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Post by Peony on May 2, 2014 2:06:40 GMT -5
So maybe this is an odd question, but does it ever drive any of you guys nuts that you'll probably never know if you're passing a dev right by in the street, or in a bar or shop? I was mooching around at lunch time today and saw a DAK guy heading up the same street I was, and into his car. Nothing out of the ordinary, and I didn't stare, and we were both just doing regular lunch time stuff, but damn...sometimes it feels like a waste not to share it either. Not letting everyone know about my particular sexual proclivity, but just that I was checking him out for who he was, not because he looked different. I guess it's more to do with how he perceived it, especially when I didn't even turn my head, but I don't know...a high five? Thumbs up? Whatever. If the situation was reversed the wondering would be fun, but Jesus I think it would make me climb the walls sometimes. Any thoughts? And yes. I know there's been plenty of talk before about little signs or symbols...just wanted to hear what people thought about it, not their design or secret squirrel skills
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May 2, 2014 2:27:43 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2014 2:27:43 GMT -5
Nah, I'm curious now if a lady pays extra attention to me but it doesn't drive me nuts
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May 2, 2014 2:45:56 GMT -5
Post by Peony on May 2, 2014 2:45:56 GMT -5
Nah, I'm curious now if a lady pays extra attention to me but it doesn't drive me nuts Guess I'm just sexually frustrated then!
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May 2, 2014 3:06:34 GMT -5
Post by wonk on May 2, 2014 3:06:34 GMT -5
Maybe it would drive me more nuts if I knew she was there perving and was in a relationship with an AB? lol
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May 2, 2014 3:13:06 GMT -5
Post by Peony on May 2, 2014 3:13:06 GMT -5
Touché! But I wasn't perving...just appreciating
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Post by Peony on May 2, 2014 3:17:23 GMT -5
But please dear baby Jesus let this not turn into an angry discourse about why not all devs are in relationships with dis partners!
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May 2, 2014 3:21:36 GMT -5
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Post by wonk on May 2, 2014 3:21:36 GMT -5
Don't stress, it was just a p!ss-take lol BTW I am always up for being appreciated
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Post by Peony on May 2, 2014 3:24:30 GMT -5
Don't stress, it was just a p!ss-take lol BTW I am always up for being appreciated I guess I just feel like the appreciation never gets shared in day to day, real person situations. Maybe I just need to behave a little more lecherously in public, though.
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Post by lavly on May 2, 2014 6:19:18 GMT -5
Loll @ the prayer to The Lord !
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Post by Peony on May 2, 2014 6:24:52 GMT -5
And by sexually frustrated I mean insatiably curious. Completely different...
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Post by greeneyedvillan on May 2, 2014 10:37:57 GMT -5
doesn't drive me nuts, but it does pique my curiosity. I also think back to women or young ladies that seemed way into me and wonder if they were devs or had those tendencies.
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May 2, 2014 10:52:25 GMT -5
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Post by kevinzo on May 2, 2014 10:52:25 GMT -5
Finding out more about the whole Devs thing is very interesting to me. To answer your question, I would say yes, it's somewhat frustrating to think that there could be a woman In my vicinity attracted to me and I never know. Of course, that could be said for AB/AB attractions as well. I think that most people would like to know I mean isn't it flattering at least? I would say especially for PWD since those types of attractions tend to be few and far apart. Well, I can't speak for everybody but for me I don't get that type of attraction often. Feeling more unattractive than attractive can beat up one's self-esteem and confidence. Again, this is in no way exclusive to PWD. Society tends to favor more physical characteristics as attractive over others for everybody. But again, being in a more let's say "unattractive" group of society I would personally love to hear from the people that find me attractive! Heck, the people from the "attractive" group of society hear all the time how sexy they are and get hit on a lot (which I know can also be a negative to some people). So, the "attractive" society group doesn't need any more complements.. They've got plenty! Haha... hope you understand I am somewhat kidding here. But, I say, if someone is attracted to someone from that socially more so "unattractive" Group let them know in some way! Even if it can't lead to anything beyond a flattering compliment or something (because of the other person being in a relationship) Just knowing that there was an attraction goes a long way for self-esteem/confidence and making the other person's day be great!
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May 2, 2014 11:13:27 GMT -5
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Post by FlyingBert on May 2, 2014 11:13:27 GMT -5
Definitely it drives me nuts if I think of it. Althought we can use a banner to tell the world what kind of people are atracted to us (well... my wheelchair tells everyone what I am in someway lol). It's part of the magic, find somebody in the right place, in te right moment... Yeah, I'm corny
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Post by queenjane on May 2, 2014 11:15:42 GMT -5
Good question, Peony! So funny you bring this up. I had an experience last night too where I was passed by a guy in a chair while I was out with two girlfriends - rare sight. I actually stopped in my tracks right in the middle of a busy crosswalk to watch him go on his way until he was out of sight (my friends meanwhile kept walking thinking I was still at their side, it was a pretty funny moment in retrospect). Anyway, this guy was significantly older than me, otherwise I likely would have ditched my friends and ran after him, no joking.
This is a bit of a tangent but I think a lot about how hard it is for me to project my devness (though... maybe last night I did a pretty good job of it, lol). If any real opportunity to meet a wheeler ever came up in my life I know I'd be capable of approaching him and making it clear I'm attracted to him, but in a more general sense, I mean in terms of my day to day life, it's not that easy. It kind of kills me to think that people who see me out in the world probably assume that I'm into AB guys, and I can't really do anything about it. There are no dev-specific social indicators, that's something which drives me nuts.
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Post by devman1950 on May 2, 2014 13:27:02 GMT -5
Finding out more about the whole Devs thing is very interesting to me. To answer your question, I would say yes, it's somewhat frustrating to think that there could be a woman In my vicinity attracted to me and I never know. Of course, that could be said for AB/AB attractions as well. I think that most people would like to know I mean isn't it flattering at least? I would say especially for PWD since those types of attractions tend to be few and far apart. Well, I can't speak for everybody but for me I don't get that type of attraction often. Feeling more unattractive than attractive can beat up one's self-esteem and confidence. Again, this is in no way exclusive to PWD. Society tends to favor more physical characteristics as attractive over others for everybody. But again, being in a more let's say "unattractive" group of society I would personally love to hear from the people that find me attractive! Heck, the people from the "attractive" group of society hear all the time how sexy they are and get hit on a lot (which I know can also be a negative to some people). So, the "attractive" society group doesn't need any more complements.. They've got plenty! Haha... hope you understand I am somewhat kidding here. But, I say, if someone is attracted to someone from that socially more so "unattractive" Group let them know in some way! Even if it can't lead to anything beyond a flattering compliment or something (because of the other person being in a relationship) Just knowing that there was an attraction goes a long way for self-esteem/confidence and making the other person's day be great! I'm with you totally Kevin, as a gay male dev, i feel that if i see a disabled guy that i think is hot he is probably straight and if i give him a compliment i'm afraid he'll be insulted by being appreciated by someone of the same sex though. very frustrating for me as i can make a great friend for someone with no sex involved
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