knicole
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Post by knicole on Oct 25, 2023 23:50:30 GMT -5
Hey guys, not sure if any of you remember me, but I was on here way back in 2016 and I'm back now after 7 years. I was complaining to my bestie A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo about how there are rarely new posts on here, and so little interaction, and we were discussing how a lot of that is because PD has been around so long, and most of the people on here have been around just as long, and so every question a new dev or PWD could ask has been asked and answered multiple times. Heck, someone has probably even made a post like this one before. This thread is totally meant to be for fun (and not to call anyone out at all) but it may also be helpful for new people coming on here to read through and get a bit of an idea of what common topics are. So, what is THE question you are so sick of answering or discussing? Mine is about the dev guilt. Why do we have to feel like crap for being attracted to who or what we're attracted to? As long as we're not objectifying or perving on unsuspecting PWDs, I don't think it's any more shameful or weird than someone who likes to be choked a little or all the dudes who are into feet lol. So hit me, what are the most repeated questions and why are you sick of hearing them?  |
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Oct 26, 2023 1:11:14 GMT -5
Hey guys, not sure if any of you remember me, but I was on here way back in 2016 and I'm back now after 7 years. I was complaining to my bestie A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo about how there are rarely new posts on here, and so little interaction, and we were discussing how a lot of that is because PD has been around so long, and most of the people on here have been around just as long, and so every question a new dev or PWD could ask has been asked and answered multiple times. Heck, someone has probably even made a post like this one before. This thread is totally meant to be for fun (and not to call anyone out at all) but it may also be helpful for new people coming on here to read through and get a bit of an idea of what common topics are. So, what is THE question you are so sick of answering or discussing? Mine is about the dev guilt. Why do we have to feel like crap for being attracted to who or what we're attracted to? As long as we're not objectifying or perving on unsuspecting PWDs, I don't think it's any more shameful or weird than someone who likes to be choked a little or all the dudes who are into feet lol. So hit me, what are the most repeated questions and why are you sick of hearing them? yeah so true, it's kind of the reason why I stopped posting regularly because I kind of feel like I'd be repeating myself at this point. Granted there are new ppl on here who don't really know me but I'd be lying if I said I felt the same energy as I once did because I feel like it's all been said before. I don't really have ONE question I'm sick of hearing about. However, that said, I used to gooo super hard on the dev positivity and over the last few years I've started to wonder if I went to hard, yeh know? And again, I know that they're new devs here that might really need to that msg. But honestly, at this point my first thought would be, why would anyone want to hear me gush about devs for the 10000000 time! let alone anything else.. I guess that's what happens when you get old. fyi I joined when I was 23 y'all. hahaha. |
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Post by ayla on Oct 26, 2023 17:22:20 GMT -5
I never mind repeats of intriguing questions. However, I get annoyed by the very selfish and boring one: every version of “would you be into me?” I am happy to share my experience and what I’m into when people are just generally curious about how the whole dev thing works. Often, though, I can tell the question-asker is only curious as far as it applies to him personally. The follow-up questions/comments serve to narrow the conversation down by adding more of his own specifics, rather than expand on the concept. I understand the motivation for this question. If you’ve spent a long time believing this trait could never ever be attractive in and of itself, you’d want to reality-test that. But, it does get old. Just because one dev or another is/isn’t into your specific disability doesn’t mean much, really.
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Post by Dani on Oct 26, 2023 17:32:49 GMT -5
For me, it's the "so what turns you on about disability"...
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knicole
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Post by knicole on Oct 26, 2023 22:36:07 GMT -5
yeah so true, it's kind of the reason why I stopped posting regularly because I kind of feel like I'd be repeating myself at this point. Granted there are new ppl on here who don't really know me but I'd be lying if I said I felt the same energy as I once did because I feel like it's all been said before. I don't really have ONE question I'm sick of hearing about. However, that said, I used to gooo super hard on the dev positivity and over the last few years I've started to wonder if I went to hard, yeh know? And again, I know that they're new devs here that might really need to that msg. But honestly, at this point my first thought would be, why would anyone want to hear me gush about devs for the 10000000 time! let alone anything else.. I guess that's what happens when you get old. fyi I joined when I was 23 y'all. hahaha. Not sure if I edited this right so your quote won’t get messed up but we’ll see. It’s always nice to have the guys championing us and letting us know they’re not weirded out by us but we definitely can’t blame you if you don’t put as much razzle dazzle into it as you used to 😂 |
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Post by knicole on Oct 26, 2023 22:40:01 GMT -5
