Post by jakeonwheels on Apr 13, 2024 16:57:50 GMT -5
Hello, I’m Jake, he/him/his
I am trans and started transitioning when I was 18, I’m 37 now and being trans is basically an afterthought now.
I recently figured out I am Autistic which explains A LOT of things- including relationships, so I am learning to live with that now as the reason I found out was that the behaviors and symptoms were starting to emerge more. Sometimes I need a friend or partner to take charge and make decisions or get me somewhere quiet if I’m getting overwhelmed or headed to a shut down, but usually the quiet comfort of a loved one is enough to bring me back.
Since 7th grade I have been using crutches, canes and wheelchairs depending on the severity of my mobility impairment at the time. My disability is dynamic- sometimes I can walk about a block unaided most of the time I need elbow crutches and walk a little crooked or use my wheelchair.
I had surgery on my back last year to see if it would help me walk better and it did a little bit but I reinjured it and now I think we’re back to square one.
My legs and arms tremble and shake, my face has little twitches, I have intense interest in Star Wars and toys and Lego, but the super bonus of dating me is that that level of interest also extends to my partners and friends. I will always do my best by you and look for things that will make you smile and hold you and support you emotionally. I’m so good at that.
Most of my time is spent resting but I want to do more things. It’s hard for me to leave the house alone and I wish for a partner who wants to help me see things, and travel. I just found a disabled travel agency that helps you with everything you need to have an accessible trip including being on call in case your wheelchair van doesn’t show up or something. I never thought I’d be able to travel! I would really love someone I love to go with.
I have chronic pain and often fatigue, so sometimes you may think I’m checked out but I’m paying attention I’m just in battery saver mode.
I have a power chair bc I like to hold hands while walking and it keeps me from getting too tired but I have a manual for the house and short outings. Just depends on how I’m feeling that day.
What matters to me most is kindness and authenticity. Do you yearn for equality and justice? Do you lend a hand to those struggling? Do you use your power and privilege to shield those who don’t have it? Do you like to belly laugh over silly jokes? Will you find my tics and head bobbing and echolalia cute bc I can’t stop, lol.
My biggest fantasy is to be with someone who loves all the parts of me, the nerd part, the part that needs love comfort and affection bc I’m suffering quite a lot of the time, the part that wants to learn more skills to be more independent. Someone who encourages me without coercing. Someone who will come behind my chair, wrap their arms around me and kiss my hair.
And this is really vulnerable but I need help with body care sometimes. I can’t shave the parts that need shaving and most of the time I can’t bend enough to wash my legs and feet and I need help with that.
I don’t necessarily want my partner to my caregiver but caregiving happens when you’re around disabled people, it just does.
I was scared of devs for a long time. Being trans and Asian I’ve been fetishized in ways that felt really bad to me and left me feeling used and gross. And I was afraid for this to happen around disability too.
But I have changed my thinking on people who are attracted to me bc of those things, I *want* my partner to be attracted to all of me. I just want to be treated like a real person with feelings and that’s not something I’ve had a ton of in my dating life.
I’m a youthful 37, maybe it’s the tism or maybe I just don’t care to give up the things that give me joy like stuffed animals, Lego and Star Wars stuff.
This is dorky but my biggest dream is to be a life partner, preferably a husband. I’ve always wanted it.
It’s heartbreaking that I can’t seem to make it work. But if I’m being honest they didn’t want it to work bc they wanted an out from being with a disabled persons support needs.
I don’t think I can start a dm but I can receive them.
Extra special super points for being in the Long Beach, Los Angeles, or Orange County area.
Even if all you’re wanting is a friend or chat buddy I would like too.
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Being told I’m attractive is also always appreciated, lol.
I am trans and started transitioning when I was 18, I’m 37 now and being trans is basically an afterthought now.
I recently figured out I am Autistic which explains A LOT of things- including relationships, so I am learning to live with that now as the reason I found out was that the behaviors and symptoms were starting to emerge more. Sometimes I need a friend or partner to take charge and make decisions or get me somewhere quiet if I’m getting overwhelmed or headed to a shut down, but usually the quiet comfort of a loved one is enough to bring me back.
Since 7th grade I have been using crutches, canes and wheelchairs depending on the severity of my mobility impairment at the time. My disability is dynamic- sometimes I can walk about a block unaided most of the time I need elbow crutches and walk a little crooked or use my wheelchair.
I had surgery on my back last year to see if it would help me walk better and it did a little bit but I reinjured it and now I think we’re back to square one.
My legs and arms tremble and shake, my face has little twitches, I have intense interest in Star Wars and toys and Lego, but the super bonus of dating me is that that level of interest also extends to my partners and friends. I will always do my best by you and look for things that will make you smile and hold you and support you emotionally. I’m so good at that.
Most of my time is spent resting but I want to do more things. It’s hard for me to leave the house alone and I wish for a partner who wants to help me see things, and travel. I just found a disabled travel agency that helps you with everything you need to have an accessible trip including being on call in case your wheelchair van doesn’t show up or something. I never thought I’d be able to travel! I would really love someone I love to go with.
I have chronic pain and often fatigue, so sometimes you may think I’m checked out but I’m paying attention I’m just in battery saver mode.
I have a power chair bc I like to hold hands while walking and it keeps me from getting too tired but I have a manual for the house and short outings. Just depends on how I’m feeling that day.
What matters to me most is kindness and authenticity. Do you yearn for equality and justice? Do you lend a hand to those struggling? Do you use your power and privilege to shield those who don’t have it? Do you like to belly laugh over silly jokes? Will you find my tics and head bobbing and echolalia cute bc I can’t stop, lol.
My biggest fantasy is to be with someone who loves all the parts of me, the nerd part, the part that needs love comfort and affection bc I’m suffering quite a lot of the time, the part that wants to learn more skills to be more independent. Someone who encourages me without coercing. Someone who will come behind my chair, wrap their arms around me and kiss my hair.
And this is really vulnerable but I need help with body care sometimes. I can’t shave the parts that need shaving and most of the time I can’t bend enough to wash my legs and feet and I need help with that.
I don’t necessarily want my partner to my caregiver but caregiving happens when you’re around disabled people, it just does.
I was scared of devs for a long time. Being trans and Asian I’ve been fetishized in ways that felt really bad to me and left me feeling used and gross. And I was afraid for this to happen around disability too.
But I have changed my thinking on people who are attracted to me bc of those things, I *want* my partner to be attracted to all of me. I just want to be treated like a real person with feelings and that’s not something I’ve had a ton of in my dating life.
I’m a youthful 37, maybe it’s the tism or maybe I just don’t care to give up the things that give me joy like stuffed animals, Lego and Star Wars stuff.
This is dorky but my biggest dream is to be a life partner, preferably a husband. I’ve always wanted it.
It’s heartbreaking that I can’t seem to make it work. But if I’m being honest they didn’t want it to work bc they wanted an out from being with a disabled persons support needs.
I don’t think I can start a dm but I can receive them.
Extra special super points for being in the Long Beach, Los Angeles, or Orange County area.
Even if all you’re wanting is a friend or chat buddy I would like too.
m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid0252PkUABrwNgettCRabtmfdERq6zEpZSR4Y5ZiPJowL7TDtSBnCDewgn6ehxozS8ml&id=10402677&mibextid=cr9u03
Being told I’m attractive is also always appreciated, lol.
