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Post by MindOut on Sept 21, 2008 14:45:38 GMT -5
I'm just curious, many devs stated they been with a wheeler before and their devness dies down. Does it die down because the other stuff that comes with the disability?
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Post by BA on Sept 21, 2008 18:11:04 GMT -5
Great question MindOut. I am sure everyone who has been with a wheeler(s) has had their own experiences. In my case it totally depended on the relationship as a whole. In one particular relationship, there were certain aspects of my devness that died down while I was in it (specifically the 'longing') because it was being satisfied. I would call that a feeling of being satiated more than a dying down. In a different relationship, which was not as good (in fact it was downright awful), the feeling of devness died down because this particular person was just really turning me off. It is such a complex thing MindOut. It really does depend on the person you are with and how well you 'work' together. I guess, just like any other type of chemistry.
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Post by MindOut on Sept 22, 2008 16:13:38 GMT -5
Don’t mention Chemistry please  I am currently taking a Chem class and the teacher is a jerk. Back to the topic, I guess everyone is different. But does the person's attitude kill your devness or the extra baggage comes with the disability? |
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Post by BA on Sept 22, 2008 16:48:22 GMT -5
For me, the attitude of the person.
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Post by faith on Sept 23, 2008 0:26:53 GMT -5
I think baggage is part of the draw.
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Post by §cαrL£t on Sept 23, 2008 0:29:03 GMT -5
I agree with Faith.
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Post by MindOut on Sept 23, 2008 15:39:39 GMT -5
I think baggage is part of the draw. sorry long day in school today, I'm so brain dead. what you mean by its a draw? |
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Post by dolly on Sept 23, 2008 20:21:47 GMT -5
like AB said, for me it's more that the dev thing has kind of evaporated and become rather nonexistent whenever i've had a wheeler in my life because that need is being satiated. it's not that i don't still like what i like, it's more that the itch is being scratched, i guess. no need for other outside dev-style stimulation because i have what i need. at that point it's just about liking someone for who they are. all the dev stuff doesn't matter because it's been taken care of.
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i'm pretty sure what faith and scarlett meant by "draw" is that, for them, it's part of the attraction.
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Post by faith on Sept 23, 2008 23:57:13 GMT -5
Mind- Yes, part of the attraction... the interest... the package. Alluring in such a way that nothing else can match it.
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Post by Ouch on Sept 24, 2008 0:07:49 GMT -5
...interesting that in some cases, the 'baggage' can be part of the pull...I can see how that could be so, but didn't expect it to be part of the attraction.
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Post by dionisia on Sept 24, 2008 16:55:14 GMT -5
It doesn't die for me either...at all....it's actually kinda crazy how turned on i can be all the time i am with him. I have lived with him for 2, 3 month periods and the desire remains....it's not like i cannot control myself either but i do find me rather "accesible" ..and that hasn't necessarily happen with AB guys i have been with ... its pretty nice, i like feeling the sexual drive alive  ....wether it would change if we lived together for good...i dont know, but i hope it wouldnt. |
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I am currently taking a Chem class and the teacher is a jerk. Back to the topic, I guess everyone is different. But does the person's attitude kill your devness or the extra baggage comes with the disability?
....wether it would change if we lived together for good...i dont know, but i hope it wouldnt.