I never mind repeats of intriguing questions, but I have to say my least favorite (and common) is the very selfish one: all the variations on “would you be into me?” I am happy to share my experience and what I’m into when people are just generally curious about how the whole dev thing works. Often, though, I can tell the question-asker is only curious as far as it applies to him personally. The follow-up questions/comments serve to narrow the conversation down by adding more of his own specifics, rather than expand on the concept. I understand the motivation for this question. If you’ve spent a long time believing this trait could never ever be attractive in and of itself, you’d want to reality-rest that. But, it does get old. Just because one dev or another is/isn’t into your specific disability doesn’t mean much, really. I agree with this 100%! You don’t want to know what actually makes me tick because you want to get to know me, you just want to know if you tick my perceived boxes for criteria of whether or not you have a chance, and the second you realize you don’t, you’ll give up trying to get to know me. I completely get that a lot of guys are on here hopeful of finding a connection and respect that, but also, it’s nice yo have someone want to get to know you regardless of whether they can see a sexual connection straight away. Heck, with my ex, his disability wasn’t initially something I was into, but once we got to know each other things changed. But a lot of people aren’t willing to put in that effort without a “guaranteed reward.” 🤷🏼♀️ |
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knicole
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Post by knicole on Oct 26, 2023 22:42:47 GMT -5
For me, it's the "so what turns you on about disability"... Totally! I feel like I’m not even 100% sure of that myself, let alone having to try and answer it over and over. Another thing I was thinking of today is how it’s often assumed that just because we’re into quads for example, that means that we’re attracted to any quad. Like there are still other factors that affect whether you’re into someone. |
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Post by ayla on Oct 27, 2023 14:15:46 GMT -5
I never mind repeats of intriguing questions, but I have to say my least favorite (and common) is the very selfish one: all the variations on “would you be into me?” I am happy to share my experience and what I’m into when people are just generally curious about how the whole dev thing works. Often, though, I can tell the question-asker is only curious as far as it applies to him personally. The follow-up questions/comments serve to narrow the conversation down by adding more of his own specifics, rather than expand on the concept. I understand the motivation for this question. If you’ve spent a long time believing this trait could never ever be attractive in and of itself, you’d want to reality-rest that. But, it does get old. Just because one dev or another is/isn’t into your specific disability doesn’t mean much, really. I agree with this 100%! You don’t want to know what actually makes me tick because you want to get to know me, you just want to know if you tick my perceived boxes for criteria of whether or not you have a chance, and the second you realize you don’t, you’ll give up trying to get to know me. I completely get that a lot of guys are on here hopeful of finding a connection and respect that, but also, it’s nice yo have someone want to get to know you regardless of whether they can see a sexual connection straight away. Heck, with my ex, his disability wasn’t initially something I was into, but once we got to know each other things changed. But a lot of people aren’t willing to put in that effort without a “guaranteed reward.” 🤷🏼♀️ Exactly. I understand that people are here for different reasons and for some (maybe a lot) the sole reason is to find a partner of some sort. I, however, am here to explore the whole wide world of devness and everything adjacent to it. If it were as simple as x disability + y dev = perfect match, then we'd just post our stats and wait. |
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Post by MotorcycleCrash on Oct 27, 2023 14:30:19 GMT -5
"Can you pass the salt?"
"Will you please just text me back, I can't resist anymore?"
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Post by devogirl on Oct 28, 2023 1:26:28 GMT -5
1. Why are you a dev?
Nobody knows. Human sexuality is complicated. Why are some people gay? Some questions can't be answered.
2. Are you attracted to my disability? Seems like everyone here is into X but I'm Y, do I have a chance?
UGH. I get it, being told you're unattractive or asexual because of your disability sucks. I'm glad if this board has helped the self-esteem of some members but looking to this board for validation especially in your first post is not a healthy coping strategy.
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Post by dutchdev on Oct 28, 2023 10:52:06 GMT -5
"Can you pass the salt?" "Will you please just text me back, I can't resist anymore?" This made someone near me ask why I laughed. |
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Post by sungod on Oct 28, 2023 12:51:35 GMT -5
The devs here don't seem to ask repetitive questions. I more get tired of the "What Are You Netflixing?" and "What are you listening to?" threads. Don't get me wrong, I try to dive in on occasion just to be active, but I really don't come the PD to find out what the next best streaming show is. Rotten Tomatoes is still my go to for that.
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Post by someonerandom on Oct 28, 2023 14:31:03 GMT -5
The devs here don't seem to ask repetitive questions. I more get tired of the "What Are You Netflixing?" and "What are you listening to?" threads. Don't get me wrong, I try to dive in on occasion just to be active, but I really don't come the PD to find out what the next best streaming show is. Rotten Tomatoes is still my go to for that. Some of us are interested in finding the one dev who is down to binge the Human Centipede trilogy and then fuck while listening to crunk music remixes. |
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Post by sungod on Oct 28, 2023 14:42:44 GMT -5
The devs here don't seem to ask repetitive questions. I more get tired of the "What Are You Netflixing?" and "What are you listening to?" threads. Don't get me wrong, I try to dive in on occasion just to be active, but I really don't come the PD to find out what the next best streaming show is. Rotten Tomatoes is still my go to for that. Some of us are interested in finding the one dev who is down to binge the Human Centipede trilogy and then fuck while listening to crunk music remixes. That’s fair. I hope you find what you’re looking for. |
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Post by loveonaroll2 on Oct 28, 2023 15:26:11 GMT -5
I’m just super grateful for this community and I’m glad I don’t have to answer the questions that I do in the real world lol 😂
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