don’t have to answer the questions that I do in the real world lol 😂 Most annoying question in the real world? I was going to mention these types of questions, but they definitely don’t come up on PD. “Do you have a license for that chair?“
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Post by justnick on Oct 28, 2023 19:47:55 GMT -5
Question: “Is that thing turbocharged?“
Answer: “No, it’s not an internal combustion engine.“
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Post by loveonaroll2 on Oct 28, 2023 21:39:25 GMT -5
Hey, look it’s speedy Gonzalez!
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:33:27 GMT -5
I agree with this 100%! You don’t want to know what actually makes me tick because you want to get to know me, you just want to know if you tick my perceived boxes for criteria of whether or not you have a chance, and the second you realize you don’t, you’ll give up trying to get to know me. I completely get that a lot of guys are on here hopeful of finding a connection and respect that, but also, it’s nice yo have someone want to get to know you regardless of whether they can see a sexual connection straight away. Heck, with my ex, his disability wasn’t initially something I was into, but once we got to know each other things changed. But a lot of people aren’t willing to put in that effort without a “guaranteed reward.” 🤷🏼♀️ Exactly. I understand that people are here for different reasons and for some (maybe a lot) the sole reason is to find a partner of some sort. I, however, am here to explore the whole wide world of devness and everything adjacent to it. If it were as simple as x disability + y dev = perfect match, then we'd just post our stats and wait. Haha right? I was literally just thinking do we all want to just put our a/s/l and a list of disabilities/traits of disabilities we're into so we can weed each other out? No thanks
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:34:55 GMT -5
"Can you pass the salt?" "Will you please just text me back, I can't resist anymore?"
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:36:58 GMT -5
Ironically, the questions I'm sick and tired of answering aren’t very related to disabilities. I mean, there was a guy who I’ve talked with that insisted on asking about my devness. I said it was very unique for every woman and hard to explain but he refuted my argument and tried to prove me wrong. Look, I don’t mind discussing any psychological aspect of being a dev. On the contrary, I wish we could talk more about that because I believe it plays an important role in this attraction but that guy thought he could understand my feelings more than myself. The other thing I can’t stand is when we start chatting, asking about hobbies, life in general, when totally out of the blue the guy decides to throw a stupid question at me. Stupid a.k.a. something you’d never ask someone you just met unless you are in an online forum and protected by a nickname. A certain level of brashness comes with anonymity, I agree. And just because one dev feels a certain way, or you've talked to 100 devs who feel a certain way, doesn't mean we all feel that way!
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:38:40 GMT -5
1. Why are you a dev?
Nobody knows. Human sexuality is complicated. Why are some people gay? Some questions can't be answered.
2. Are you attracted to my disability? Seems like everyone here is into X but I'm Y, do I have a chance?
UGH. I get it, being told you're unattractive or asexual because of your disability sucks. I'm glad if this board has helped the self-esteem of some members but looking to this board for validation especially in your first post is not a healthy coping strategy.
Yesss exactly this. I'm not trying to offend you if your disability isn't my cup of tea. Actually I distinctly remember when I was a baby dev and guys would do that and I'd feel so bad saying sorry no I'm not really into Y, so I'd wind up trying to be polite and it never ended well. I'm not here to validate you, I'm here to figure myself out haha.
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:40:39 GMT -5
The devs here don't seem to ask repetitive questions. I more get tired of the "What Are You Netflixing?" and "What are you listening to?" threads. Don't get me wrong, I try to dive in on occasion just to be active, but I really don't come the PD to find out what the next best streaming show is. Rotten Tomatoes is still my go to for that. I get this too. There has to be a healthy balance though, between genuinely enjoying chatting with each other and diving into the deep/sexual stuff. I think we all come here for the dev specific stuff, but at the same time it's also about building friendships or connections for a lot of us. It's nice to have friends who know that deep/hidden side of you and also what your favourite show to binge watch is
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:41:32 GMT -5
The devs here don't seem to ask repetitive questions. I more get tired of the "What Are You Netflixing?" and "What are you listening to?" threads. Don't get me wrong, I try to dive in on occasion just to be active, but I really don't come the PD to find out what the next best streaming show is. Rotten Tomatoes is still my go to for that. Some of us are interested in finding the one dev who is down to binge the Human Centipede trilogy and then fuck while listening to crunk music remixes. See you lost me at crunk music. LOL jk
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:42:32 GMT -5
I’m just super grateful for this community and I’m glad I don’t have to answer the questions that I do in the real world lol 😂 Ha ha this makes sense too. It's probably all old news over here!
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:44:07 GMT -5
Most annoying question in the real world? I was going to mention these types of questions, but they definitely don’t come up on PD. “Do you have a license for that chair?“ Yes! My ex got these all the time, especially from old peopl. "Wow you're good at handling that," like no shit grandpa, maybe you should practice on your scooter a little more.
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Post by knicole on Oct 28, 2023 22:45:45 GMT -5
Question: “Is that thing turbocharged?“ Answer: “No, it’s not an internal combustion engine.“
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Post by lisa on Oct 29, 2023 2:15:01 GMT -5
I'm just so relieved I'm not the only dev who gets the "are you into my specific disability" questions. But I have to say that they didn't get asked so much on PD, but rather on other websites, mostly those meant for dating. So I get it, because people on there usually aren't too familiar with devs and I'm always open to answering general questions about my devness. What really bugs me are the many guys asking them when their disability is either a mental one or something so minor that this probably wouldn't be a problem to any regular woman out there. Then there are always the guys asking me if I would be into their under-average sized you know what...
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Post by ichbin on Oct 29, 2023 4:40:20 GMT -5
"so, what is it you like about paralysis?"
(But asked not generally, but in the following sense: "what do you like about me, so I can like myself more?")
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