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Post by Triassic on Sept 19, 2008 8:30:04 GMT -5
something scarlett recently wrote about being 'creeped out' got me thinking...
what guy behavior, guy looks, guy attitudes, etc, anything, Creeps You Out? what is it about some guys that fills you with that queesy sensation of unease, disgust, discomfort, and maybe even a bit of hilarity and pity? just what defines a Creepy Guy?
i'm really curious about this. i have some surmises, but i want to hear from the ladies, those who are the objects of Creep attention.
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Post by §cαrL£t on Sept 19, 2008 10:24:00 GMT -5
I know what fills me with hilarity and pity.
Once I cut off communication with a guy after we went out once, without a proper "look, this was fun, but I'm not really interested" or such. Mean of me, I know.
This guy continued to call me a few times a week for MONTHS. I never picked up. He would leave messages saying "Hi, it's -----, call me."
Did he not realize that I didn't want to speak to him? It seems he was just lacking some sort of social understanding chip.
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Post by BA on Sept 19, 2008 18:46:50 GMT -5
What creeps me out is basically any behavior that smacks of lack of social skills and/or psychopathology. This includes: the need to be lewd, before any sort of comfort level is even reached - inability to back off (this includes all forms of possessiveness, stalking behaviors and at the less extreme, inability to end a conversation). Finally, I guess what creeps me out is any sense I get of 'desperation' on the part of a guy.
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Post by dolly on Sept 19, 2008 20:20:54 GMT -5
apart from the physical hallmarks of creepiness (beady eyes, sleezy appearance, unclean, etc.), i think there is usually some sort of social disconnect going on. like looking at me for too long or with wildly darting eyes, inappropriate or uncomfortable comments. as AB mentioned... the inability to wrap up a conversation is a good example. also standing too close or lingering too long. and any attempt at touching if i don't know you.
a pet peeve of mine is men who walk really close behind me on a dark street when other people aren't around. that's both creepy and being a jerk.
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Post by Claire on Sept 19, 2008 20:34:09 GMT -5
Yup, what AB and dolly said: sleazy appearance, social disconnect, inability to back off. That's creepiness for me.
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Post by Claire on Sept 22, 2008 5:24:30 GMT -5
Oh, ugh, I met this guy yesterday. Following me around, "wildly darting eyes", blurting out *really* direct questions inappropriately. Didn't have the sleazy appearance though.
So, Tri, what are your surmises?
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Post by Triassic on Sept 22, 2008 7:17:06 GMT -5
well claire, pretty much what you all have noted; which really amounts to Severe Lack Of Social Skills. somewhere, somehow, these guys somehow failed to develop the ability to read and respond to other's behavioural cues. i'd geuss that for some it's due to being raised in a dysfunctional family situation. others tho' are probably more-or-less psychos. not necessarily dangerous, but leaning in that direction. as per your own experiences claire, A WHOLE LOT of m,ale devs seem creepy.
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Post by Ouch on Sept 22, 2008 12:09:00 GMT -5
Actually, I think the dysfunction within my family has made me better with social skills and relationships, it sorta' shows ya' what to avoid...
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