Post by ivyjames on Jan 7, 2014 18:00:26 GMT -5
Hey everyone! So, a couple of nights ago, I decided to tell my quadriplegic boyfriend of three years that I'm a dev. I'll start from the very beginning...(It's good stuff)
So three (four years on the 25th of this month), I went to a bar in hopes to drink myself into oblivion. All my friends were getting married, and having kids, and there I was...single. Don't get me wrong, I tried relationships with AB men. They were great guys, I just was missing something. I couldn't bring myself to settle. I wanted the real deal. That romance with the wheeler of my dreams. So, in my pitty party, I was sitting at the bar a couple of drinks in, when I almost get knocked off my bar stool. I turn around to give who ever it was a piece of my mind and there he was...absolutely adorable and in a power chair. I was so shocked that I didn't even say anything. "Ohhh shit!! I'm sorry." I was still just staring at him, and probably for a little too long. Then I mustered up some courage and took a chance. "Why don't you buy me a drink, and I'll think about forgiving you." We were there for hours just talking and joking around. The bar ended up kicking us out. He asked for my number and I happily gave it to him. He called me the next day. The rest is history.
We've been through a lot together in these past years, and I have loved every single minute of it. I really am finally in love and happy. I found the guy I can tell everything to, and the one I trust with my life. But, I didn't tell him everything. I didn't tell him that he is truly 100% perfect to me.
I found this site and thought it was time. I made dinner, with candles and all that jazz,and did the deed. "I love you, you know that right?" "Yeah of course baby, why?" "And you know that I think you're perfect right?" "Yeah...you're worrying me..." "No, no. It's not bad at all. I just need to tell you something really important about myself." "Shoot." I drank about half of my glass of wine in one gulp and went for it. "I think guys in wheelchairs are really...uhhh...attractive." "By guys you mean me right...?" "Well of course, but I mean I've always been attracted to guys in wheelchairs." "Well then I should probably tell you, I ran into you on purpose the night we met. I have an attraction for brunettes with glasses." We both had a good laugh and then he told me something I will never forget. "Ivy, I love you. Thank you for telling me. I know you love me, but I always felt like you deserved better. I want to do all the things with you that you want to, but I can't and that kills me inside. I wanted so bad to be the man that you always wanted...and you just told me I am. Thank you..." That's when he started to happy cry and it was the most beautiful moment of my life.
I just wanted to share this with all of you, and let you know that's it really is okay to feel the way we feel. I've never been happier in my relationship and I can't wait to see what the future holds for us. Thank you all for reading this, and for giving me the courage to tell him.
So three (four years on the 25th of this month), I went to a bar in hopes to drink myself into oblivion. All my friends were getting married, and having kids, and there I was...single. Don't get me wrong, I tried relationships with AB men. They were great guys, I just was missing something. I couldn't bring myself to settle. I wanted the real deal. That romance with the wheeler of my dreams. So, in my pitty party, I was sitting at the bar a couple of drinks in, when I almost get knocked off my bar stool. I turn around to give who ever it was a piece of my mind and there he was...absolutely adorable and in a power chair. I was so shocked that I didn't even say anything. "Ohhh shit!! I'm sorry." I was still just staring at him, and probably for a little too long. Then I mustered up some courage and took a chance. "Why don't you buy me a drink, and I'll think about forgiving you." We were there for hours just talking and joking around. The bar ended up kicking us out. He asked for my number and I happily gave it to him. He called me the next day. The rest is history.
We've been through a lot together in these past years, and I have loved every single minute of it. I really am finally in love and happy. I found the guy I can tell everything to, and the one I trust with my life. But, I didn't tell him everything. I didn't tell him that he is truly 100% perfect to me.
I found this site and thought it was time. I made dinner, with candles and all that jazz,and did the deed. "I love you, you know that right?" "Yeah of course baby, why?" "And you know that I think you're perfect right?" "Yeah...you're worrying me..." "No, no. It's not bad at all. I just need to tell you something really important about myself." "Shoot." I drank about half of my glass of wine in one gulp and went for it. "I think guys in wheelchairs are really...uhhh...attractive." "By guys you mean me right...?" "Well of course, but I mean I've always been attracted to guys in wheelchairs." "Well then I should probably tell you, I ran into you on purpose the night we met. I have an attraction for brunettes with glasses." We both had a good laugh and then he told me something I will never forget. "Ivy, I love you. Thank you for telling me. I know you love me, but I always felt like you deserved better. I want to do all the things with you that you want to, but I can't and that kills me inside. I wanted so bad to be the man that you always wanted...and you just told me I am. Thank you..." That's when he started to happy cry and it was the most beautiful moment of my life.
I just wanted to share this with all of you, and let you know that's it really is okay to feel the way we feel. I've never been happier in my relationship and I can't wait to see what the future holds for us. Thank you all for reading this, and for giving me the courage to tell him.
very happy for you both! Thank for sharing! 
But that's okay, I found the right guy for me anyway!